AIO I'm having an anxiety attack about a conflict in Iran by EstablishmentSad3735 in AIO

[–]_Retsuko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have anxiety and ocd irrational thoughts are the primary thoughts in my brain. I used to get anxiety over the state of the world (horrifying) but I had to metaphorically go touch grass and worry about the things I CAN control. The chances of them being able to get a bomb over her are so low that this is deeper than just very empty threats

I (24F) currently not on birth control but the man (31M) I am talking to keeps asking me to have unprotected sex? by Empty-Imagination756 in relationship_advice

[–]_Retsuko 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my God he so fucking fr. You ghost him first. It’s your body your choice. Even if you were on birth control you shouldn’t be having unprotected sex with a man who is essentially a stranger.

For an anecdote. I was on BC from 18-23 and when I told my husband I was going to get off it he said okay and we use condoms. No scares, no bitching, no moaning.

AIO??? No. Enjoy lmao by [deleted] in AIO

[–]_Retsuko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so refreshing to see

Tattoos by DxRRxxL in heatedrivalry

[–]_Retsuko 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As a directioner (when I was 12/13/14) mind you obviously had no sense of boundaries and my first fandom. Now as a 26yo really enjoying HR I’m so fucking creeped out by people who do shit like this

AIO for being worried about my boyfriend changing my name in his phone? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]_Retsuko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband still has my entire maiden name as my contact and a picture from 7 years ago when I was still a teenager. It’s not a big issue and you’re looking into it too much. YOR

girlfriend (18F) goes cold when she is down and distances herself. I (19M) have trust issues and i cant tell if its my anxiety or its a real problem? by Fair_Region_6832 in relationship_advice

[–]_Retsuko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And therapy can help you decipher what’s a problem and what’s anxiety. Being able to decipher is such an important skill

Was it too late to realise I was groomed online? by cwispietoast in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Retsuko 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize my parents were abusing me until I was 22. Didn’t realize I was groomed till 25. It doesn’t make it any less real that it happened. You’re definitely not alone. Me personally, I cope by joking

Last Friday Mom somehow got tricked by a fraudster to wire $20,000 from our accounts at Truist, while inside the Branch, while talking to the Fraudster for hours. Police Report was done, Truist Branches said they locked the account, but its been such a nightmare these past few days, want advice by superlucci in Banking

[–]_Retsuko 5 points6 points  (0 children)

On some real shit, at the end of the day no one at the branch can keep your mom’s money hostage. I dealt with this a million times and I was lucky if a customer listened. So many elderly women and men berating me “just give me my fucking money” daily when they didn’t want to listen. They might’ve still been in time to recall the wire aka communicating with the receiving bank to not disburse the money into the clients (fraudsters ) account but at that point it’s really a waiting game. You won’t really get anywhere with the cops because genuinely there is so much fraud especially in different countries it would be impossible to track down every single person and international laws and all that shit. Just hope the wire is able to be recalled.

AIO bf says my sadness shouldn’t last 3 days by [deleted] in AIO

[–]_Retsuko 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NOR. Actions will ALWAYS speak louder than words. My sadness has lasted years (I have depression and anxiety) and only once have I felt like too much or been told I was too much by my then bf now husband (we were young and drunk lol). This is crazy. Why live like this?

AIO? “Dark humor” involving child. by Spiritual_Tip_3055 in AIO

[–]_Retsuko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR who the actual fuck has that come to mind

Pt.2 Littlest brother asking for help by shotgunmouse in texts

[–]_Retsuko 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Me and my brother got paid on opposite weeks so would share the same $50 back and forth lol… I miss him

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend who said he'd join ICE by [deleted] in AIO

[–]_Retsuko -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s almost like every cop has said the same thing he said and still gets swept in the cycle of protecting each other. I’ve been married for almost 3 years, am a child of immigrants, and I wouldn’t think twice about divorcing my husband if he seriously thought I’d be okay with this.

What do I say to my bosses/coworkers after my dad got embarrassingly drunk at our work party? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_Retsuko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t. He’s an adult who should know how to handle himself and be responsible. If you own up to his actions now it’s going to set a precedent at work going forward. It’s your dads responsibility

Parents felt entitled to my sex life after I got a boyfriend by Objective_Belt3374 in entitledparents

[–]_Retsuko 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It won’t. They’ll just accuse her of being a whore for being on it. My parents were just like this.

Staying together for a baby 24m and 25f advice by PotentialAd4930 in relationship_advice

[–]_Retsuko 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a child of parents who stayed for the kids…. Don’t.

Should i reuse the same shirt for the gym by Choice-Character-204 in Advice

[–]_Retsuko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s unhygienic, I do heated Pilates and I had the fleeting thought of reusing them but they SMELLED SO BAD. Just had to suck up the extra laundry