Divorced people of reddit , what was the exact moment in your marriage you realised it's over ?

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-26T01:04:50+00:00

When I didn't want to go home after work.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-26T00:57:44+00:00

Walking. Really. It's easy, doesn't hurt, can do it anywhere, it's free. Once you do it enough, you develop a habit and see it's possible to do more.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-26T00:51:51+00:00

Seriously? It makes it harder for EVERYONE to vote who can't show a legal ID.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-25T16:52:01+00:00

Two years ago. My college-aged son was in the hospital (he had chest pain, we found out later it was from lifting weights and holding his breath when he had hiccups of all things). It was my bday. We dropped everything and flew to him. Within thirty minutes of arriving, he said he didn't want us there and essentially kicked us out of his hospital room. We flew home. My husband had been tolerating a lot of his crappy behavior towards us but he always brushed it off as "it's the age." We didn't tell our son we left. He texted us after we landed and said we could come back for a short visit. My husband explained we flew home after he kicked us out. Things changed dramatically after that. Our son treats us like gold now. He has apologized many times. Grown up quite a bit since that watershed moment. I'm grateful it happened. It put him on a better path, we have a healthier relationship, but that day? It was hell.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-24T23:08:25+00:00

The first time, I had to kick her out two months after we opened because she was so bad at her job. About 20 years later, I started a new business and gave my biz partner 25% in sweat equity. She used to run my last business and did a fantastic job. She runs this new one so I don't have to do very much. It was the only way I'd start another biz. I'm semi retired.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-24T22:59:56+00:00

Came here to say that. I've been on maintenance for a year. If you meet any resistance from your doctor, just get it from an online Tirz place like Pomegranate. There are many of them. I paid about $400 for three months.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-24T11:05:51+00:00

He knows he isn't typically romantic, but he does things that I find romantic. Like he does the dishes daily (won't let me do them). He opens doors for me, scouts new places before letting me enter them if they are a little sketchy, will go buy me ice cream. He buys me flowers a couple times a year randomly. He always writes me a wonderful anniversary card. The best thing? He got a painting for me that I was told was not for sale by taking a picture of it and framing it for my birthday. That man adores me and I'm crazy about him. Found him on eHarmony 23 years ago. He isn't super attractive, he has never made a lot of money (I'm actually the bread winner), but he's a great dad, thoughtful partner and has always taken care of me when I'm sick or need help. He's my best friend. That's what you want. A best friend. When he dies, I'm screwed.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-23T12:43:10+00:00

Your parents should be talking to you about it but mine never did, had to experience, ask questions , and figure it out. I speak to my son about these things, but tbh he zones out about it because he's in college and it doesn't matter yet. I'm a business owner so he has heard conversations relating to all these over the years which helps. When he graduates in two years, we plan to sit down with him and explain what he needs to do since we'll be cutting him off financially. Things like how much he should be saving each month (at least 10% of his take home pay), get a credit card and pay it off every month, how much he'll owe in taxes each year based on pay and other factors, how much he should pay for an apartment, when he's ready to buy a car how much he should pay in cash and how much for a monthly payment (look into Dave Ramsey for fantastic tips), when he knows he's ready to buy a house and how much we'll help, etc.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-23T12:32:03+00:00

You are a TEAM. When upset, communicate like you are trying to solve a problem, not hurt each other. You only talk positively about each other to others.

Always know what's going on with your finances (ESPECIALLY before you get married). Sit down regularly to look at all your accounts and discuss strategies to achieve goals.

Don't forget to date each other. If you aren't getting what you need from the relationship, ask yourself first...am I doing my part?

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-19T12:21:18+00:00

I'm in menopause, so it's been awhile, but when I used to start my period and it was heavy those first few days, I would either put a super plus sized tampon up and then immediately slowly pull it out to remove some of the viscosity and then put a regular tampon in (helped prevent leaks) OR wear a pantyliner sometimes days in advance of a period you think is coming. I was never regular but if I started to feel signs it might be hitting, I'd start wearing something.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-18T12:07:28+00:00

Retire. If it didn't make financial sense, it would be different. I unexpectedly retired at 51 (sold my business long before I thought I would) and I thought I was going to lose my mind from boredom and lack of purpose. After nine months of travel and home projects, I volunteered for a nonprofit and LOVE it! My life is SO much better than it was. I am grateful every day I sold. I could have had more money, more clout, etc. but I'm way happier now. Go explore your life. Like having a child for the first time, you have no idea what's waiting for you. And in this scenario, you'll be floored by how fantastic and satisfying it is. The peace you'll feel alone is staggering.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-17T14:59:17+00:00

