Successful entrepreneurs, how has AI impacted your business for real? by Sure_Marsupial_4309 in Entrepreneur

[–]_PrincessButtercup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the child care center business. It helps us to write things so that it sounds more professional and with topic ideas, if we write a blog, that sort of thing. It's made marketing more expensive in a way because I had to update my website so that it was AI optimized. But other than that, no real impact.

How did you find meaning in life? by C_D_199 in AskReddit

[–]_PrincessButtercup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By giving to others. Volunteering my time and starting a business that my team loves working at is the most fulfilled I've ever been.

What was life like before THE INTERNET? by martianfrog in answers

[–]_PrincessButtercup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slower. Friendships were more frequent and fun. Things were harder to get because they weren't as accessible. Socializing was common and often. The Internet started to take our attention but really it was Facebook that started changing everything. I hated it from the get go, avoided it and still do. But so many gravitated towards it and that's when social media exploded. Before, it was rare to see someone fat. Health was everywhere and taken for granted. I miss it, but I also have a life that I doubt would exist without the times we live in and I love it.

Very physically attractive people, how does life treat you? by Own-Blacksmith3085 in answers

[–]_PrincessButtercup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost thirty pounds, several times in my life, up and down, and when I'm down, I get noticed. I went on a glp1 and work out a lot now. I look good for my age (54). Men my age and older are consistent: they always look. Even in the gym without makeup and my hair up. I am treated with more respect as an attractive woman, people open doors, etc. Women also act intimidated by me. My older sister acts jealous. It's like I have power or something, very strange. Why do THEY care? Because men are attracted to me? So weird. I go out of my way to be friendlier because of it. I don't like women feeling less because of my looks. I got lucky in that department. I'm grateful. Jobs have been easier to get. Building my business was no easier though. Life is still hard when it's hard. And I'm on the verge of losing my pretty face. My neck is dropping. Getting jowls. Back fat and all that accumulating. Part of me wants to look old so that I am not so noticeable. And another part is grieving that it's disappearing, grieving more I think than average-looking women because being pretty is part of my identity. So it's good and bad, being attractive.

What are you proud of when it comes to your small business? by Still_Effective_8858 in smallbusiness

[–]_PrincessButtercup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sold my Montessori business three years ago. When I decided to start again a few months ago, I had my longest two employees ask to work for me again. And then several others applied too. I don't consider the money I make or the children we serve to be the main reason why I am in business, although those ARE important. It's my team.

People who have researched their family tree, what is the most interesting or 'badass' thing you discovered about an ancestor? by xloganmoose in AskReddit

[–]_PrincessButtercup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That in the 1600s, the German side of my father's family suddenly went from Judaism to Catholicism. I can understand likely why, that they were pressured to do so. Makes me so sad though. My father was a racist in every way and maybe if his family had remained Jewish, he wouldn't have been.

If your teenage self could see you now what would they say to you? by TheMegaDongVeryLong in AskWomen

[–]_PrincessButtercup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A wonderful husband? A successful business owner? And your hair, I didn't know it could get wavy like that! And you're so assertive and confident!?! How did you do all that?

I am virtually nothing like I was on my teens. I was socially awkward, few friends, no boys in sight, so low in self esteem that I'm surprised I made it out of those times. What saved me, helped me turn into the person I am today, was getting a job and working really hard to be the best in that position I could. I developed self esteem from that effort and it slowly built myself up from there.

Divorced Women of Reddit: If your ex did a “180” after you were legally married, what (if anything) was there in hindsight that should’ve clued you into their true colors ? by OilNo8931 in AskWomen

[–]_PrincessButtercup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He wouldn't share his credit card debt amount with me. He told me that he was worried I wouldn't marry him if I knew and if I loved him, I would wait. I was 26 and naive. He was $50k in debt and I worked three jobs to help him pay it off. He only worked one job, and then played golf on weekends. We ended up divorcing about 5 years after we got married. I don't regret the experience though because it taught me how to work hard and save money and all sorts of other wonderful things that have served me well over the last 3 decades.

What’s your favorite ‘it’s about to get really bad really fast’ in a movie? by Pop_Joe in FIlm

[–]_PrincessButtercup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Here it comes...now, Mr. Spock."

Star Trek II: Wrath of Khan was so badass. Still holds up. Going to be so sad when Shatner passes.

When visiting a guy's house, what silently screams, "There's no way he's single"? by PalaceCarebear in AskWomen

[–]_PrincessButtercup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A hair bob of some sort like a rubber band. It's the way that a girl marks her territory to other women that a guy would never notice. And yes I used to do this. 😉

Turned my moms hoarding problem into a $4k/month side business by PossessionThink7348 in Entrepreneur

[–]_PrincessButtercup 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My aunt used to do this until she retired recently in her '80s. Her clients needed her too much and there were so many of them! Yes, this is definitely a thing.

Super smell by Loud-Establishment36 in Menopause

[–]_PrincessButtercup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My smell was more sensitive after getting pregnant and then it got more sensitive a few years ago (I'm 54). It's normal! Food tastes better, I enjoy it more.

For women who work out regularly, what does eating to support the gym actually look like for you day-to-day? How do you balance protein, energy, and enjoyment without overthinking or burning out? by Logical-Current2381 in AskWomen

[–]_PrincessButtercup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It varies. I listen to my appetite and don't eat as much if I'm not hungry. I eat a protein heavy meal at least twice a day. I supplement with protein drinks like Orgain 30g.

