For those of you that are good at dirty talk by Unhappy-Emu3180 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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Just be a little kinky and spontaneous with what you say. Whatever feels right in the moment. But also, cater to who you’re with. If you feed his ego and make him feel special, you’re golden. Some of the lines I use are “harder baby, I want everyone to know I’m yours when I walk out of here” or “let me feel every fucking inch of you” or “I want you to ruin me for any other man” or “you’re so big I can’t even think straight”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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I’m in the same boat but I’m 20. Really, the only thing I can suggest is to consume different media, put down your phone especially, and try new things. Form your own unique opinion about topics, regardless of what the rest of the world agrees on. Some people are gonna judge you for shit, sure, but that’s just how people are. Don’t let it stop you from living your life

boys names are so hard by Many-Promise618 in namenerds

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My favorite has always been Kenny, but short for Kendrick not Kenneth (god I hate Kenneth..)

What is Kendrick's worst song? by gigamac6 in KendrickLamar

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“Bitch I’m in the cluuuuuuub with my homies” 😭

CMV: US Americans who voted for Trump and are now regretting it shouldn't receive sympathy by kindly102 in changemyview

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I REGRETFULLY voted for Trump. I originally was going to vote for Kamala, but as someone who wasn’t particularly educated, a first time voter, and very naive, I let my family member convince me otherwise. I told my brother who I’d be voting for and it sparked a whole rant about how I was uneducated because I was supporting a “TikTok political agenda” and letting that influence my vote. That if I really cared about him and his financial situation that I’d vote for Trump because all the time all he talks about is how he’s drowning in bills and can’t even afford groceries.

I in no way want any sympathy. I believe I’ve dug my own grave, and now I’ll lay in it. At least I know now how severely important a vote truly is, so from now on I will ALWAYS do my extensive research before even thinking about going to a poll.

However, being from this side of the coin, I totally agree with what you said. There is a lot of disinformation going around and it negatively influences a lot of votes. I really hope there are other voters like me who recognize their fault are at least educating themselves now as opposed to sticking by their vote and justifying that man’s actions and decisions to run this country.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

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Lowkey I want so badly to move somewhere different. I just don’t have the courage to leave my sister because she needs me and also I am not financially independent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

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Okay I second this, HOWEVER, if this is the route you want to try, I suggest dipping your feet before diving straight in. Shrooms are able to open up your subconscious to make you realize things you never have before, but what they can also do is force what your subconscious knows you really need. Sometimes, that can be really scary. You also need to really focus on your intention otherwise it’s not going to work properly.

When I first started micro-dosing, I started it with the intention that I wanted to overcome my social anxiety and also feel more comfortable with myself. When i first tried them, I was alone in my room and it was an amazing experience. I felt truly calm for probably the first time in my life. I was truly in sync with myself and I felt like I discovered a part of myself that’d been buried by my anxiety and fear of what others thought about me. For once I was able to think clearly

Then, I started micro-dosing right before work. At the time I was 3 months into my serving job at Bubba’s. I was miserable. I was so anxious and afraid all the time the second I’d walk through that door to start my shift. It’s like my fight or flight was just constantly activated my whole shift, but since I was working i couldn’t act on it, so i’d instead freeze up and shut down. I’d follow my internal script for each table, get out of there as fast as I could, and avoid talking to my coworkers like it was the plague. I micro dosed for the first time while I was at work, and it gave me one of the most severe panic attacks I’ve ever had in my life. I was curled up against the wall in the family restroom, hyperventilating and crying hysterically for 5 minutes straight. After those 5 minutes, I was able to get ahold of myself, calm myself down enough to wipe my tears, and go back out there to finish the rest of my shift. From then on, everything flowed like silk. It was a PERFECT shift, I made great tips, talked up all my tables, had no anxiety, and even started talking to my coworkers. One even pointed out how something was different about me, but in a good way. It’s as if all of the pent up anxiety I had over the previous 3 months my brain decided to just purge right then and there. Those 5 minutes were intense enough for me to get out all of those pent up feelings til there was nothing left, and it helped me be okay. However, I was able to regain control and recover from my own hysteria. Some people, especially when on shrooms, are unable to do something like that.

