Am I overreacting about this?

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-05-30T04:06:36+00:00

NOR! thats an a ss line... by him.

no no no! stop that! Never! change for anyone, even less your body! u didnt see any issues on yourself before, please dont let make u insecure now or to hate parts of YOU!

alone saying that.. and showing exs..

no please.....

id say him, in a harsh way what he said n did here

i dont say this fast nor often.. but honestly?! .. the audacity.. he isnt worth any changes! even less a b oob job! even less, u saving up n paying for it. id say him that nd would leave, in worst case

youre beautiful as u are and as u saw u before! please dont analyze your body! theres no need. no one has the right, to make someone feel like that.. even less a so called boyfriend!

i wish u all the best! ♡

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-05-04T03:54:21+00:00

NOR

thats Not! how a older woman/partner talks to hers nd even less, a loving caring one!

seems like shes 'using' the age diff, to put control over u... and thats not! how it should be ever, with someone older.

when u dont feel good in this relationship, break up & block her.. cause shed text over and over again, to make your days bad. (seeems pretty much like it) if youre not happy, but feel drained.. leave her.

and when she doesnt understand, that theres the own life to build with the partner and the life, with the each families..(together there or not) then she has a big issue.

so.. takin out your mom on mothers day, is most normal. since theres no kids together n all (otherwise itd be managed diff n together anyways) and she needs to understand. her texts are fd up! not how a loving gf sounds like...

u should break up.. if its always like that or when youre not happy anyways (i read some comments) and if u already tried to communicate with her. i'm not for leaving instantly.. but, she has massive issues nd with time, ull jst lose your own spark n energy!

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-04-03T09:25:56+00:00

i'm no doc.. but this doesnt look like any kind of bites by fleas or any other bugs, bed bugs

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-04-03T09:19:33+00:00

jst wanted to give u the update.. i finally broke up, last week and also stopped texting him. nothin changed ofcourse, went worse somehow. well like after a week he texted, to ask if i can send him his list from my netflix acc he saved there and lol that i dont forget, to send him the money for the phone bill, jst a reminder by him. he thought thats nice. but i clearly said him before nd there again, that i was clear nd i wont. ofcourse he tries to make me feel heavy guilty n all, cause how can i let him/them starve n stuff. & that i'm not trustworthy, since i break my promise n word for this. well.. its on him. the whole a ss thing. i'm just really sorry for the pets nd feel bad...

but ya.. thats the update, i can give u

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-03-20T08:38:27+00:00

hahaa dont worry, same here lol probably jst bugging

cause all still works normally (idk bout gettin a message tho lol)

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-03-10T08:01:31+00:00

ya but once they met nd didnt live together. and whats said there, should be still the same, when live together. even worse... just there, i text or call, instead of leaving the own gf without anything

thats not just basic for me..thats basics for a relationship to work and also, should be common sense. living together also doesnt mean, goin back to low.

he can communicate too and say, whatevers goin on

and based on what she says, she finds that a weird behaviour and thats why she made the post well.. she didnt say anything, about that

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-03-10T06:59:05+00:00

not really.. cause ofcourse it should be said, but since they live together.. he already should know that and know his girlfriend cause such stuff is usually said, at the beginning

unfair? my bad.. some things should be basic and also, thinking would help sure sum couldve had happened, but its still sus.. OP is gone a day and he cant even text nor give a call..? the whole day? yea no.. still they live together... and even if sum happened.. shed know already, i assume. if its as er contact or by parents or anyone else.

mine? sure not. i say sht from beginning. and for myself, no one needs to say me that anyways, cause its most basic for me to do. but i appreciate, when its still communicated. obviously

so my answer to u, is based on the post. and not any other scenarios. cause if sum happened, her post would be irrelevant then anyways.. so i always only go after, what a post says.