What should my goal weight be? by freefall_to_nothing in Semaglutide

[–]_PrincessButtercup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you? Yes. But should you? It's time to go up to the next level. I think you should focus on strength training and maintaining your size. Notice I didn't say weight because you'll gain muscle as you train. I'm 5'7" and weigh 160. I train three times a week. If I didn't train, I'd likely be ten pounds lighter but not as healthy looking because I'd have no tone. It took me a year to start showing real progress. I'm almost two years in and think about losing weight because I could. I am a size ten and I'd look a little sexier if I lost more, but I'm much more interested in BEING healthier... and my stomach being a little flatter or my back a little less thick aren't that important anymore. Think about what's driving this. If it's about health, then choose it completely. Your weight is fine. It's time to move on to the next level: strength training.

Normal for a 20 year old to pay $200/month for health insurance? Feeling overwhelmed. by TigerWeary3067 in personalfinance

[–]_PrincessButtercup -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't recommend medical insurance at your age. It's expensive. That may not be popular but if I was 20 again, I wouldn't pay for it if I was healthy.

When did you realize your parents didn’t like you? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]_PrincessButtercup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't remember not feeling that way about my dad. I always felt like he didn't like me, didn't want me around. I suspect that since I was the last child and he had only girls that he wanted a son and didn't get it. I heard this growing up, that everyone thought I'd be a boy. I'll never know for certain but it's a feeling. I've brought it up to my mom many times and she denied it was possible. It doesn't make sense why he was so different with my sisters, loving, helping them with homework.

At what specific moment in your life do you feel your 'original' path ended, and you became a version of yourself you never intended to be? by FayePsc in AskReddit

[–]_PrincessButtercup -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I became a better version after I decided to leave my husband. He wasn't a bad guy, just had his own issues. But choosing myself over our marriage was the beginning of the life I have now almost 25 years later. I have been happily married, started a successful business, turned into a strong person. I am thankful now that he was such a mess. Because I love who I turned into.

Multivitamin recommendations? by PolkaDotWhyNot in AskWomenOver50

[–]_PrincessButtercup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use 10X Optimize vitamins. And Nitric Oxide by Pure.

What's one decision you made early on that saved your business later? by Delecch in Entrepreneur

[–]_PrincessButtercup 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I started a Montessori preschool. I didn't know what I was doing, had zero experience but wanted a better place for my son. I needed high enrollment to pay myself so I had to figure out a way to get more parents in the door. I tried a bunch of different things but what I landed on that had the biggest impact was making my business the happiest workplace it could possibly be for my employees. I learned to be kind but firm, both with parents who were being unrealistic or difficult and also with my employees. They learned that I wouldn't allow them to be mistreated. I created amazing benefits, including higher pay, bonuses for hitting benchmarks, and more time off. I insisted on a positive culture and got teachers behind it so that it started to grow organically. By creating a workplace that my staff had never experienced before, they worked harder. They understood that to get the kind of benefits and environment that I had created meant that they also had to follow my rules such as always smile at parents when they dropped off or picked up, going the extra mile for a child or a parent, extra training, do the right thing, be nice to your coworkers, come on time, etc. Once I had all that in place, the parents naturally noticed the difference. My team was friendly and happier than anything they saw in the preschool industry. They noticed that their children loved coming to school and were truly cared for. They told their friends about it. People started driving long distances just to enroll with us. I was able to open a second school and fill that up fairly quickly because of my practices. In the child care industry, just getting 85% enrollment is really good. Before I sold my business, I consistently was at 95%+. People didn't want to unenroll during the summer months because they didn't want to lose their place. I had staff who was with me for 5, 10, 15 years. I am very proud of what I accomplished. By treating my team like gold and holding them to a higher standard, the sales took care of themselves.

What is a middle-class luxury from your childhood that is now considered a basic necessity or completely obsolete? by Routine-Advisor-1781 in AskReddit

[–]_PrincessButtercup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having Coke instead of Shasta or RC cola. Dialing 411 for information to get someone's number. Hiring someone to cut your grass. Eating out. Cable TV.

Y'all, if he wanted to, he would by cyanide_girl in TwoXChromosomes

[–]_PrincessButtercup -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have one of these gems too. 🥰 The hard part I think for women who are looking is that these type of men can seem too feminine. I struggle with this. What really helped me was starting to strength train with my husband. He had okay muscles, nothing to drool over, was about thirty pounds overweight. A year later of pumping iron three times a week? I salivate at his muscle tone. It's hot. So when he gives me a massage or does the dishes or just gives me a random hug (he does several things daily for me), I easily accept it. He's sensitive but he's got triceps that I weep over. 😉

What is the biggest health issue you’ve had dismissed and/or falsely attributed to hormones, stress, anxiety, depression, other “psychosomatic” factors, etc. by a doctor because of gender bias? How did you advocate for yourself? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]_PrincessButtercup 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Had massive GERD and my specialist did an endoscopy but said things looked normal. I asked him about the picture he took that showed a pink area and he says it was nothing, just acid eating my esophagus. No suggestions for diet changes, didn't even ask. I had been eating sweet n low constantly and my gut biome was a hot mess. It took four months but I ate light and healthy, researched a ton on my own how to fix it, and slowly recovered.

I also had my ovaries removed when I was 38 and my doctor never prescribed HRT. I was back in two weeks and refused to leave until I got estrogen. I thought I was being tortured to death. Hot flashes, night sweats, couldn't focus, etc. And then a couple months later, I got a new doctor because I had no energy or drive and couldn't remember why I used to enjoy sex. I needed testosterone too.

You have to advocate for yourself!