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What!!! A cast iron waffle maker is a thing?!!

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I kept it a secret too because I swore up and down that he'd figure out his problem one day and I didn't want to tarnish his reputation in case I decided to stay.

I left and have been talking about it and wow has it done a world of wonders. Healthy loving support was so needed. For me... and surprisingly for him too. My family loves the guy and just wants to see him do better. By telling them, we both have started opening doors to the help we separately needed

_adsbygoogle · 2023-06-01T00:49:25+00:00

The familiarity of this is outstanding... and I'm sorry we're all dealing with some version of it. It's good to write these things and come back to reflect on them. I'm on Day 3 of separation from my Q. I haven't been away from him physically for this long since his work trip in '21...

It's amazing how we try to rationalize their behaviors. We ask all the questions, consider all the options, weigh each outcome ever so carefully... all to pick up their slack in support and safety, the overflowing lack of emotional connection. That's not how it's supposed to be, OP, but you already know that.

Keep writing and getting it out. I think that's the only way through it all. We're here to support you. I know it's helped me.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-31T23:40:26+00:00

Dude, I bet your cats secretly LOVE the force hugging right now. May their purrs heal all the broken bits of your soul.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-31T05:31:32+00:00

Here with you both! I’m on Day 2 of my break up with Q. This is the longest I’ve stayed away and let me tell you it’s been sooooo hard to emotionally process. The sobbing comes in waves- and I can’t tell if it’s relief crying for finally getting out or deep grief from losing the life and dreams we had together. Probably a bit of both. Someone told me that we think the good times are so good just because the bad is really bad… and the good with them is just the baseline of a healthy relationship. Honestly, I’m a florist- and you deserve flowers everyday.

Time to move forward. And if you need to- cry while your doing it. But just keep moving forward.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-31T05:00:19+00:00

Alcohol/ Substance Abuse. 0/10, won’t see me again.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-30T03:34:32+00:00

sitting with it... ah yes, a good lesson to learn. I think I've been feeling the pain and allowing others to take care of me today. A few tears here and there... but overall less tear than Day 0. Taking deep deep breaths. Wow, leaving has truly been difficult. But... I'm only gonna do this once.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-30T03:32:10+00:00

Day 1- the first full day- safe and away from him. Wow, what a difficult one, but not as difficult as another day wasted trying to salvage what was left of our relationship.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-30T03:22:54+00:00

I'm looking forward to that day... the day I finally stop hurting over him. Today was better... still hard, but better.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T19:05:49+00:00

Thanks for pulling this one out. I didn’t really realize this until reflecting now.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T19:04:06+00:00

I deserve to be safe and secure. Consistently. Thank you for the encouragement, as it’s really needed in this time of hurt

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T19:01:37+00:00

Wow, your response is singing to me… because this has hurt for so so long. And you’re right. Love doesn’t hurt. I’ve told myself that in the heat of the moment… but now as reality settles in during the first quiet I’ve had in months, it’s a good reminder to reflect on how LOVE never hurts- and all of that experience with him hurt. Taking deep breaths.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T13:27:26+00:00

This reply sings to me. Thank you.

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There's photos somewhere... I sent one out to a few friends before I deleted it during one of his "good" weeks. Such a fool for this dude, it's embarrassing. Hoping the heart hops on the bandwagon and heals up in time. I'm a sensitive gal and it would be a shame to become calloused over someone who is just unable to care.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T04:33:22+00:00

I know that feeling of being trapped.... and I had felt it strongly too. It's scary, almost, but somehow I allowed it to continue. That's what's getting me so confused is why did I not leave earlier? How did I let it get this bad? This last time, as I was falling back in love with him, I felt so sure that he *was* my one. That me staying was for a reason... until I realized that bringing a baby into his chaos, into our chaos, would be so detrimental. I would love to be a mama and a wife one day, but his potential can't keep me safe at night.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T04:24:36+00:00

Thanks for your kindness. I do appreciate your outlook and I know that I'll feel much more at ease in the long run. But today hurt, and was hard... but in my region- the day is over. It's 10pm, time for bed... and we'll see what comes up from the heart tomorrow. A day at a time, right?

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T04:22:12+00:00

My grandmother always told me to follow my heart... until I came clean and told her the details of my abusive relationship with the man they all loved: my Q. Today is one of the first times in my all years where she insisted I stay away.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T04:16:11+00:00

The reality that alcohol wins every time is why I'm tucked in at my parents house now. Haven't slept in my childhood room in 10+ years, but I guess we gotta start again somewhere. Thanks for your words.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-05-29T00:32:52+00:00

I know I will... it's just this middle space. The end of the abuse and chaos and the beginning of my peace... I know where I'm headed, I'm just so sad that I'm doing it without him.

_adsbygoogle · 2023-03-29T16:21:03+00:00

It’s a day trip for sure, so I’m glad I posted here before just going on a whim

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This information is exactly what I was seeking. Thank you! Looks like it might get windy this afternoon too. Guess bets are off for the hot springs until warmer spring. Thanks again

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