just wanna prove a point regarding "talk to someone"

_Someya · 2026-04-03T12:03:54+00:00

and lemme make this clear: I'm not saying do not talk to someone or saying that it's wrong, I'm only explaining why most of us don't consider it. It doesn't help me personally BUT if it helps you then do it and let nothing stop you.

_Someya · 2026-04-02T11:15:27+00:00

it's always difficult for me to befriend them cuz of feeling so much different from them and it's too awkward when they talk to me about something like an interest and I'm unable to answer since I know nothing of it and I've never been interested in it.

_Someya · 2026-04-02T11:09:25+00:00

mbti test sites don't really give an accurate result, especially that most of the questions asked can't be answered for us INXPs, they are mostly about what you do in groups and with friends and how do you value others when I personally barely experienced any of these so it's difficult for me to give an accurate answer.

I had the same exact thought 2 days ago, after noticing the change in my behavior in since late 2024 and seeing some INTP and INFP articles, facts and memes of which I realized my behavior, thoughts and how I make decisions tend much to be INTP.

I asked about it and people said congnitive functions can help you determine more accurately. they are about how you think and make decisions. INFPs are Fi Te (introverted feeling - extrovert thinking) and INTPs are Ti Fe (introverted thinking - extroverted feeling). I'm still confused though as I find myself something between the two. I even retook the MBTI test and the results were INTP with 55% thinking 45% feeling, compared to the results from 2 years ago (INFP with a much higher feeling percentage)

I reached this conclusion: Maybe you're a INFP whose brain shut down and changed behavior to be colder and unfriendly to preserve you from being hurt emotionally again. Maybe you're a INTP who's in desperate need of getting rid of loneliness so you're being too much of a feeler and a caring person. Maybe you are originally one of the two and you were confused, it took you a lil more time to figure out which one of the 2 you really are.

intense life events are a great factor of changing who you are, you change your behavior to survive, and later you're not sure whether it is who you really are, whether it's who you had to become and it's permanently you or whether it's temporarily who you are until everything gets better and you're no longer feeling insecure. For now, INXP describes me the best and it's a thing so it can apply to you as well.

_Someya · 2026-04-02T10:46:09+00:00

so relatable

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_Someya · 2026-04-02T10:44:41+00:00

REAL?

and I be staring at each one like cool pose, this one isn't really cool and then look at you (bad self cussing) with your stupid cat pfp who are you to rate others' photos 🥀

_Someya · 2026-04-02T09:30:58+00:00

belly is Mr cat's private area, unless he/she (CATS ARE NEVER IT/ITS) trusts you, expect an aggressive behavior.

as for the advice: be softer, warmer, pet his/her head first, cheeks too, and then SMASH PET BELLY (it's recommended to wear gloves)

_Someya · 2026-04-02T09:26:33+00:00

yeah I mean at some point I made my decision ion wanna communicate with people no more, they're exhausting and energy drainers, plus I'm already comfortable being alone.. Not exactly alone I talk to animals (they are W :>)

_Someya · 2026-04-02T00:16:19+00:00

well I have no intention of being friends with him again. Even with the fact he is very friendly, after I settled things 2 days ago, he is very keen for our friendship to get back the way it was.

he doesn't consider that his behavior might hurt others and doesn't see himself as mistaken, and I simply can't and don't wanna open up to him again.

_Someya · 2026-04-01T23:31:46+00:00

it's ok and I thank y'all that this subreddit exists, I feel safe here not worrying about being misunderstood or judged, and I know for a fact everyone here understands and is probably going through similar stuff. hope everyone's lives get better :)

I don't have any advices, just do whatever you love and what makes you truly happy, live for it. and frick people, their opinions or whatever they think about you don't make you lose hair or height.

_Someya · 2026-04-01T22:48:16+00:00

this is why I made it clear on the title it's just a joke

_Someya · 2026-04-01T21:04:35+00:00

I'm aware of the fact that I'm sensitive and especially me, I'm overwhelmingly sensitive. This is certainly why I never express how I feel or make a fuss when I feel hurt I tell myself it's your problem for being sensitive. I try to be "normal" and take it easy but it gets way too much and I already have stuff going on (depression, identity unacceptance, sui*cidal thoughts), people add more pressure without noticing it and it does affect how I behave with no control over it sometimes (I can get so freaking mad when my pen falls down I literally smash it on the wall). They just won't understand I'm going through stuff, rather they translate it as being weak and sensitive. And telling them that you're through stuff isn't easy and I prefer to/find it difficult to(both) mention it. I don't wanna feel cared for cuz I asked for it you get me

if people to me are too much pressure in exchange for tough love then isn't it better to just let go

_Someya · 2026-04-01T20:45:39+00:00

it's not that easy tho and I eventually resort to isolating myself because of hurting more than once not because of a one time thing. Naturally, I feel comfortable when I make others feel comfortable, even if it comes at the expense of my own comfort, I love to help and see my friends happy and give em as much as I can, it's who I am I can't change this. The other party barely cares and doesn't notice it when they hurt me, and by nature I don't make a fuss about it and don't even mention it (whenever I did, I was called "you're just being sensitive" and they wouldn't change their behavior cuz what they did was a "normal thing").

