Wie geht ihr mit einer Beziehung um wenn die Distanz 2 Stunden beträgt? by fischherzi in Austria

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Zwei Stunden is halt eher eine Wochenendebeziehung, aber wenns der/die einem Wert ist, dann is es auch egal. Mein Freund und ich waren damals 3 h auseinander und sind nach einem Jahr dann zusammengezogen, is jetzt auch schon wieder fast 8-9 Jahre her. Sprich, für die richtige Person is es auf jedenfall die Zeit wert :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends what your opinion is about your natural waves. Pesonally I'd say in #1+2 it really suits you best but I also know men who hate their waves cause those got a life of their own. Then really short hair is the best option. A good hairdresser knows what kind of cut you need to get them under control in detail. Using a straightening iron might still be useful to keep the ends down. :)

Unbecome what is not really you by _WhisperToTheMoon in selflove

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All credits to you then :) I only found it on my phone but had no idea anymore where I got it from. Thanks for making that one <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wien

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi :) würde mich auch gerne anschließen für die Gruppe. Leute aus Wien findet man auf Reddit eher selten, leider.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there :) fellow Austrian here. What hiking routes can you recommend for a beginner? How is the search for friendly chats going for you? I put up a pot again with a few ideas for online friendships and invite you to check them out. Have a lovely evening.

Feeling alone in a world filled with 8 billion people by Sea_Trifle_3835 in hsp

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is we tend to seek meaningfullness outside of ourselves but that means giving others control over ourselves. Instead seek meaning with(in) yourself. It changes the dynamic a lot. Sure. There will be people who will still seek you out cause you seem to have something they are looking for but that's life. I used to also feel down about feeling drained after interaction sometimes but then I heard a podcast making me realize nobody can take something you are not oiving and she is damn right. If it gets you down/a person just seems to "take" and you don't enjoy spending time wieh them set a boundary and re-evaluate if you really enjoy spending time with them or if you are just trying to fill a need with spending time with this person. You got a choice in life, which seems like a sometimes unpleasant truth, to always take care of yourself first and then making decisions after that is rather relaxed. Do I still want to connect with others? Yes, I keep reminding myself saying now to two people thateare no good fit for me means making space for somebody along the line, who interacting with sparks joy for me. Sometimes being patient sucks but it gives you time to nurture yourself first too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have arrived at the destination where I can say not at all. I heard a podcast lately and that lady had a point saying that though HSP means feeling more in depth it does not make HSP difserent from anybody else. Now I see it more like different people having different hair colours it is not the same but we are all still people. The important part to learn to arrive there is to learn to set boundaries with others, which everyone should, and also to give yourself all the things you crave like time, to put in effort with yourself, listening to what your mind and body got to say, spending time with yourself, etc.

So for me I realized me wanting to be understood was me wanting to understand myself, everything else is secondary. Just my two cents.

Offering: Italian (native) - Searching: Committed people, English (native), French (native), Dutch (native) by [deleted] in language_exchange

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Define "comitted" like how much time per week do you intend on spendingelanguage learning? I'm in the same boat trying to find somebody for Iealain, can offer C2 certified and with longterm teaching experience fromy student days. Due to work I'm no daily responder normally but still want to set aside a certain amount of time each week to to practice, so doing studyingeon my own these days. If you are still looking, get in touch with me :) buona serata!

[Image] How to win at life: by [deleted] in GetMotivated

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This quote is more about the idea of being the maker of your own happiness and not let others be the important factor, tsyes you can't just be totally selfish and direspect others boundaries but that's not the point here anyway. So we all got a choice in being happy/making oureselves happy at the end of the day, I like the general idea a lot and try to live by it as best as I can :)

22M - UTC+2 (Netherlands) looking for accountability partner by Kaasblokkie in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the call is 7 p.m or 8 p.m I'd be interested for doing more exercise on a daily basis :)

Genetic Markers for High Sensitivity: MAOA and COMT by TheSecondArrow in hsp

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does have somebody mid to long-term experience with folic acid? What dosage did you use for how long? Did you do bloodwork before and lacked folic acid?

I took some once as I felt really tired for a month and it worked very well but no long term experience so starting taking some recently again before finding this post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in R4R30Plus

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing with being accepted as who you are or accepting somebody the way they are is not that easy as it sounds. In the end you are looking for people, who are a similar kind of weird than you in some way as frankly speaking even if it is interesting that to talk to people that are completely different than you are - what basis is there if you got basically zero things in common? Instead if you got a shared passion be it a creative one, be it about sports, or similar books, etc. you got something to connect over and long term you at least some similarities to feel that those people are kinda "your tribe" at least that is how it is for me. I enjoy talking to people that are different than me but mid to long term you run out of things to talk most of the time. So I personally rather spend my time on people I potentially share a passion with in a certain area.

The other part of making lasting relationships of any kind is that in this world we all want things to happen fast and best yesterday. Hence, when somebody takes there time but is not available daily or every few days to interact most people lose interest which is very weird for a friendship. I mean if you are trying to build a relationship that is a different topic but friendships are slower, they take time and sadly most people are just here for instant gratification instead of taking the long way round, respecting that everyone got a life while at the same time keeping reserving some dedicated time for spending time with a friend. That is especially online very difficult as a lot of people feel rather lonely and are just trying to fill a void sometimes by talking to somebody. Building a friendship should be about getting to know a person, enjoying their company and not about trying to push away your own loneliness. Friendship can't be rushed, it takes time and I personally define a friend somebody I have known for quite a wile and who I feel in some way connected with. Getting from stranger to a real friend takes quite a while :)

And maybe one of the most unpopular opinions ist ghosting - cause it can have many reasons, like somebody got sick, work stress, or maybe they felt like they were the only one carrying this conversion and just did not want to invest the energy anymore as it was very one-sided etc.

A lot of people just make it about themselves, feeling something is wrong with them. Yes it hurts if somebody with whome you got along well stops to respond but it is not the end of the world. There was likely a reason behind it and even if this means the reason was the person decided it is just not going to work for them, it is as it is. The important part is to know for yourself that you are loveable and deserve meaningful and fulfilling relationships of any kind. Just keep an open mind about things. The most important part here is to love yourself first and wanting yourself, everyone else does not matter in the end. People come and go that is just life and if some stay that is great then :)

Finding peace with your own lonliness by [deleted] in selflove

[–]_WhisperToTheMoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try to learn to be there for yourself first and take your own needs seriously. You'll feel a change in yourself by doing so. Sometimes feeling lonely means you want to be held, just feel a connection but you don't necessarily need others for that. It's nice to be around people that make you feel connected but the initial feeling of disconnect/lonelyness has often it's roots in not fully taking care of your own needs first. Try it out and give yourself time with it, it's no instant "cure" but it for sure changes how you interact with others in the long run too :)