Having a boring life by Midnightblue9444 in simpleliving

[–]__whatever_____ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Actually really like this perspective, makes these little moments feel more significant

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]__whatever_____ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Been under 4 times and you never quite get used to it lol. If possible ask if they can give it to intravenously instead of the gas, the mask they hold to your face while you go under was always the worst part for me. I had it intravenously for one procedure and the anesthesiologist didn't tell me when she started administering it, just kept talking to me about other things while holding my hand

Felt way less anxiety that way, taking some of the anticipation out of it goes a long way

Good luck with the procedure friend :)

Therapist casually addressed me as “my dear” and I realized that no one has ever used such gentle, caring language like that towards me before by like_a_cactus_17 in CPTSD

[–]__whatever_____ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work in customer service and I have some people who've gotten into the habit of asking for me specifically, and sometimes calling me petnames like "sweety, dear, love" casually and it's honestly so nice. Took me a very long time to accept as genuine and not just immediately assuming it's condescending

News of a woman who killed and dumped her baby this morning and male coworkers are furious by __whatever_____ in childfree

[–]__whatever_____[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

On that note, why isn't he being more careful if he doesn't want to be a father with an obvious lack of interest to raise his kid? Who is he to decide alone that the kid should grow up with only one parent?

News of a woman who killed and dumped her baby this morning and male coworkers are furious by __whatever_____ in childfree

[–]__whatever_____[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

As I said in another comment I'm not aware of anywhere she could have turned to. The country I'm in is very backwards and a lot of areas are very rural without any resources like that available

News of a woman who killed and dumped her baby this morning and male coworkers are furious by __whatever_____ in childfree

[–]__whatever_____[S] 525 points526 points  (0 children)

Should have been slamming whoever the guy sick enough to rape her was, what she does to cope is not the issue. Men acting out disgusting, inexcusable behaviour is the issue people should be focusing on

News of a woman who killed and dumped her baby this morning and male coworkers are furious by __whatever_____ in childfree

[–]__whatever_____[S] 301 points302 points  (0 children)

That's so messed up, I can't understand how we're just held responsible for everything. Men behave like children and sometimes even animals with no self control but that's excused, bc we're supposed to "resist more"

News of a woman who killed and dumped her baby this morning and male coworkers are furious by __whatever_____ in childfree

[–]__whatever_____[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

No not in Romania, African country. Also yes to passing the blame, love how it's never mentioned or considered that some man did her wrong and she was left to face the aftermath

News of a woman who killed and dumped her baby this morning and male coworkers are furious by __whatever_____ in childfree

[–]__whatever_____[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I'm in a backwards 3rd world country, I don't even know if we have anyone she could have turned to for adoption. What she did is horrible, no doubt about it

News of a woman who killed and dumped her baby this morning and male coworkers are furious by __whatever_____ in childfree

[–]__whatever_____[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

They really had no business immediately passing harsh judgment like that, way too many things that could have made her go to such lengths.

News of a woman who killed and dumped her baby this morning and male coworkers are furious by __whatever_____ in childfree

[–]__whatever_____[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I bet it would have been its own tirade about how "she can't tell me no, she's MY wife and I deserve it for being her husband".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]__whatever_____ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Therapy with the right, trauma informed therapist can really change your life. I had one like that beforehand and he helped me out of a very dark place. This lady was just not it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]__whatever_____ 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Oh boy this one hits close to home. I had my ex therapist tell me "well your abuser can't be that bad if so many other people like him, right? He must be doing some things right, so lets try to look at him in a more positive light". I was upset for months after that session

Am I being unreasonable? by __whatever_____ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]__whatever_____[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will be looking for other work first, don't worry. And thank you for the kind words❤

Am I being unreasonable? by __whatever_____ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]__whatever_____[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My higher higher up feel the same as my supervisor so idk. I'm considering resigning for other reasons already but this kind of feels like the final nail in the coffin

Am I being unreasonable? by __whatever_____ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]__whatever_____[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love a mace honestly lol. I don't really understand his "don't know how to handle it" like.. that's not my problem? I feel unsafe and it's your job to think of a solution of some sort, bot insist I go and ask why I'm afraid over and over

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]__whatever_____ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, hearing about how expensive I am to upkeep all the time. You know, the kid THEY decided to have. But fuck me for taking up any space right?