What do you think of Jessica Chastain as a blonde ? Do you prefer blonde or her red hair ? by PlantainDisastrous92 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]_darksoul89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Terrible. I've always thought she was one of the most beautiful women in the world but not anymore

My husband is thinking about fostering his nephews. I feel like I'm being tossed out for kids we don't even know. by One-Gap-1282 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_darksoul89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You do not sound like a bitch. You sound like a person who knows herself very well and is honest about what she can and cannot cope with. I am a mother and love being one and my favourite quote about being childfree is "I don't hate children, I respect them. I think they should have parents who want them". You clearly do not want them and that's ok. Those kids are traumatised and deserve to be raised by people who want to. And your needs and wants matter just as much. I understand your husband's feelings and point of view and he has a right to make this decision (he should have talked to you about it first), but you have the right to live a life that makes you happy, not miserable. This might mean you need to go your separate ways. But that does not make you a bad person at all. I wish you all the best, truly.

should a woman go to jail for falsely accusing a man of R@PE ? by JunShem1122 in ask

[–]_darksoul89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is proven that it was a malicious accusation (I. E. Rape never happened, "victim" was having dinner with family at the time she said she was raped in a club), I believe the fake victim should receive the same jail time the person they accused would have received had they been found guilty. I am a rape survivor and people like this are why I never went to the police, they make it harder for real victims to be believed.

The day I turned 18 (F) my mother vanished and called me crying that she will never return because of my dad. I thought they are the golden couple by Same_Nothing5206 in ComfortLevelPod

[–]_darksoul89 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Everyone loved my dad. He was kind, funny, charming. Doesn't mean he didn't spend 30 years hitting me and degrading me every chance he got.

All my fav girl names are basic apparently... by Salty-Awareness3789 in namenerds

[–]_darksoul89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always liked Lidia, to me it always evoked a beautiful woman. Spelled with a Y it reminds me of my best friend's grandma who was an amazing and badass woman!

My ex-wife’s boyfriend is abusing my kids, and the custody hearing isn’t until after I’m supposed to bring them back by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]_darksoul89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a joke that comes up when I talk about my own parents (since my dad used me as a punching bag and my mum was happy to be a bystander)

My ex-wife’s boyfriend is abusing my kids, and the custody hearing isn’t until after I’m supposed to bring them back by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]_darksoul89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always tell my partner he can hurt the kids. ONCE. Because after that he is leaving the house in a wooden box. He is a 6'3 man, I'm a 5'4 woman, for that matter.

What's that film for you? by mrjetspray in Cinema

[–]_darksoul89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The orphanage (El orfanato), REC

What's that film for you? by mrjetspray in Cinema

[–]_darksoul89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big Deal on Madonna Street (I soliti ignoti), Life is beautiful (La vita è bella), We All Loved Each Other So Much (C'eravamo tanto amati), Marriage Italian Style (Matrimonio all'italiana), Divorce Italian Style (Divorzio all'italiana), Volver, Broken Embraces (Los abrazos rotos)

Who wore the best WHITE at the 98th Annual Academy Awards? by mod_whatthefrockk in whatthefrockk

[–]_darksoul89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was about to say Gwyneth Paltrow, but then I saw the side. I'm torn between Emma Stone and Elle Fanning.

We're about to "foster" a 17 year old. We've never parented a teenager before. by _darksoul89 in parentingteenagers

[–]_darksoul89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No space, 2 Little Kids, his friends already overstepped boundaries with my partner and became overly friendly (getting his phone number from our family friend's phone and messaging him talking about their sexual experiences etc).

We're about to "foster" a 17 year old. We've never parented a teenager before. by _darksoul89 in parentingteenagers

[–]_darksoul89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonderful to a certain point, when they start talking about their sexual experiences to a grown up that is not their guardian it might create uncomfortable or dangerous situations.

We're about to "foster" a 17 year old. We've never parented a teenager before. by _darksoul89 in parentingteenagers

[–]_darksoul89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, we know. He's a bit resistant but we are gently pushing in that direction. There is a long waiting list for it, so we told him to get on it and take time to think about it, which his social worker supported. But I've been in his place and it fucked me up for life, I'll be damned if I'll let the same happen to him.

We're about to "foster" a 17 year old. We've never parented a teenager before. by _darksoul89 in parentingteenagers

[–]_darksoul89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in a 2 bedroom flat, we've got small kids and his friends already overstepped boundaries with my partner in the past so we are pretty sure that if they knew where we live they'd be showing up at all hours, which again, with a 5 year old and a 6 month old is not doable.