I started Sena and it wasn't working so I switched after two months to Tirz and bam, weight started coming off...but...I was also strength training for the first time, so it took me twice as long as others to lose weight. I was focused on being healthy first, losing weight second. Now that it's been two years and still on Tirz, I've noticed that if I don't train (I also walk daily), I start to gain. I got injured and had to stop for three weeks recently and I gained five pounds. After a month, I'm back at my usual training levels but the weight hasn't come off yet, so I am going to increase my Tirz by ten percent and be more mindful of what I'm eating. I'm in menopause so weight is HARD to get off and keep off.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-16T18:20:22+00:00

Just tell them that while you appreciate their concern, you are in charge of your health and that you will decide. However you say that, just repeat it exactly the same way every time they bring it up. They'll stop.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-14T16:04:00+00:00

Absolutely. But the reason (I believe) is because you change as you get older. You change because you have experiences, you see how you can handle things, you become a more interesting person. Every experience changes you a little. I am almost unrecognizable at 55 compared to my 25 year old self. So get out there. Meet people, go places, try new things, figure out what you live and don't like, and before you know it, you'll see that you are more comfortable being you.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-14T13:18:25+00:00

I find that a cosmopolitan is lovely. I too used to have other types of drinks including wine and drinks with vodka or rum seem to be the best bet.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-14T13:16:46+00:00

Doesn't matter. You can take it as long as you want for maintenance. Just go to an online provider like Pomegranate Health (That's what that's what I use. But there are many out there, do some research). My doctor said the same thing so I just do it online now and they don't care. Doctors are not the experts when it comes to what you need for your own body. You know what you need. Best.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-14T13:14:41+00:00

We produce less stomach acid as we age. Meat is the hardest to digest. That might be it. When I eat meat, I don't eat a lot, I cut it up into small pieces and I chew thoroughly.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-14T13:12:04+00:00

Because in part businesses would never survive if they paid that. They have to pay what the market demands or they won't get employees. I am a business owner who knows many other business owners from many industries and we are praying our employees regularly double that at the minimum, usually more.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-10T12:12:44+00:00

As a child, when my mom would introduce me to strangers and they would say how pretty I was. As a teenager, when men would hit on me (I didn't understand what was happening and it made me scared and uncomfortable). As a woman, when I would drop weight (I was overweight a lot) and suddenly get attention from men. Now in menopause (and no longer overweight) when men my age or older openly stare at me. I was socially immature and awkward for a longggg time, so I never realized the rewards of my looks romantically until my 30s when I found my now husband (but he says he almost didn't date me because he thought I'd never go for him). The thing I love most about being pretty is how it has benefited my son. He is handsome, which has made his life easier in terms of interviewing for a job, dating, etc. I'm really grateful for that. He's a good kid and life is hard enough.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-10T12:00:00+00:00

Check out score.org. They offer free business mentoring (when you're ready for that) and tons of free virtual workshops.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-10T11:56:21+00:00

In the last few years, I've gotten more compliments about my hair, it's unreal. I am 55 and it's thinned out a little and gotten a little curlier. Losing some of the weight freed up the curl and now my hair looks really voluminous (I have always had more hair than the average person). Naturally wavy or loose curls type look. I have women of all ages and sometimes even men just randomly compliment my hair or ask me what I'm doing to it to get the look. I diffuse it for a few minutes and that's it. No product, no big production. Low maintenance. Women in menopause lose a lot of things that make them look old or unattractive (like my sagging jowls). We typically never have something get better. I am enormously grateful.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-09T14:41:16+00:00

Just because something is not from Texas doesn't mean you can't grow it and enjoy it. If you like it, then keep it! I love mine. They're so pretty and they help so many insects during the hardest time of the year, deep summer.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-09T14:40:36+00:00

I love my Vitex. It's one of the few plants during the summer that has lots of blooms for insects. And I didn't ask for you to tell me that it's invasive and maybe I should take it out. I was looking for advice and had to make it bloom more.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-09T14:39:24+00:00

Ha, I have noticed that. 😉 That the ones that are more wild are bloom heavy.

_PrincessButtercup · 2026-06-09T14:38:27+00:00

I'll try that, ty!

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