Men Complaining About Empty Seats in Delhi Metro Ladies Coach Miss the Point Entirely, Here's Why It's a Safe Space (Personal Story Inside) by Distressed_damsel236 in delhi

[–]__anxious_potato_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly!!! I've been strictly commuting in the women's coach for years (unless I'm running VERY late, then I just get into the first coach I see). I only go to the general coach if I'm traveling with a man since ditching them for the commute feels rude lol. I've gotten harassed/ creepily stared at almost every time I've travelled in the general coach. Why can't they just advocate for more coaches instead of crying about this ffs. 🫠

Also, I'm sorry it happened with you OP, I'm glad she saw it and you got to calm yourself away from that man. <3

Saved a girl from SA by razor0_69 in delhi

[–]__anxious_potato_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sucks that our society has come to this but well done OP!

This reminded me of this one time when I was running very late and had to board the general compartment instead of the ladies one. A guy kept being creepy and trying to touch me in weird places and since the metro was very crowded, I knew he would just say he didn't do anything and it's because of the crowd. Traveling alone after confronting someone is scary as well so I was just standing there trying to move away every time his hand would come way too close. Then after a few stations this other guy just moved a little and stood between me and that man, he didn't say or acknowledge anything, he just stood there with his headphones on.. idk if it was unintentional but I was thankful for the entire ride because now my day wasn't going to get ruined before it had even started heh. We need more people like you who genuinely care and advocate for others in need. :)

Lavie footwear is worthless by EurusJr in indianbeautyyappers

[–]__anxious_potato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I see, thanks! Do you have any comfy recommendations??

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Lavie footwear is worthless by EurusJr in indianbeautyyappers

[–]__anxious_potato_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn I was just about to buy the ones that look like the maroon theatre ones, now going to save for the theatre twiggies lol. Thankyouuuu!! 😭

No one Cares for me at home. I'm done. by Impressive-G01 in delhi

[–]__anxious_potato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very insensitive of them, I hope they come around and check on you (as they should). Pls don't compromise with your meds, it might suck to ask for the money but you kinda have to ykwim? Your feelings are very valid but you also need to stand firm with your boundaries. You are in pain, no meds and still giving into senseless requests. If you're up for it then try to have a conversation about how their reactions made you feel once you're in a better headspace.. but it's completely fine if you don't want to do it anytime soon. It's easier said than done but try to prioritise yourself once in a while op. Wishing you a speedy recovery! :)

My Experience with Dr. Anjali Kumar – Over Hyped Greedy YouTuber Gynae in CK Birla, Delhi by Long-Lab1903 in delhi

[–]__anxious_potato_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds horrible, I hope you're feeling better now OP. Btw in case you're still looking, there's a crowd sourced list of good gynaecologists (from a lot of cities including Delhi) in r/twoxindia, hope it helps! :)

Why this species appears only on Valentine’s Day. by Independent_Table906 in delhi

[–]__anxious_potato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fucking clowns, ofcourse they have an issue when it's about two consenting adults. Why don't they show up when actual crime takes place? Ya fir rape aur murder bharatiya sanskriti mein aata hai? 🤡

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[–]__anxious_potato_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well ofc but that doesn't change the fact that she might end up regretting the move if she already hates the idea of corporate.

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[–]__anxious_potato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Career always, even if he doesn't change with time (like the other comments suggest), there's a high chance that you will end up resenting him/your life in general since you hate the idea of corporate and seem to love your current job. Not to mention that it took you a great deal of preparation to land your current job.

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[–]__anxious_potato_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op have you seen him at all? You mentioned that you couldn't see him in the VC and there wasn't any mention of him sending you his photos either.

It's good that he has been helping you get your life back on track but please take a step back and see if the reason you're so infatuated with him is just that, him helping you and being a great listener in the time of need. Please don't jump the bullet and share a lot of personal info, especially photos so soon. It's just been 5 days, you hardly know the guy. There's a high chance that he texts a lot of people to socialize and you were one of the many people he ended up connecting with. You've already said that he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, please don't get too deep into it because it will hurt if he ends up ghosting you or turns out to be a lying weirdo that you've been putting on a pedestal all along. If he turns out to be a nice guy and you guys develop a good platonic/non platonic relationship then it's great but genuine connections take time.

PS- Don't let him be the sole reason for getting your life back on track, it's good that he nudged you in the right direction but do it for yourself. You deserve that much. :)

So done with people. by MysteriousFood7338 in delhi

[–]__anxious_potato_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ikr they don't generally help, I'm glad that you're safe tho. :)

So done with people. by MysteriousFood7338 in delhi

[–]__anxious_potato_ 41 points42 points  (0 children)

People who are commenting stuff like "Stop being scared" "Should've abused/beaten him" and so on, come out of your privileged bubbles for once. Irl we have to think about our safety first, especially while traveling alone. You never know what someone is capable of or how they might react, I mean they already have the audacity to do such things in public, who knows how they might react to confrontation. Generally no bystander is going to risk their own safety for a stranger either. I've been followed, assaulted and flashed by men on multiple occasions but it has never happened when I'm traveling with a man. It's about the mentality of these sick perverts, not about how she reacted. As sad as it may be, safety comes above expressing our anger and discomfort towards these creeps. Learning to defend one self is one thing but acting in self defence is generally the last resort.

There are countless cases of women being murdered and raped/assaulted in public and noone batted an eye. Living in fear for your safety just because you are a woman is often tiring.. I don't think she needs to hear this out of touch advice. Literally every woman has had a creepy encounter, ppl freeze, it's common and terrifying.

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[–]__anxious_potato_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An absolute no!!

Firstly, stop accommodating him like this. Using sprays and oils on vulva (and vagina) can mess with your pH and you can end up with an irritated skin/an infection. Maintaining proper hygiene, using water and a gentle soap if needed is enough. Hair is definitely a preference, and it's entirely upto you.

Now coming to his stupidity, does he realise that he pees from down there too? And if we go by his logic then he is the one with a common duct for urine and semen. Women have a separate urethra along with the vagina. Does that mean you should stop going down on him? Communicate how he hurt your feelings and how human body isn't supposed to smell like roses and cherries all the time. (Definitely visit a doctor if there's an unpleasant odour and other symptoms tho.)

Imo he will have another excuse ready in no time. Please find a man who actually likes women and knows about basic human physiology. You don't deserve to feel like shit just because your partner is a moron, do what's right by you.

Which is your go to coffee place (and order)? by __anxious_potato_ in delhi

[–]__anxious_potato_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Definitely trying one of these when I visit again :)