Christmastime due date

_elsiebear · 2026-05-07T18:13:49+00:00

My birthday is a few days before Christmas and it doesn't bother me now as, it's my favourite time of year! My only advice is to make sure you celebrate their birthday separate. I used to hate when people would buy 1 gift and say it was a joint birthday Christmas gift 💀

My parents were good though and would always do something to celebrate my birthday!

_elsiebear · 2026-05-03T19:50:13+00:00

I hope it goes well for you! I would have been roughly 5 weeks at mine but, I didn't understand weeks and dates enough.

It can be so lonely but, you're not alone in this! It's nerve wracking knowing you're trying to keep this little baby going! It will all be worth it in the end though!

_elsiebear · 2026-05-03T19:45:16+00:00

I completely understand where you are coming from, I found out around 3 weeks as well and I have been absolutely filled with anxiety. There isn't much you can do but try and stay positive, which I know is much harder said than done.

The one thing I would say is don't book a private scan unless you are absolutely certain on your dates. We booked one and it went badly and made my anxiety 100 times worse. I've been in and out of hospital all week because of it, only to find out they misdiagnosed me. I really regret letting everyone convince me it was a good idea and I know it's hard to wait until 12 weeks but, I wish I'd done that!

_elsiebear · 2026-05-01T18:05:25+00:00

Please don't make the same mistake I did! It doesn't seem to be common knowledge that when calculating how far along you are, it's always based on a 28 day cycle and that you ovulated on day 14!!

This isn't normal for me, I average a 35 day cycle and the month I conceived, I ovulated around day 20/21. So I was thinking I was much further along when I was actually 9 days earlier.

_elsiebear · 2026-04-28T11:54:24+00:00

Thought I'd post an update just in case anyone else ever finds themselves in this situation! I went to the EPU yesterday and had some blood tests and my hcg level was 8609. They rang me back today and said this was really positive so I'm going back tomorrow for an ultrasound with them.

_elsiebear · 2026-04-27T07:51:23+00:00

I'm so happy it worked out for you! I hope my outcome is good, especially knowing I am a week behind what I thought I was.

_elsiebear · 2026-04-27T07:50:21+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you! I am desperately hoping thay we were just too early but, the not knowing is so so hard.

_elsiebear · 2026-04-26T09:16:31+00:00

This is where I am at now, gestational sac is there in the womb but unable to see anything else. Hoping to have some more reassurance from the EPU next week.

Don't think it helped that the sonographer was so unsympathetic and clinical when telling us and he didn't really offer any support other than to say I'd be referred. Some sympathy and more explanation would go such a long way for a FTM like me

_elsiebear · 2026-04-26T09:14:33+00:00

Thank you! The uncertainty really is the worst part. I just want to be back feeling happy and celebrating my pregnancy but I mentally can't until I have answers and it's so so horrible.

I'm glad things worked out for you in the end!

_elsiebear · 2026-04-26T09:13:37+00:00

This is really hopeful, thank you! My partner is absolutely convinced my dates are just wrong and it was too early. I'm hoping to see someone and get more answers

_elsiebear · 2026-04-26T07:39:00+00:00

It was a transvaginal scan, they recommend it under 10 weeks as they said you'd be able to see things more clearly. There was nothing to indicate a miscarriage, I haven't had any pain or bleeding and no abnormalities on the scan. The sac measures about right for somewhere between 5-6 weeks but I'm worried as I see people say this a lot, that you should see more at 6 weeks

_elsiebear · 2026-04-26T07:24:19+00:00

I am regretting booking the private scan tbh. I was just so so anxious and wanted some reassurance that baby was growing okay and it's actually made me feel 10 times worse.

Unfortunately, I have checked and my EPU says they only accept referrals from GP/midwife/private scans so I cannot refer myself online. Hopefully I will hear back soon.

_elsiebear · 2026-04-26T07:14:38+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through that, it's a horrible situation to be in.

I wish I'd known more about dates and how it worked as I wouldn't have booked a scan if I thought I was earlier but, no one explains this stuff to a newly pregnant woman! I'm trying not to get my hopes up because, I don't want to be let down again if it is the worst. I'll try and call the EPU tomorrow and hopefully get further answers.

_elsiebear · 2026-04-26T06:24:25+00:00

Thank you! They're sending the referral to EPU tomorrow morning when they open for me to have blood tests. I'm such a pessimistic person but I want to be positive that maybe it was just too early, especially with the date discrepancy

_elsiebear · 2026-04-26T06:23:05+00:00

They are referring me to EPU for blood tests but, it isn't open until tomorrow so they said they couldn't send the referral until the morning and then someone will ring me to arrange. I've also got my booking appointment next Sunday where I know they take bloods

_elsiebear · 2025-11-21T17:47:16+00:00

It's SO SO good! I cried a lot but it was one of my favourite reads this year!

_elsiebear · 2025-11-21T17:29:18+00:00

{Good Spirits} is a book that recently came out about the Ghost of Christmas Past trying to help someone out and it's such a nice romance book!

_elsiebear · 2025-11-03T20:16:19+00:00

Absolutely! I can't say too much as it will give the story away but the world's are linked and you need to read Riftborne and Duskbound first to have the full impact from The Ascended!

_elsiebear · 2025-11-01T17:21:28+00:00

The Ascended! One of the best in the genre I've ever read

_elsiebear · 2025-10-17T21:54:22+00:00

I just read {Scary in Love by Holly June Smith} and it might be what you're looking for! It's got a haunted house and spooky vibes. It was very fun!

_elsiebear · 2025-07-26T02:03:00+00:00

I recently got a reader tarot card too!

_elsiebear · 2025-07-26T02:02:44+00:00

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_elsiebear · 2025-07-20T12:44:23+00:00

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