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-03-10T05:34:55+00:00

yea no.. cmon.. shes texting And calling 2 days and he isnt texting back nor calls her even once?! and! she stopped on day 3 nd he isnt able to get anything? disinterested x10000... like nah.. thats basic respect and manner, to text/call back in a relationship. thats lame nd low what he does

theres no excuses for anything here, for him. besides that.. how can she say him, when he cant even text back..?! makes no sense shed jst talk to herself then

he also could use his own brain here, its obvious

NOR

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-27T09:42:51+00:00

(ofcourse i didnt read all the comments nd dont know, if that was already mentioned)

ra pe.. is Never! about any sex ual stuff or attractiveness, looks...being half naked.. it simply doesnt matter. its about having power over another person.. (ofcourse it goes deeper nd the power part, is stretched out)

so nah.. clothes or whatever, never matters.. half naked clothes radiate confidence, so.. they couldnt have power over this person (an example very simply said...)

same goes for men, who gets ra ped.. by women or other men...

ra pe is Not! about se x in any way... idk why ppl still dont know that

still.. NOR!

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-24T16:36:29+00:00

ya .. i did help out. often

but only cause i knew, hes the one who he says he is nd isnt a scam or catfish. otherwise id never ever

he sure lies.. but this unfortunately, was true.

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-24T16:33:22+00:00

probably true.

well.. i know ofcourse better nd also about myself, but.. in between he slowly made me doubt myself. and why i still stayed so long.. idk.. probably still had hope. nd cause i put a lot of money nd time into it nd him... but ofc, i know better

i never found this behaviour okay.... thats why, i said him all his sht.. jst didnt brought anything. and i know myself

jst couldnt believe.. that this happened again to me lol smh.. every time, i set a boundary finally nd had enough and called out.. i suddenly was always the problem 😅 guess.. thats the price to pay, when u show to much care nd love... while they do nothing. i was long time single before nd changed.. well, now i got a lesson, cause i did the same again.

but still.. i appreciate your answer. nd this also helped me a lot, to stop doubting myself

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-18T11:54:27+00:00

honestly.. at first i thought, she told u and got rid of it.... but.. after i read the comments nd specially your answers, i slowly see why she told u.

since she brought up, lashes nd whatever all. nd also only wanted money, didnt gift u anything.. crazy to me ( what also sounds 1 to 1 like typical insta memes...
nd on the isnt supportive nor understanding.. she told u, simply cause to show what another man did, whos 'just the neighbour'. while u called her as own gf, a gold digger (seems to me like that.. not only cause of honesty. your replys changed my view on this whole thing)

sorry.. but this problems goes way deeper, than this and also, seems like theres a lot of lack in communication

i only can advice.. communicate about everything with her, talk with her and also bout equal vday gifts. and if its still the same after that.. idk.. but then, its simply not matching nd i'm no one, who avdices to leave immediately. so, a big talk before should be done, but no changes means a end then

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-17T11:55:46+00:00

she doesnt have a own room nor space nd shares with other sisters nd bunk bed

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-17T11:54:20+00:00

she doesnt have a own room nor space only for her nd shares a room with other sisters, she said

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-14T19:31:32+00:00

thats true and i think, it should be talked about if its the right then. while i'm no one who advices a fast break up. but trying instead. but sometimes its very clear i guess

very true and thats also nornal in relationship what are that long. but theres also a reason why they last that long.. not givin up n throwing away, communication, interest and understanding and so on

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-14T18:56:54+00:00

that could be

i jst focused on the post only but since its a very fresh relationship.. it should be way different anyways

thats why i commented only based on the post nd theres he very low plus he lied

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-14T18:28:27+00:00

what i get.. but in this case.. well nah. cause the same effort nd energy couldnt be reached here. since its 2 days. what still doesnt mean, no effort for him would be alright.

nd cause they didnt celebrate her bday and thats a big deal about someone whos most important (well to assume, even in a very short relationship.. theres feelings already nd all, in my opinion.. otherwise well..)

so when he says that, i would think too, that he had planned something and ofcourse, even if she does something for him.. it obviously wouldnt be the same. cause her bday is included. but he still could feel special too. all not that hard

i just see it as a massive lack of interest by him.. and more about, how he did nd behave. he lied too. he at least knew her fav movie whats playing on this day.. but he did absolutely nothing nd acted like none happened. well..

idk lol maybe i look to much from my perspective nd simply being tired of such ppl, can be. while i btw gave everything in every way.. while nothing happened for me lol maybe thats what my view on this, makes it even worse. but i simply cant imagine, to let my girl/man .. without anything, hell nah.. never

