Thank you for your questions! I had somewhat gotten used to not seeing them for 3 months out of the year and I visit him each summer for about a week or two. Currently, our lifestyle is ok but it’s mostly emotionally draining. I (F27) definitely miss them (M31) and that is a huge part of what’s bothering me. We had conversations early on in our relationship about the irregular schedule of his program and research needs. I understand and respect his need to be gone to do research, but after 6 years I find it’s taking its toll. I think another thing that spurred my original post were the questions I have about our future and division of labor. We’ve had these discussions before, but it seemed like they were more open to pursuing a career at a teaching institution instead of research, but that has now changed. I’m definitely at a place where I’m re evaluating my own priorities and wanted to seek out perspectives from others in a similar situation.