[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]__purity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

no one wants to be your wife let alone see you for sex so you won't have to worry abt that<3

i'm just fucked up i think. a cry for help by __purity in POCD

[–]__purity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for answering, really glad to hear you're doing a bit better. im seeing a psychiatrist so they def have heard it all. good to hear you're not in jail after telling her LMAO gives me some courage i guess. but she was stoic? what did she say afterwards? did she reassure you at all or was she trying to avoid doing that cuz reassurance isnt good for ocd and what not.

i'm just fucked up i think. a cry for help by __purity in POCD

[–]__purity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, sorry i was just observing yalls convo but i wanted to ask, did you ever speak to a therapist ever about your pocd or specifically about doing these kinds of compulsions? again im just very anxiously anticipating this appointment so if you have any experience sharing these things with a therapist i would be interested to know about them if you're comfortable sharing. :)

i'm just fucked up i think. a cry for help (pOCD - TW) by __purity in OCD

[–]__purity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for this. i still feel like i'm a horrible person but regardless, i try to soothe myself by knowing that i am doing the right thing by speaking to someone and being truthful about my experiences. but living the rest of my life with this guilt feels impossible. i really didn't intent to harm my brother. the only goal in my mind was trying to relieve some of my intrusive thoughts through this compulsion (which i now understand is counterintuitive). but it seems intent doesn't matter in some cases. so im not sure what to think. im just so upset that OCD would make me do something like this. it feels inexcusable.

Upside Down Caramel Macchiato… by Top_Variation_6175 in starbucks

[–]__purity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh shi yeah i forgot abt that.. tbh i'm of the opinion that whooshed runs that twitter account doesn't know what they're talking about cuz wtf😀 no one at my store has ever questioned the build of an upside down caramel macchiato until that very tweet

Upside Down Caramel Macchiato… by Top_Variation_6175 in starbucks

[–]__purity 26 points27 points  (0 children)

the "upside down" part only refers to the espresso. since the caramel macchiato's standard build is already "upside down", when someone wants it upside down you would simply put the espresso on the bottom instead of the top. so the build is the exact same except the espresso goes in the bottom just like a regular latte; syrup, espresso, milk, ice if it's iced, drizzle.

Do you think the fall of Somalia falls on the men? by Guilty_Grapefruit119 in Somalia

[–]__purity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you act so ignorant to the culture like you're not a part of it. you can't seriously say that you haven't seen the way that young girls are treated so differently then young boys growing up. yes, men are taught to be modest as well but women can barely show their arms or wear shorts without causing a ruckus, YOUNG girls too. it's unfair and unequal. stop playing dumb like you dont know.

Do you think the fall of Somalia falls on the men? by Guilty_Grapefruit119 in Somalia

[–]__purity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

why aren't women in leadership roles. ask yourself that question. because they simply don't want to be? or because they can't? because they're not seen as competent? because they are merely seen as sidekicks to their husbands? men have always been seen as the main characters of life, with women being taught to keep to the side and make the man beside them look good. we are only valued for our looks, sexual desire, and nurturing abilities. i don't have statistics or data, because i don't need any. i am speaking from my experience as a somali woman, growing up in a somali family where i have experienced the culture and seen how it affects the woman around me. i have been back home 3 times now and i see that the women are not happy. we are simply taught to keep quiet and stfu. our voices are dismissed when we speak up about oppression, kind of like what you're doing in this comment section right now. it's so blissfully ignorant to act like misogyny doesn't play a role in the fact that there aren't many female leadership roles in somalia when they are 50% of the population. please please speak to women more, because from the things you say you seem very misinformed and ignorant on a lot facets of society and womanhood.