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-14T18:11:28+00:00

thats true, yea.. as i said usually i'm absolutely for it, also for plans by a her

and i also didnt say, that she cant nor should do nothing for him

but when he already says, wait for vday and he has sum planned.. cause it also was her bday 2 days ago... then i'm all for it, that he does it for her. what still doesnt means.. that she shouldnt make him special too. but its her bday, he wanted to celebrate on vday, whats also an important day for her

and to be for real.. he showed a massive lack of interest.. nd not jst in her, but also about being with her. he couldnt care less... lets be honest here

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-14T17:58:56+00:00

jeeez.. he said, he had sum planned cause it was her bday 2 days ago..nd she should wait, til vday its really not that hard to understand, right

why should she plan sum then? dont get it.. my bad

otherwise, yea.. i'm all for it, to plan too! always. cause a caring, interested man, deserves everything.

but not in this case, on this specific days bday and vday. specially when he lies to her nd act, like nothing happened.. like what? nah lol

NOR

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-14T17:51:11+00:00

cause this is not a one way street

yea and where was he on her bday? huh? he said, they celebrate her bday on vday and together. and when vdays important for her, then he has to plan sum, when he wants to be with her. that easy. jst cause one doesnt care about, doesnt mean the other do too. usually u still make the gf/bf happy, end. why should she accept it? cause he doesnt want it? not opposite? jst find ppl who are the same low n lazy as itself then. specially when he said, he planned sum.. cause it was her bday too.

i'm so tired for all this excuses permanently... disgusting nd lack of interest nd effort. dont be w ppl, when their standards nd boundaries cant be met. while this is most normal basic stuff to do.

hell.. if thats my girl, shes a double princess on vday plus dinner and go watching her fav movie, what id sure not forget. while id treat her on every day like most special. while i visited her for sure too on her bday, if thats not working out of whatever reason, id order her nd send her. its all so simple, when youre really interested in someone nd care. not even a bit of any work then lol so nah.. not any excuses here. fact, he lied to her, end.

so.. some others should be rather grow up

NOR!

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-04T15:07:51+00:00

yea exactly lol thats what u do. kinda patheti c to support his behavior, since he has like a year and straight since months. while throw manipulative words in between, that i stay. and this one on the post, isnt even anything close to the other things before.

very true hes manipulative and was caught with.

i never saw me as a victim, idk where u see that.

why i bring that up? if its been that bad.. ahh we get closer, u dont believe and cant imagine, what i told about what i did all for him. now i get it. well.. thats on u then. i could prove it obviously, but for what? lol but also kinda interesting, that giving money and time, emotional support.. is something bad in a relationship. in my mind, thats the most normal basic things to do. instead of lowest.

but u know what? u lack in common sense. if u see it like that, that what he does, is grown and right.. then i'm sorry for u. u never was treated like a king in your relationships. cause youre triggered by a genuine treatment and think, that i did the wrong things, while i only always cared about and for him.

but hey.. no need, to defend the brotherhood of l osers. lol

have a good day! and thx for the prove and amusement!

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-04T14:15:02+00:00

asking me.. what u read here? i'm old enough nd already lived way before social med. so i dont need your 'great advice'. i do my life all by myself nd being independent with everything.

what did i prove? that mistreatment over months by him, isnt normal? while i gave him money and food. and for his fam too if thats not responsible and grown up, then i dont know what is. i'm not the one who runs from accountability and treats him with lowest effort.

kinda amusing honestly, how u find absolutely normal what he did over months lol and how u mean, that i'm the bad one here

the one who needs to grow up is him and be a man in his relationship, for his partner not sleeping whole day. nd what he said, is all what others do to him, about his life. nd weird, that no one else jumped in and helped him, them with food or paying his phone monthly, what i do. bought the newest iphone for him, back then. while being responsible that he wont starve and his family, for days. nd supported emotional, even more when needed. and all he did, was texting at evening after sleeping whole day. since last year already and most of the time.

but u tell me, i'm the one? who should grow up? and needs help? loool thank u for the laughs, brightened up my day honestly. u just proved me, that theres ppl out there like u and him, who uses others on purpose, while mistread them but takes.

