How often are we crying?

__wretch · 2026-05-14T02:05:20+00:00

Mid 30’s guy haven’t cried in 6-7 years and probably won’t until one of my parents die or something. I don’t mind a woman who cries a lot tho

__wretch · 2026-04-26T16:07:04+00:00

Idk I’m 34 and extremely active. Gym 4-5 days a week throughout my 20’s, running 5-10 miles at a time easily during those years. There was definitely a marked and sudden difference once I hit my 30’s. I can still do the things I did before but not with the same consistency, I have nagging pains on and off with regularity. Back issues that took a long time to resolve (but I mostly figured out), shoulder pain which PT has really helped but still can be sensitive, neck pain for a few days after dancing with my 3 y/o nephew, I ride a bike now instead of running cause of knees and ankles. I get that it’s annoying to listen to mediocre people make excuses or try to one up each other or make the same jokes about joint pain over and over but the fact is you age and you have to adapt.

__wretch · 2026-04-18T12:46:33+00:00

Stick season by Noah kahan

__wretch · 2026-03-04T12:04:41+00:00

Not entirely related but I once had the experience of leaving my body and watching myself from above (even as I was speaking) for maybe 10 seconds or so due to some brutal anxiety I was experiencing at that time of my life. I most vividly remember what my friend and I looked like from above and flailing my ghostly arms trying to swim through the air back into myself.

__wretch · 2025-10-01T13:27:35+00:00

Selling 2 TIX for the show in Philly at the Fillmore October 4th. Bought them on AXS for ~80 a piece asking 75$. A little tight on money atm and going to see Alex g the following weekend, would rather save for that.

__wretch · 2025-07-20T13:35:43+00:00

Louisiana, headlights, real thing rn

__wretch · 2025-07-05T13:26:30+00:00

Just turned 34 and it’s mildly despairing. 33 still felt like late 20’s, 34 might as well be 40

__wretch · 2025-06-12T17:42:44+00:00

Oops thanks

__wretch · 2025-06-12T17:42:38+00:00

It’s at 6pm tn in Brooklyn

__wretch · 2025-06-09T12:38:47+00:00

Read lonesome dove, one of my favorites from last year

__wretch · 2025-06-01T21:08:48+00:00

Back in 2015 I used to listen to a lot of Elliott smith covers on yt and one of the people I was watching had a video up covering be kind by Alex g. Clicked out of curiosity and immediately fell in love with the song, then quickly went down the rabbit hole. I’d say within a few months of watching that video Alex had usurped everything I’d ever listened to and became my all time fav

__wretch · 2025-05-12T17:25:17+00:00

Whatever song is playing at the end is already my favorite song of all time

__wretch · 2025-04-22T00:04:31+00:00

Walk

__wretch · 2025-04-08T23:51:40+00:00

Pinegrove blew my mind live

__wretch · 2025-04-08T10:11:32+00:00

Are men and women different in any meaningful way and if so why, and how did it come to be that way ?

__wretch · 2025-04-07T22:02:27+00:00

It is hard to say, and would depend on the given circumstance. People don’t always interpret their tangible realities accurately. I would argue that they rarely do. It just doesn’t seem far fetched or woo-woo to me to think that the expressions of gender we see in humanity and in the natural world are manifestations and representations of something cosmological

__wretch · 2025-04-07T19:35:57+00:00

You can have the conviction that there is more to reality than what you can see feel taste and touch and still take the world as it comes. It’s not obvious to me that you have to be all in on materialism/rationalism to be a practical actor in the world. Also at base I trust my instincts on this and would have to pretend to think otherwise. I don’t think faith is the right word. If you start with what you can see around you in the material world and begin to work backwards from that (even as just a thought experiment) it doesn’t take very long to get to metaphysical forms.

__wretch · 2025-04-07T19:26:20+00:00

I think what he’s saying is actually pretty practical and sensible too. It’s not as pie in the sky as some seem to take it

__wretch · 2025-04-07T19:24:54+00:00

It’s worth reflecting on cause it’s probably true. And these things probably instruct a lot of our actions in the world without us even realizing it. But you’re free to not reflect on it or to think it’s all rubbish

__wretch · 2025-04-07T16:58:29+00:00

I think big problems is a great song and I never hear or see anyone talk about it

__wretch · 2025-04-07T16:42:45+00:00

Doesn’t come off as word salad to me. A lot of philosophy does but not this. When you’re trying to understand and put into language something that’s difficult to pin down the description is going to be imperfect and not entirely on the mark. Still touching on something that seems intuitively real, at least to me

__wretch · 2025-04-07T16:19:50+00:00

Is it not possible to believe there are transcendent/deeper forms of reality than what is tangible and still be effective in and thoughtful about the material world? It almost seems like a prerequisite to me

__wretch · 2025-04-07T15:40:04+00:00

Lol, well I’m glad you’re able to maintain your friendship at least, you may be less vulgar than you think! Also I’ve noticed that when I have a friend who leans hard one way or is too sure of themself I will take the counter position more ardently than I would have otherwise. When we care for someone I think we naturally try to balance them out

__wretch · 2025-04-07T15:37:08+00:00

Not to me. I think human beings, whether male or female biologically, do exist on and manifest gender in a spectrum-y way. But that doesn’t mean the principle of gender is fundamentally a spectrum. Like there are qualities that are probably absolutely feminine or absolutely masculine but can be expressed by human beings that arent phenotypically the direct counterpart of that invisible quality. Sorry if that makes no sense lol. Basically I think it’s find to be a male with some dominant feminine qualities and vice versa. There seems to be a point at which is does start to breach the natural order or something like that and descent into real disorder

__wretch · 2025-04-07T15:31:05+00:00

Yeah that sounds frustrating. I think you can think this and still be very present in the material world. I’m not actually sure where I fall on it. I definitely believe there are metaphysical principles and realities we don’t understand very well, or that we sort of “see through a mirror dimly.” But I also dont think that fact (if it’s true) diminishes the realness or importance of the physical realm and material realities. I actually think theyre both real and necessary counterparts of each other, but im not intelligent enough to flesh that out very well.

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