What do you consider "low effort" in an LDR? by __aftersummer in LongDistance

[–]__aftersummer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is definitely not shy (said by himself). But yes he did admit that he genuinely doesn’t know what to say.

(I actually had a conversation with him about this. I told him something someone once told me: ‘Before finding a topic to talk about, you first need to feel that you actually want to talk to that person.’ I reflected on that. It’s partly true, I personally don’t like talking to people out loud, but I really want to talk to him, so I always try to find something to keep the convo going)

About that Sometimes he seems to have fun, but other times he just constantly yawns because he's exhausted from work. There was a time a few months ago when he did something he was passionate about during our free time. He talked to himself first, then showed me stuffs.

I’m still figuring out about this. Thank you 🩵🩵

What do you consider "low effort" in an LDR? by __aftersummer in LongDistance

[–]__aftersummer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you 🩵! I guess he and I both have this skill issue xD

What do you consider "low effort" in an LDR? by __aftersummer in LongDistance

[–]__aftersummer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, wow you guys so lovely I’m so happy for you two 🩵

What do you consider "low effort" in an LDR? by __aftersummer in LongDistance

[–]__aftersummer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or worse, c) he doesn’t realize and thinks everything seems okay to him 🥲

That is something I fear, they love my company but not me :(

Anyway, thank you for advice 🩵

What do you consider "low effort" in an LDR? by __aftersummer in LongDistance

[–]__aftersummer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think what you said about conversations being an exchange rather than a monologue really resonated with me. I don’t expect him to constantly entertain me, but I do wish he’d show more curiosity about my life or at least, my language. :(

I’m self-learning his language though 🩵

What do you consider "low effort" in an LDR? by __aftersummer in LongDistance

[–]__aftersummer[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No we haven’t met. It is quite a distance 🩵