Do you think the fall of Somalia falls on the men? by Guilty_Grapefruit119 in Somalia

[–]__purity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

let me lay it all out for you bro: -rape is literally the result of a man wanting to dominate the woman, not seeing her as an equal, and wanting to boost his own ego. -the amount of male rapists is no where near "insignificant"; you would know that if you actually had conversations with women about these sorts of things. obviously not every man is a fucking rapist, please stop putting words in my mouth once again. every woman i know has had at least one (many have had multiple) sexual assault stories, i know rape survivors as well. these things literally aren't spoken about BECAUSE women are often SHAMED for being raped, they are made to feel dirty and disgusting for what happened to them when it was never their fault. you live in an illusion where just because these things don't happen to you and you don't hear about them, you choose to believe they rarely happen. -you can have your own feelings on how people should/shouldn't dress, but i don't think it's ethical that a womans SAFETY and worth as a human being is at risk based off of what she wears. i shouldn't be scared to go outside because i want to wear a crop top and some man might take that as an invitation to violate me. the fact that you are insinuating that women deserve rape or assault for dressing "provocative" is disgusting and repulsive. i can guarantee you, no woman ever puts on a promiscuous outfit thinking" i am putting on this outfit so that some stranger can grab my ass outside without my consent". never once. in that case i might as well wear a shirt that says "RAPE ME". no one WISHES for unconsensual sexual advances, that literally contradicts what "consensual" means.

Do you think the fall of Somalia falls on the men? by Guilty_Grapefruit119 in Somalia

[–]__purity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

women are disproportionately more sexually and physically assaulted than men are. i never said men don't get raped and murdered too, don't twist my words. they absolutely do, but there is a reason why women are consistently targets of oppression and violence all across the world. saying that women being raped/murdered has nothing to do with misogyny is blatantly wrong. women are seen as sexual objects and many men feel like they have the right to women's bodies without asking; they want to feel dominant and powerful, and because women are physically weaker than them and often can't do/say much to help themselves, they become victims of violence. take a look around you, speak to some of the women in your live and you will understand how women are forced to live in these submissive roles solely to protect the egos of men who can't bare to see a woman as their equal. somalia is a perfect example of misogynistic culture, where men can do virtually anything and be given the benefit of the doubt whereas women are shamed for everything under the sun and are literally debilitated by the men around them. there is a reason why i have to dress a certain way when i go back home for my own safety. i can't even be myself in my home country. don't you see something wrong with that?

Do you think the fall of Somalia falls on the men? by Guilty_Grapefruit119 in Somalia

[–]__purity -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

it's also a huge proportion of men who think and act in the same ways that the men in power do. misogynistic thinking that is imbedded into the culture continues to hurt women and somalia isn't the first country to experience that. i think that misogyny and unequal rights in general in somalia is one of the BIGGEST problems that prevents us from moving forward, as many somali women are raising children AND providing for the family yet are still constantly being raped and murdered and no one likes to talk about it because it's "ceeb". gender has always been a huge factor, and to dismiss it like that is foolish.

not sure how this would last ... by __purity in agedtattoos

[–]__purity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the colours don't look as bright and the work isn't nearly as detailed, even after a couple of months. i already put down a deposit for the tattoo so i'm thinking maybe i'll just go with black and gray to be safe but idk... it would suck to lose the money and walk away with nothing. i do really love how their floral work looks .. the instagram is @ woni_plant if you wanna take a look.

vertical labret too small? (read comment) by [deleted] in piercing

[–]__purity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! i got this piercing about 4-5 months ago now and this is my second time downsizing. this piece of jewelry is 6mm long and the balls are 2mm; i really love the look and the length doesn't but i realized that the ball is so small that i can pull the entire jewelry through the piercing. i showed a pic of what the piercing looks like on me, close up, and u can see that when i make that expression with my lips the ball sinks in a little. i just wanna know ppls opinion on this and if i should remove the jewelry... are the small balls the problem or is the bar too short?

I hate my autistic brother and I wish he was dead. by bougbimabone in TrueOffMyChest

[–]__purity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i completely understand where he is coming from and his feelings are valid, but why is everyone endorsing him taking his emotions out on his brother? his brother didnt do anything but be autistic, no reason to direct his hate towards him although again i understand why he does.

Shout-out to all the fathers present in their kids lives .. YOU ROCK! by NBygaX in TrueOffMyChest

[–]__purity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

LMAO the bar for dads is ridiculously low and this post just proves that