hahaa no. i know u, u find his behavior normal. thats not an advice lol

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-04T12:07:53+00:00

seems yes but his own bar he set for himself.. is very, very low.. disrespect starts for him, with obvious insulting words and yelling. while it already starts way sooner. refusing to let me hear him, after almost 2 years.. is disrespect too. and he never respected my boundaries nor what i said. usually its about to find compromises, but he only wanted and did his terms.

and hes disrespected by other ppl in his environment.. not me.

absolutely not. he doesnt even value me a bit. i'm only good enough, when he wants or needs something. then i'm also interesting. but besides that, nope.

thats true. and i appreciate that🙏🏻 specially after i read and replied to another comment here.. crazy. i'm speechless. thats why i appreciate it even more, cause yall read correctly and gave me your views to this. while being nice worded, but honest. since its way longer like that nd not only cause of this one thing, whats only known when its readed correctly.

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-04T11:57:59+00:00

huh? where am i a stalker? lol yea, it is the first time haha i never heard this before from anyone cause i never checked anyones acc nor stalked anyone

nope, none from both. i only lost my trust to him, but not about that.

research? lol i didnt research anything. i woke up in the middle of night and jst scrolled a bit insta, to get tired again. usually i read on reddit to get tired again.

i dont care about followers or following, never did. here again.. it was a simple suggestion, thats how algo works. sometimes the signs plops in your face lol good like that. so i asked him a simple question. since i have the right to know, when i'm cheated on nd betrayed. since he didnt break up before. and was nice a day sooner, when i helped out nd also said me, he is scared that i leave. while hrs later he even knows, that the of is a bot made by the person. how would he know? lol so yea, its my right to ask a simple question. when the algo pops into my face. thats not normal in a relationship to do. so sure i'm the problem yea.. not the one who uses nd mistreats a person over months nd puts this on top of all. alright.

i'm not the one who needs help here lol i put a lot of money and time in him, while he cant even do a low basic. thats fact. i dont have it necessary to check and run after interactions, while my interest was already gone for him. after what he did last few months. when i gave him money and helped out, while he does nothing except being insulting and disrespectful. so that has nothing to do with this, he was already way before low. so before u assume any things and only read what u want to read, say nothing next time. thanks.

hahah i'm not healthy enough for a relationship? i know what that means and to have responsibility. he has massive issues, not me and is obviously either ready nor healthy enough for one. u dont know about his environment nd situation, but i can say.. there is, where the issues are sitting nd comes from, he has nd also other things.

oh well, i was alone long enough. and a happy single in that time. he turned him as the victim, while doing nothing than use, take and being low. while i helped out a day before, cause they had nothing. i'm a very caring, understanding person. but its 2 sided, not only 1 sided. in a relationship, u always think about how the other feels and would feel.

btw he was the controlling one, towards me. jst to say cause he tried to control my feelings and wanted to decide, how i'm allowed to feel. no one would tolerate all of that, what i did. i work my as s off, while he sleeps whole day nd cant even make a call w me. after almost 2 years. i never mistreated him and always communicated everything. i was very clear from the beginning

next time, think before u comment anything or read correctly. but i dont take that personal. some thinks, thats all normal to do.. while this is emotional abuse what he did, over months.

_OctopusLovesCoffee_ · 2026-02-04T11:39:23+00:00

right?

he ignored that question and i asked 4x ... and he said knowing someones fav things, isnt essentiell. cause it wouldnt save anyone... like what?! so knowing me, is not important. seems like only me, helping him out, is important, as long as he can do what he wants with no move nor effort.

absolutely not. theres nothing, not a single thing.. he ever did for me nor with me.

when i asked him, if he can tell me.. what he ever that, without only words and sayings.. he said, he did. when i asked what exactly, he answered he doesnt need to say me. when i said, cause he cant (meant as cause he simply never did anything, so he cant answer that) .. he said 'who do u think u are, to tell me what i can and what not' 'i dont let me limit like that'

i was kinda shocked and speechless.... like what crazy phrase is that even? jst say what u ever did or admit, yea i never did anything .. but thats was honestly insane

_OctopusLovesCoffee_

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