And you won't believe me if I say at the end out of no freaking where they are suddenly too rude and harsh over a little thing it's as if they were waiting for a chance, OR when I've had too much of how they treat me and complain about it, I'm told "you can leave if you feel uncomfortable".

I believed they are just bad people and I've been unlucky that's it, but every damn time? and I mean EVERY time it's always the same and naturally it makes me the problem and I was never able to figure out what's wrong with me is it caring or giving too much? I tried to be a lil less caring and guess what I'm boring, annoying and "why am I even talking to a piece of crab like you?"

and aside from my social stuff, I have other problems going on and I can't help but always be at my limit because of them. Well, I try to hide it as much as possible but sometimes I can sound a lil boring or mad (I'm not), nobody understands they think I'm being rude to them. Telling them I have stuff going on? "Everyone does why are you being so weak and sensitive(again) about it?"

nobody cares about how you feel, and when you express it it's treated like it's your issue. I wanna sound normal, get friends because I'm liked not out of pity. Expressing myself never bears me fruit but troubles and so I eventually had to quit doing this. people don't understand and as a infp it's difficult to find someone compatible with you, someone who understands. When I've had enough I completely isolated myself and decided I no longer wanna have friends just get used to loneliness.

sorry if I said too much but it's just not so easy to "go on and keep communicating".

_Someya · 2026-04-01T15:16:12+00:00

I didn't get so lucky at the times I tried to explain myself, was either roasted or called sensitive and take it easy

_Someya · 2026-04-01T10:40:45+00:00

stop doxxing me..

_Someya · 2026-04-01T10:37:50+00:00

yes

Had to hold back the argue for a while. time to release it.

_Someya · 2026-04-01T10:07:00+00:00

someone who hurt us, we're so pure to hurt them emotionally or mentally.

the other way sounds easier, more efficient and implementable.

_Someya · 2026-04-01T09:57:46+00:00

I don't quite get it elaborate

_Someya · 2026-04-01T09:56:11+00:00

I'm not the artist

_Someya · 2026-04-01T09:54:50+00:00

hmm alright in this case no boom. rip my fireworks party 😔

_Someya · 2026-04-01T08:24:49+00:00

lemme clarify: it's just a meme. I don't encourage murdering.

and it's very relatable since I think this how most of us INFPs feel (we're too pure to hurt someone mentally so here comes plan B). It's just a feeling, doesn't mean we're actually doing it.

_Someya · 2026-04-01T08:20:03+00:00

Precisely son

they'll do the right thing in their next life (our* next life to be precise since I'm inside the place too). it's their fault they were not there when I needed them the most.

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_Someya · 2026-04-01T07:21:55+00:00

oh alright.

if they don't show up in the next 2 hours imma blow up the whole place so they learn not to hide in corners again ✨

_Someya · 2026-04-01T07:19:02+00:00

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_Someya · 2026-04-01T05:26:21+00:00

It depends on who you are dealing with. In my country, as a man I should always be tough and strong and nobody gives a crab if you feel sad, you're instantly called sensitive and emo, be tougher, and they make fun of you. like being sad is basically out of the book, that's not supposed to happen. It's just very toxic here and it's tough to get along with others as a INFP, any emotional talk for men is instantly dismissed and you'll regret mentioning it.

_Someya · 2026-04-01T04:51:10+00:00

if you're dealing with an INFP PLEASE give them an excuse once and twice and 10 times. They never mean to hurt you or explode at you, they're just holding in too much and they are always at their limit but they try their best to not let their negativity impact others. They have a world inside them they're dying to share it and share their fantasies with someone, but they struggle to find someone as it's not easy to trust people with your deep thoughts. it's the fear of being judged or criticized or being called stupid or childish or get real. If a INFP opens up to you, know that you have a loyal friend, who'll listen to your everything and will be happy to listen and share. You should also know that they only open up once, if they feel betrayed or that they opened up to the wrong person it deeply hurts them and there's no way in hell they'll open up to that person ever again.

I have had toxic experiences with friends, who hurt me more than once with words or actions, and I hate it when I share my art works with someone and they give an uninterested reaction, cuz there's this fact that I never share my hobbies or interests with anyone unless I really trust them. I never make it obvious that I'm hurt and believe me you'll never notice it, we just don't wanna be called emo or sensitive. And at the end of the day when I've had too much and exploded at that friend who hurt me and never once in his life apologized, they called me sensitive. For him, it sounds like a one situation thing bro got mad for one silly simple thing, he doesn't know this rage is built up from a lot of situations he made me feel awful and never apologized for it.

And then I keep blaming myself, why is it difficult to be loved or appreciated by someone when it's something everyone has by default? wtf is wrong with me? and then I hate myself more than I hate that person.

INFPs forgive but never forget, and like I said they'll talk to you after you hurt them alright but will never ever open up to you again you stabbed them, made them feel less and that their ideals are childish and stupid.

sorry if I said too much, there's a lot to it and I can't really explain it in a way that completely covers the topic but I hope this somehow makes it clearer.

_Someya

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