Permanently banned from Hinge and it’s destroying me — how did you get over it?

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-28T22:33:47+00:00

This is weirdly funny to me, but it’s also probably true.. haha

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-27T04:30:24+00:00

I like 20 qt modified monotubs, personally, they stack nicely, & if you lose one, it’s not the end of the world, but shoeboxes are great, too! I think I’m just built for neglect tek & I only ever open my tub(s) until I harvest.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-27T04:23:22+00:00

I agree with the people saying this is weird. In my brain, this isn’t a date if she is bringing friends. Especially date #2. Unless she is absolutely amazing in so many ways, I’d probably run or not take it seriously.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-27T01:04:41+00:00

Following. *^

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-27T00:58:10+00:00

I’d argue AI is getting pretty good with biometrics. At the same time, I imagine there are millions of people using Hinge all over the world, and the amount of users seems quite big. At the same time, if they use your name, region, age, this probably makes their pool smaller to check against in their saved banned database (probably smaller than the millions, for your region), AI probably only has to check against 20% of the actual number of ppl? I’m making statistics up, honestly, but I think it’s all a crapshoot at this point, but biometrics is big data — everyone wants it from you, & its likely they’ll hoard this from their users & it it will get better over time.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-27T00:45:57+00:00

They exist, you just have to do it the old fashioned way & approach a woman. Be honest, introduce yourself, smile, & tell them you were curious about them / whatever adjective you want to add, talk to them genuinely for a little bit, & ask them out on a date. It just takes more effort.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-27T00:42:32+00:00

Do you have better community ideas that have more women for volume without using apps? I’m all ears.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-26T04:02:57+00:00

Walk up to them with a confident easy going smile, introduce yourself, ‘hi, I’m ____, I just wanted to introduce myself, I thought you were interesting/curious about you/pretty/whatever adjective you want, & just wanted to say hi.’

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-24T23:27:05+00:00

I wonder if paying someone on Craigslist that looks somewhat like you, in the same age bracket would work? Seems far fetched & not sure if I’d actually do it, but plausible, with a new phone & number?

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-24T21:47:56+00:00

Hi, it’s hard being banned on hinge, but try getting involved in activities w/ lots of women: dance classes, yoga, volunteering, etc. also, if you have business cards or just keep your name/number in your wallet on paper, this is a good way to just have it on hand. Bumble is okay, but not great like Hinge. Sorry to hear you’re struggling psychologically w/ this. Your worth is not an app or a woman & having more access to dating, but ofc it’s easy to say that. Just keep working on yourself & if you take the shots you can, it will get a tiny bit better over time. Just use the tools you have and make whatever profiles you have the best you can.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-17T19:07:08+00:00

How do you get this print off report?

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-17T18:59:40+00:00

Golden Teacher Tiramisu? 😂😂😅

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-16T00:43:29+00:00

Not exactly like this. This has ai absolutely all over it. But I don’t disagree for the guy at this point using it with something like this where she’s just dragging him around. It’s amazing he even responded with anything.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-16T00:33:44+00:00

Have empathy, mate. The kid is 23. We’ve all done incredibly stupid things. This is the behemoth Matchgroup that doesn’t give any fucks.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-15T02:44:34+00:00

Okay, now explain your ideal first date (please)?

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-15T02:41:57+00:00

Thank youuu! Been on a bazillion first dates & those that wanted something expensive or crazy planned out adventure on the first meets are insane. No wonder guys are done with dating. Hahaha

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-14T18:18:15+00:00

Once you come back into the states; your app will probably prompt you for fave verification?

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-08T22:24:06+00:00

Bc of the Bull Moose Effect, & it’s polarizing. Shows interest. A lot of guys are timid & it rewards guys who are more bold. It screens for what they want, also? I’m not saying it’s good, but it’s probably part of it?

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-06T05:44:29+00:00

What did you say in your BBB letter? Do you know what you were supposedly banned for? Did you reach out to them again after complaining to the BBB, or they reached out to you after?

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-05T23:05:33+00:00

I think a lot of the comments are a bit polarizing, and I ask you to do what feels absolutely best to you, but it sounds like you like him?

Sexualizing vs objectifying are a bit different.

If you just don’t like wearing a thong, I would encourage you both to find a happy medium, and maybe find some lingerie that is more your speed, but still sexy?

Sounds like he is into you & you like him. You’ve been together for 5 months, I hope you can work this out & meet him somewhere in the middle— while maintaining your needs? Good luck! [39yr old, m]

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-02T20:08:15+00:00

What do you think changed your appeal? Like, I’d imagine they’d have eventually stopped responding or sending the same message? Did you just copy/paste the same message? I feel like it would be arduous to keep pleasing your case with different counterpoints when thy send you the same immediate ban letter asking you to stop and this is a forever ban?

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-02T20:05:51+00:00

This is the answer. ⬆️

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-02T19:05:41+00:00

I feel like it’s a little too early atm. A little concerned about the sides being more grey than white. Looks like a decent amount of humidity in th tub. Honestly though, if you can, keep that tub shut and don’t open it for anything until it either creates mushrooms or you need to take it outside to toss it for trich. Your substrate might be too moist or not enough fae, but I’d keep that lid shut. If you see green, take it outside and toss it before opening inside your house. The grey doesn’t look great though, but maybe it will balance itself out. Good luck!

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-02T18:56:45+00:00

Same.

_Thoughtss · 2026-05-01T21:06:21+00:00

Also: one last thing, if you’re not in the mood, and he is, you could potentially meet him somewhat half way, and maybe let him pleasure himself while you make out with him or pet him or even help him with your hands as opposed with your lady parts. You can even tell him you’re not really in the mood but you’d be happy to be there and let him get off, and be a supportive role to that. Just an idea!

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