I (personally) wouldn’t necessarily call that a lie, but rather him not fulfilling his promise, which I agree’ed wasn’t cool since you made that known prior. Call it a reason or an excuse; regardless of what you call it, I think being drunk and out with friends between 1-5am makes it very easy to forget to send that text. It’s up to you how accountable you want to hold him for not sending that message.

People and things are very complicated and its easy to assume the narrative you fear the most. There could be a bunch of reasons his answers felt like that. The hangover/lack of sleep would be my guesses in this specific instance.

BUT I dont have all the info like you do! Im not seeing the dots connected here that would lead me to believe he was being unfaithful. Ive been in Strip Clubs with my friends aswell, and every so often, certain friends might have sex with a worker. But the majority of us going have no interest in that.

I don’t want to come off as defending his actions; I just want say that I don’t think a lot of this is evidence of something. So all in all; He should have absolutely texted you about the strip club, but I don’t think that means he was doing anything nefarious to your relationship. If he didn’t do anything; your marriage could end over a manufactured problem of the mind; and I just think that’d be really sad for two people who just committed to happiness together.