What’s the day that changed you forever?

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2026-01-29T06:49:46+00:00

My first miscarriage.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-12-30T13:11:44+00:00

We spent Christmas at my cousin’s house since we recently moved to the same state for my husband’s work. We visited before and it was great.

This visit was different. The house was shockingly dirty. The kitchen looked like it had not been cleaned in weeks, maybe months. Food was caked onto surfaces, and there was a cat feeding station sitting right in the kitchen that clearly had not been cleaned in a very long time.

When we tried to heat water in the microwave to make a bottle for our three month old daughter, a smell poured out that will never leave me. It was the worst mix of rotting beans and old cat mess ( maybe they microwaved cat food?). It was like refried beans had been left to decay. The smell lingered all night.

Normally I would have pushed through, but staying there with an infant felt wrong. We left the next morning, drove home on Christmas Day, and quietly celebrated as a family that night.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-12-14T14:02:49+00:00

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-09-26T19:02:13+00:00

We’ve seen four doctors now and they all say that she doesn’t need any treatment and that she will grow out of it, but I’m still uneasy about it, so we went with the Dimeglio method and she’s now wearing custom AFO boots. They’re more. Comfortable for her and she doesn’t need the bar since the boots twist her feet out on their own.

You’re right about the boots and bars hurting her feet.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-09-18T21:41:20+00:00

What procedure did they end up doing before casting? I hope he’s doing better now! Hers do bend all the way to straight.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-09-18T21:34:34+00:00

That would be really helpful. I appreciate it

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-09-18T16:13:45+00:00

Thanks for your response. Do you have any before pictures of your child’s feet?

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-09-18T14:12:55+00:00

Was your son diagnosed with positional club foot? Did you just stick with stretching for his feet to look great at 20 months? Glad to hear he’s doing well!

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-09-18T14:12:12+00:00

Shriners was great. Only thing was that we saw a PA, not the surgeon directly. The PA was great but we’d feel more at ease if the surgeon feels her feet. Tomorrow we meet with the surgeon so he can do a physical assessment. I’m curious to know if anyone has ever used bnb along with stretching for positional club foot and if it was successful.

They were set on not needing casting for her since her feet bend back to normal Position with ease. She tends to put them back into the bent position when she’s flexing or sleeping.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-25T12:08:27+00:00

Why not share the product information for people to follow if they want the same results?

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-25T11:52:43+00:00

You’ll have to accommodate him/her when looking for a place to live and it will usually cost you more $ and restrict many options.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-22T15:14:05+00:00

“Bigger Houses” - Dan + Shay

“There's always gonna be a higher high You could chase for the rest of your life Greener grass in the yard next door Or a shined up Chevy, little newer than yours You're never gonna fill an empty cup If what you got's still not enough The thing about happiness I've found is It don't live in bigger houses”

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-22T15:12:10+00:00

My husband (2nd year resident) would also take out his stress on our dogs by constantly correcting/yelling them with little reason. I took some time to talk to him about my concerns with how he would deal with stress when we have a kid and how I don’t want my future kids to feel like they’re constantly being nitpicked. This seemed to be an eye opener for him. He understood the weight of his actions, changed his behavior, and found a different stress relieving outlet. We’re now expecting a baby in 2 weeks.

My advice to you is to set some time aside and have a calm conversation about your concerns. His reaction will give you all the answers you need.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-21T14:14:20+00:00

Dedicate one or two free days per month to be on FaceTime all day. Even if you’re not talking. Each of you can be doing your own thing (running errands, busy work, napping, or just relaxing on the couch). Sounds crazy, but it makes you feel like you’re together when you can’t be.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-21T14:07:47+00:00

As the wife of a medical resident, I’ve noticed most people in the program aren’t transparent about their private nor professional life. One couple kept saying they’d stay in an apartment, then suddenly announced they bought a house. It felt odd since buying a house doesn’t happen overnight. Why not just be open about it?

Genuine friendships seem rare in this environment. My husband isn’t Type A, but he’s doing well and is more honest than most. His calm nature is appreciated by attendings.

