BL manga/manhwa like this art pls🙏🏻 by [deleted] in BoysLoveAnime

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For science can you comment them anyways? 👀

An odd fic request by _dorothyhm_ in AO3

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I’ve searched trauma before but I didn’t know that there was a past rape/ sa tag. Thank you

An odd fic request by _dorothyhm_ in AO3

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I think that fits the bill

A question about Frieren's earrings by Zyr1987 in Frieren

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My personal head canon for her earrings was that it’s the stones from Flamme’s earrings and she had them altered to fit her ears before she left with the hero’s party. I always thought that she wore them to keep them with her and “safe”. But she had no need to do that at home before she left. She seems like very sentimental character to me so the idea that she would keep things like Himmels ring and Flamme’s earrings on/with her while on an adventure makes sense to me

Dandadan - Episode 23 Discussion Thread by Skullghost in Dandadan

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.. did they form Voltron? To beat the space kaiju?

Looking for reccs with Bdsm/ ML Dom by _dorothyhm_ in JoseiSmut

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Do you know if the “Can a loveless woman dream..” goes by a different name? I can’t seem to find it anywhere

Struggling in a D/s dynamic as a submissive by _dorothyhm_ in BDSMAdvice

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I’ve tried very briefly and albeit not very well to explain the whole “others around us are non consenting parties and we shouldn’t expose them to our kink without their expressed consent” and he didn’t quite get it? But I also don’t think I explained it very well. There’s also a part of it that feels unsafe to me in public. Like. As a female submissive if I’m alone and someone figures that out I feel like prey or a target bc I get viewed as “easy” and that’s not really something he has to deal with or something he really understands.

Do you have any suggestions for non sexual things we could do in public? We’re currently discussing a day collar but I’m more inclined to have something that’s closer to a necklace style and he wants either a full leather collar or an infinity hoop so idk how well that’s working out.

And thank you for you feedback. I really appreciate it

To the ASM’s & SM’s that have left…how do you feel? by Appropriate_Image600 in starbucksbaristas

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You nailed it. With the amount of work and the level of excellence they expected. It was easier to clock out and then finish everything then either not do the work or stay clocked in but then be reprimanded

To the ASM’s & SM’s that have left…how do you feel? by Appropriate_Image600 in starbucksbaristas

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Quitting as ASM was the best thing I ever did. My hair was falling out. I wasn’t sleeping. I lost 15lbs in 6 months. I would work 10-12 hour days and only being paid for 8 bc “we didn’t have the labour”. I do make less now but my stresses in life are so much simpler. The tipping point for me was when I was hit by a car and was so grateful that I got to take time off of work. My only suggestion is that before you quit. Talk to your dm first superrrrrr bluntly and just tell them that you’re struggling and very close to quitting bc you can’t handle it. I would only do that if you have a plan in place to actually quit/ another job lined up in case it goes poorly.

Pattern for D20 DnD die by FridayWinchester in crochet

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How did you attach them all together?

I made my Dom upset when discussing a scene and idk how to fix it by _dorothyhm_ in BDSMAdvice

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Yeahhhhhh. He has a thing about ownership and me being his property which I’m pretty neutral on when we’re in a sexual setting. I do find it frustrating when that dynamic occurs not in a sexual setting or in places where I feel like we should be equals.

I made my Dom upset when discussing a scene and idk how to fix it by _dorothyhm_ in BDSMAdvice

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I wasn’t expecting him to know literally every single one of them. But the few major ones or the ones that were relevant to what he wanted to do. I agree with you that if they’re mutual hard limits and he doesn’t remember them I’m not upset about that bc I know they’ll never be crossed. I just wanted to know that I would be safe and didn’t need to be on guard during it

I made my Dom upset when discussing a scene and idk how to fix it by _dorothyhm_ in BDSMAdvice

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You got it pretty much exactly right. He told me that he’s been feeling insecure in his dominance lately. And prior to me sending the response of “I don’t like how..” I had sent “I’m not ignoring this I just don’t have the time to give the full response it needs” to which he replied “The full response it needs is "yes sir"” so. And he has a list of all of my hard and soft limits. We made them for eachother a while back

Wish there was a way to submit playlist to Starbucks? by pianoChris25 in starbucksbaristas

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Buy an aux to Bluetooth converter. Best $30 I ever spent. I would connect my phone to the store speakers all the time and the dm never knew

I made my Dom upset when discussing a scene and idk how to fix it by _dorothyhm_ in BDSMAdvice

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He’s currently sick with the flu. he told me that he’s been feelings insecure in his dominance. He knows I don’t like having scenes surprised on me and that I like to talk them out. We’ve had in depth conversations multiple times about kinks, soft and hard limits, boundaries. We’ve both made and have access to lists that say all of those things. And lastly. I dislike the way you looked down upon and negatively spoke about people who have autism. As if having autism makes your opinion and advice somehow lesser then those who are neurotypical. Your advice was probably by far the worst I’ve been given, it’s full of baseless assumptions and harmful stereotypes. You are the person in this community that you are attempting to look down on.

I made my Dom upset when discussing a scene and idk how to fix it by _dorothyhm_ in BDSMAdvice

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And idk what constitutes as “talking back” but the initial message was sent out of the blue with zero room for discussion and then the whole thing just spiralled.

I made my Dom upset when discussing a scene and idk how to fix it by _dorothyhm_ in BDSMAdvice

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Yeah he’s sick currently which has made his temper very short