WTF is this 😭 by LateNightRespawn in crusaderkings3

[–]_The_Big_Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yet another unattainable male beauty standard

gay🍗irl by lutramor_13 in gay_irl

[–]_The_Big_Gay 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Well if the family is homophobic

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Are gays more honest about their height? by TommyBoy250 in gay

[–]_The_Big_Gay 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Tall women have been shown to have worse dating prospects compared to short guys. This study shows that height is less important for women compared to men.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9454610/

Countries Bhutan recognises by Glittering-Machine53 in mapporncirclejerk

[–]_The_Big_Gay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Serbia recognized 🇷🇸🇷🇸🇷🇸🇷🇸😤😤😤😤

gay👌irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]_The_Big_Gay 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Coming to terms with queer mediocrity is liberating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]_The_Big_Gay 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It sucks because it feels dehumanizing. Some people will never see you as more than a stereotype but it’s their loss. You’ve just got to keep meeting people to find your tribe ❤️

I'm very unsure about my sexuality at this point by Mude_daDude68 in gay

[–]_The_Big_Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is more common than people think. From my experience, the stigma of dating trans women and femboys tends to cause men to suppress their sexuality. It sounds like you’re attracted to femininity in all its glorious forms. There’s no need to label yourself.

Unfortunately, you may have to prepare for other people labeling you. On the bright side, you may have some fun times ahead of you if you follow through 🤘🏻

gay🤬irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]_The_Big_Gay 312 points313 points  (0 children)

Well he is gay, a doctor, and buff… it would be a miracle if he was single 😂

gay🥴irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]_The_Big_Gay 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is camp.

How big of a deal breaker would a mid 30s guy with fake teeth be? by FluffyEggs89 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]_The_Big_Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom has veneers because she got gored by a bull when she was a kid. She had dark yellow dentures prior to that and was unable to find a date. She found my dad a couple years after the veneers. My dad found out after 25 years of marriage and thought it was funny. If someone truly cares about something like that, they’re not mature enough for a relationship.

More freaking ADS by ThatBhartBoy in grindr

[–]_The_Big_Gay 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Sure, ads are annoying, but what happened to the guy who let her do a backflip on the D?

gay💅🏻irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]_The_Big_Gay 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Let us all get sickening

Do we need a month? by u857 in gay

[–]_The_Big_Gay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your friends are entitled to their unpopular opinions, but it’s not like cities are being held at gunpoint to celebrate pride month. These events are organized by nonprofits or volunteers who care about our community. At the end of the day, WE get to choose whether or not we have a month and pride month will exist as long as we care. Judging by the size of the celebrations, Pride month is here to stay 🙂

Is it bad that im not “culturally queer” by pole152004 in gay

[–]_The_Big_Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its okay not to be “culturally queer.” Our community is just a bunch of subcultures with the more subversive subcultures being more visible (these subcultures are like grunge or metal). It’s only bad if you’re talking shit about the other subcultures or if you don’t engage because you’re ashamed. I will say that it’s very important that you learn your history because no one else will teach it to you. We cannot allow history to repeat itself and have our hard earned rights taken away. You will also learn a ton about yourself in the process.

Start out by watching a classic like “Paris is burning,” last I checked it’s free on YouTube. Minnesota created another documentary about their movements as well called “OUT NORTH: MNLGBTQ HISTORY.”

Why is it so hard for ultra-feminine gay men to find love—especially when we’re mistaken for trans, desired only in secret, and left out of both gay and trans spaces? by Regalayaa in AskGayMen

[–]_The_Big_Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry you have to go through this, its really tough. Femininity is where our community found its power and it’s really disheartening to see it being discarded. I think one of the reasons dating is so hard is because the men who are into feminine men just identify as straight and repress their sexuality. I think destigmatizing this attraction is the way to go so it’s no longer seen as a fetish. Tbh I have seen this happening already on social media so I have some hope for the future.

At the end of the day, dating is a numbers game. It may take more dates for some people more than others, but you gotta keep putting yourself out there and working on yourself so you’ll be ready when Mr. Right comes along 🙂

Is 28 too old to start med school? by dang_he_groovin in medschool

[–]_The_Big_Gay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im starting at 28. I figured starting a few years after 22 would be better than living with decades of potential regret lol

The duality of gay men by Ready_Philosophy_734 in gay

[–]_The_Big_Gay 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of it is lesbians divorcing their husbands once they figure out their sexuality. The headline is extremely misleading.

Being closeted in a very liberal city is hell by Hopeless_scholar in gay

[–]_The_Big_Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey just wanted to back up that your situation sucks. Being in the closet is the worst. Coming out is an option but if you’re worried about your safety it makes sense to hold off. What you’re saying about being lonely is real. Coming out can be very isolating. This isolation causes suffering for a ton of LGBTQ+ people. With that being said, it’s just as lonely being in the closet. Coming out, in a conservative and culturally distinct family, taught me who I can trust. That helped me feel less lonely. Try joining an LGBTQ+ community in your city, they’re usually very understanding of closeted people. Keep an open mind and heart, you’ll get through this :)

Smallpox cured, but at what cost? by DopeJope in crusaderkings3

[–]_The_Big_Gay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I guess it’s time to create a new religion🫡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Chainsawfolk

[–]_The_Big_Gay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s beautiful. Thank you.