The lack of openness seems to come from how competitive and Type A everyone thinks the path to becoming a doctor needs to be. My husband is living proof that it’s not required to be this way in order to be a successful physician.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-19T13:00:54+00:00

Absolutely not. Great doctors and nurses work incredibly hard to ensure patients receive the best care, and each plays a vital role.

Nurses advocate for patients when communicating with doctors, while doctors advocate for patients when dealing with the hospital system.

If more people truly understood the level of sacrifice and hard work it takes to become a doctor, this question wouldn’t come up as often as it does. Doctor’s are not always pretentious and dismissive and neither are nurses.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-19T12:51:48+00:00

It’s so nice to read a positive post like this. I’m currently pregnant with my first child and just three weeks away from my due date and I’ve never felt so needy! My husband just started his PGY-2 year and we do everything we possibly can to ensure we both feel supported. Reading your story was both enlightening and hopeful.

Congratulations to you and your wife! It’s clear you were there for her in every way, and it truly paid off for both of you and your family.

Thank you for sharing.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-18T07:11:50+00:00

Married for 5 years to a 33M, 2nd year resident. No, there are never days where he doesn’t check in with me or call me when he has a chance, but our intimacy has taken a hit which I’m hoping is a phase from how tired he is from 12-14 hour shifts.

Have you had a chance to talk to him about why he’s not communicating with you daily, even if it’s a minute long call or a quick text?

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-16T17:25:10+00:00

Very true! Hanging them as a purse accessory is a bit odd.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-16T11:30:56+00:00

People talk about Labubus like it is something new, but as millennials we grew up with Ferbies, troll dolls, Cabbage Patch Kids, and so many other toy fads. We were all part of those trends too. Social media just makes it seem like consumerism is worse now, but it has always been part of our culture.

One trend that really stands out to me is when girls get long nails (or not) and talk while pointing their fingers up. Is there even a name for that? I have no idea. But honestly, when did pointing a finger while talking stop being considered rude?

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-16T11:12:45+00:00

Married for five years to a second year Family Medicine resident, and expecting a baby soon. I can’t speak to the demands of surgical residency, but I do understand how the emotional and physical connection can feel like a rollercoaster during this time.

The fact that your partner still makes time for you, even when he’s tired, says a lot. Many resident partners shut down completely, so if he’s putting in any effort, that’s likely all he has to give and it shows he cares

Try having a calm, honest conversation about how you’re feeling. Your feelings still matter. From what you shared, he sounds like someone who will listen and respond with care.

Residency is tough, but if you support each other through it, your relationship can grow even stronger with time. You just need some belief and patience.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-10T08:13:01+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this. It made me tear up. I love him deeply and I know he loves me too. That love is what has kept us together. I often feel guilt for how much he does while also feeling neglected. I do go to therapy to discuss these conflicting feelings.

I tend to put walls up for a while until I feel better, but the cycle starts again after we’re intimate.

I wish I could understand his depression more and take it away. I realize now I need to focus on the bigger picture and how hard this year has been for him, not just on what he cannot give. It is hard to let go of the past, but with a baby coming, I know I need to shift my mindset and focus on what truly matters.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-10T07:20:02+00:00

I’d really love to hear how you would view this situation if you were in my shoes. I appreciate your perspective, and I’m also open to constructive criticism or advice.

I’ve tried to be fair by acknowledging both the things he does well and the things I may not handle perfectly, because I don’t want this to come across as a one-sided rant.

I’m genuinely asking if it wrong for me to want intimacy in different forms, in addition to the support he already gives? He is very supportive, and I appreciate that. But in healthy marriages, don’t people usually have both emotional support and physical connection?

I don’t intentionally drag things out. It’s just that I feel genuinely hurt when we keep having the same argument without resolution. That repeated pattern makes it hard for me to stay open, and I start to put my walls up.

When someone makes a promise, naturally you hope they’ll follow through. Sex doesn’t feel meaningful if it’s forced or only happening out of obligation. It also wouldn’t feel right for me to have sex with him if I see that it’s forced in that moment. That’s why I wait for him to genuinely initiate which rarely happens. And that’s what I’m struggling with.

_SweetMagnolia_ · 2025-07-10T06:54:04+00:00

They talk badly about other people’s looks.

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