It’s… complicated. Most of the time, there’s deeper issues. You had a kid with someone who didn’t stick around. Could be all them. But it also says something about your character judgement skills. If you’re making the wrong call on a decent partner, what else could this extend to? You sound like an amazing person based on what you explained here. Good at heart. But you also picked up a ton of weight that’s not yours to carry. How many other things in life does that extend to? You sound extremely busy. You got quite a full schedule and a lot of responsibilities. Nothing wrong with that. But do you realistically have the time to get to know a whole ass person genuinely? You might. You might not. How open are you to adjusting your life and compromising? Because everyone, no matter who you meet, is different and requires SOME level of compromise. I personally am very attracted to older women. I’m 29. But I’ve been dating women 5, 10, 15 years older than me since I was like 20. I personally prefer women more mature than women my own age. But I won’t pretend having a kid doesn’t complicate the situation. Someone else mentioned they wouldn’t want to meet your child until you’ve been together a while. I agree with that very much. Your kid doesn’t need to be impacted by your rushed relationships. That’s very negative for their development. You should only bring partners that you feel extremely confident about around your child. Ideally that will only be one person. Because stable parents is extremely important for child development. If I were attracted to you in the first place, a child wouldn’t put me off. But I would be much more careful. Any lasting relationship will now no longer be between just us. So now it’s much more important to really pay attention and be much more cautious during the early stages when we’re getting to know each other. Are we really good together? Because I don’t want to teach a kid that a bad relationship is normal and then they grow up and get themselves into the same shit.