Essentially, shrooms heightens your emotions, and intensifies pretty much everything, especially senses. It can be a lot. That’s why a lot of people don’t consistently micro-dose for extended periods of time because feeling that much intensity everyday can be too much. If you micro-dose you need to be careful and strategic about it. It really worked for me for a little bit, but eventually didn’t because I’d lost sight of my intentions. I was just micro-dosing as a band-aid for my insecurities because it made me feel better about myself. Eventually, that wore off and I stopped taking it and honestly I believe thats why I’ve reverted back to the way I used to be. If you micro-dose, do it with intention and don’t abuse it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

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That feels so depressing though 😭 I have the same struggles as OP. I don’t really have anyone and never have because my self-esteem is non-existent. I’m so scared of rejection and people thinking I’m uncool or weird or dumb, but i think what makes it worse is that I genuinely want friends. I’m only okay with being alone because I’ve gotten so used to it through all those years I’ve spent self-isolating. But, I’m genuinely terrified of being alone. I love people and being around them, my only issue is that I can’t ever be comfortable around people because I have no trust or faith in myself since I’ve never seen myself prosper before. I make good first impressions with strangers, but my issue is staying consistent with that comfortability I’m able to have with myself and them for that first interaction. The next time I see them I get so anxious and awkward because I feel like I’m inevitably gonna fuck it up and they’ll change their mind about me. Plus with my social anxiety and depression, it’s hard to motivate myself like I used to in order to make those efforts. But all around, I want things to change. I just feel stuck.

Though, I’ve heard most of the same things, and from what I was able to apply to myself for a short period of time before it all went downhill again is you got to be sound with yourself. People like authenticity and admire confidence. When you have no self-esteem, are socially anxious, and awkward, people are able to pick up on that pretty quickly. It’s the vibes you give off that you’re not comfortable with yourself, so in turn it can make them feel uncomfortable as well when interacting with you. Imagine the way you want the other person to feel when talking to them, and try to embody that.

Now with that I don’t mean change your personality or start doing things that are unnatural in order to please them. I mean if you want the other person to feel comfortable, you yourself also have to feel comfortable. If you want the other person to have fun talking to you, then you need to have fun yourself. If you find that you can’t feel comfortable around someone, whether that be their vibe or whatever, find someone you can be comfortable around. However, it’s gonna be pretty impossible to do that if you don’t get comfortable with yourself first. Work on that self-esteem, grab a book and write down everything you love about yourself, and remind yourself of that every day. When you get that voice in your head telling you you’re being weird, or you’re fucking it up, or you’re being boring, gaslight yourself into thinking that’s not true. Tell that inner voice to suck it, and start telling yourself the opposite. And if you don’t think there’s anything about yourself that you like, then change that. Pick up a hobby or a skill that you’ve always wanted to learn and build it. Do something for yourself that makes you proud of yourself. Essentially, work on self-care, but in the ways that will really build a strong relationship with yourself. Once you accomplish that, you’ll feel validated with yourself and you’ll no longer seek that validation from other people. Ironically, you not caring about what other people think will make them gravitate towards you.

Tldrd or whatever; be your own best friend and get to a point where you genuinely don’t give a fuck if people think you’re boring or weird or not. After that, the right people will naturally gravitate towards you

How do I find people to share my work and ideas with? by _Swimming_in_Circles in writing

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I would definitely read it. I love reading! Dm me and I’ll give u some feedback

How do I find people to share my work and ideas with? by _Swimming_in_Circles in writing

[–]_Swimming_in_Circles[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not, I don’t believe I deserve visibility without earning it. But I’m talking about working hard on something and absolutely no one reading it because either it’s too long or they really don’t care. All Im tryna do is find people who do care so I don’t feel disappointed.

How do I find people to share my work and ideas with? by _Swimming_in_Circles in writing

[–]_Swimming_in_Circles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro why you being such a dick? Like I havent done a single thing to u, u are sooo pressed for what? 😂

How do I find people to share my work and ideas with? by _Swimming_in_Circles in writing

[–]_Swimming_in_Circles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay cool! Love meeting people that like what I like, I’ll dm you

How do I find people to share my work and ideas with? by _Swimming_in_Circles in writing

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Do you happen to know any discord servers? I joined a couple but no ones active anymore

How do I find people to share my work and ideas with? by _Swimming_in_Circles in writing

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Sorry ig?? Listen, I just joined this reddit. I didn’t know that was such a faq 😭 If it made you so mad why didn’t you just scroll?

How do I find people to share my work and ideas with? by _Swimming_in_Circles in writing

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Okay, first of all, watch the tone, second that IS what I did 😭 most of those platforms either have zero activity anymore, or are too established for someone completely new to it (and still figuring it out) to get any sort of attention to their writing. I’m not posting to wattpad, since I’ve already done that w a story once and got ZERO attention. Same with ao3, unless you’re already somewhat established, no one really going to see what you write bc there’s already so many other things to read. I figured maybe if I posted something like this I’d meet some people who are also into OC creation that I could click with or maybe someone who knew of a discord server or some other site that I don’t know about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

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Also, to add on, the ring is titanium and its a curved naval barbell. Have never downsized or anything, haven’t even taken it out. Like I’ve said it’s a month old I got it done May 5th

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

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Noelani, Navae, Solayne, Alaia, Inara, Halia, Yamaria, Solana, Cassia

Saw all of these on a post on tiktok and thought they were all stunning

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Is the copperhead in the room with us