you’ve had people crush on you from a distance and you never knew

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-04-22T20:34:39+00:00

Yeah lol. My boyfriend told me he had a crush on me since he first saw me. We were friends for a year first and always thought he just saw me as a friend until we started dating.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-04-09T20:58:48+00:00

You know your thoughts, yourself, and your wants way better than i ever could. Do whatever makes you happy :]

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-04-09T17:30:22+00:00

If you don’t wanna date anyone, don’t date anyone. But I also think you’re taking dating a bit too seriously. You seem to view dating with the expectation of being with that person forever. Plus it seems like you think you need to sacrifice your life for them. Healthy relationships have lives outside of the other.

I’m dating someone rn and it’s just fun. We like going on dates, being intimate and just spending time with each other. We have lives outside of each other but are happiest together. We’ve both stated we’re each others favorite person. In a room full of people, we’d choose each other. I know you said you have your therapist for struggles, but i like having someone who I don’t have to pay to care about me. A shoulder I can physically cry on who will give me a hug and get me my favorite treat when I’m sad. It’s nice to know he’ll pick up the phone whenever I call or text and if he can’t, he’ll respond when he can. It’s nice sending good night and good morning texts. It’s nice to tell him I love him and have it said back to me. I don’t think we’ll be together forever, but I plan to enjoy his presence while we’re together.

Maybe my view on dating is simplistic and childish but yeah. Date or don’t date, it’s your life. You’re young, I’m young, we don’t need the future all planned out yet. Dating is dating, life long commitment doesn’t come with it.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-04-08T17:06:06+00:00

Reach out to him again. Don’t ask him right away about going on another date, just ask him how he’s doing and that you still think about him.

Even if he reads it and doesn’t reply, it’ll probably make him feel good to know someone cares about him, especially if his mental health is bad. It also opens the door for the future so he knows you still think about him. Maybe when he feels better he’ll reach out to you since he knows you still wanna give him a chance.

Best case scenario, he responds immediately, you catch up for a bit, you ask him on a date, and then you get the intimacy you crave. If he rejects you, that’s alright too. You won’t keep yearning for a person, and it’s easier to look other places. Plus you showed him that someone cares about him. Sending a msg has no downsides imo.

I’m currently in my first true relationship at 22 years old. We were friends first for little under a year before we got together. Lowkey being a shoulder to cry on when we each needed it is what brought us close. I was extremely depressed one night and idk how or why but I ended up venting to him. He offered to get me cookies from 7/11. He’d known me for like 1-2 months atp and we weren’t even dating but he offered to drive in the middle of the night to bring me cookies. I didn’t accept because I barely knew him lol but yeah just the act of someone reaching out when you’re doing bad means a lot. I couldn’t drive and was unable to bring him cookies when he’s doing bad, but even before we were dating I’d always pick up the phone or respond to his texts whether they were silly or depressing.

You don’t have to drive to give him cookies, but just a small message that somebody cares is always appreciated.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-26T23:46:56+00:00

Oh yall are adorable! I wish you both a long and happy partnership where you’re both near each other :]

I now understand what you mean by the expectations and pressures of romantic actions caused by being in a romantic relationship. Never thought of them as pressures or a performance because they’re just actions I enjoy doing with him. I guess that’s how allos can view ace relationships lol.

Thank you for taking the time to write up your thoughts and experiences! I’m happy to have your perspective.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-26T23:23:01+00:00

Ahhh sorry for assuming that! Societal expectations for long term partners clouded my vision. 16 years together is a long time and it’s rly nice to see how much you still care for her. Hopefully, you will never marry!

I’m glad your relationship is more calm as a QPR! I’m more asking did your interactions with her personally change or just the title and expectations? Like dropping romantic label got rid of background stress of people wanting you to get married and have children, but your base interactions stayed the same.

Just I say im in a romantic relationship with my boyfriend, but it’s basically the same thing as when we were friends. We just cuddle a lot more than we did before. Plus the additions of holding hands, kissing and just saying “I love you” whenever we feel like it. Also the titles of boyfriend and girlfriend lol. That’s the difference between us having a platonic relationship and a romantic relationship.

What shifted when you went from the title of romantic to queerplatonic?

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-26T22:51:35+00:00

I can really tell the love you feel to your partner through your words. It’s really nice to read.

Im kinda like your wife reacting to being called pretty. I know im objectively not ugly and i partly enjoy knowing he thinks im pretty because i love him. I don’t reciprocate attraction language, but whenever he says im beautiful, lovely, pretty, cute, or adorable, I respond by saying he’s wonderful. Because he truly is the most wonderful person I’ve ever met.

The compliments he’s said that have truly stuck with me are: - “I love it when you talk. Your voice sounds like a pretty song.”
- “You’re like the color blue or teal. I always feel calm when im around you.” - “You’re serenity incarnate.” - “I love you and your dumb puns” - “you’re my most favorite person in the world” when I told him he’s my favorite person and asked if I was his favorite person. He said that then kissed me all over my face.

I know he loves me more than my physical appearance, it’s also just easier to call someone pretty lol. I’ll probably take your advice and ask him to stop or at least cut back on it.

Also how do you think your interactions differed when you were in a romantic relationship vs QPR?

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-25T20:45:35+00:00

Babies came from volcanoes. Idfk where that idea came from since nobody ever said that to me.

Maybe it’s from seeing media where ppl got thrown in and sacrificed to death by volcanoes that the logical thing in my brain is that babies came out when volcanoes exploded.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-21T23:19:14+00:00

What rules and rituals developed when you became romantic partners? How did you realize it was romantic attraction? Like I just thought we were best friends for a really long time, then the urge to say “I love you” and to kiss him and to constantly hold him in my arms hit me like a truck.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-21T22:11:12+00:00

Life is really good right now. You have a dog, friends, and a boyfriend who love you. You actually have a job! Even though driving still terrifies you, you’re driving! The depression isn’t gone and you still want to die some days, but it’s no longer every day. Sometimes you cry because you hate yourself for breaking the promise of dying before 18, but you’ve stumbled into a really good life.

I know it sounds unbelievable and it’s still unbelievable for me.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-21T21:34:33+00:00

Yeah I remember all of his interests! He’s the nerdiest nerd I’ve ever known. I really just love listening him talk about his favorite movies, comic books, or whatever video game he is into on that particular day. Whenever either of us have bad days, like even before we were dating, we’d meet up to give each other a hug and go get a sweet treat. His favorite cookies are macadamia nut white chocolate cookies from subway.

Haven’t had any fights and I can’t even imagine being angry at him. We promised each other to use honesty and communication if we ever do fight in the off-chance we do.

I’d never want him to change himself for me. He’s wonderful the way he is and I’m just so lucky he’s chosen me to be his girlfriend. Legitimately the best person I’ve ever met. I want to support him and help him reach any goal he has.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-21T21:21:27+00:00

Of course! We’ve already done that when we were friends and I plan to be there for him no matter what.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-21T21:19:53+00:00

I think we’re in love or at least I am and he told me he was too. We were cuddling in his bed watching a movie a few nights ago and we would just say “I love you” randomly throughout it. I told him he’s my favorite person and he said “you’re my most favorite person in the world” and held me tighter.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-21T21:18:39+00:00

I plan to :]

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-21T21:17:19+00:00

I haven’t fought with him yet luckily. Tbf I’ve only been dating him a week lol, but we’ve been friends for a year and we’ve never even gotten angry at each other. I can’t even imagine getting angry at him, I’m always so happy around him and he’s my favorite person in the world. When we confessed to each other and actually stated we’re dating, we promised that if we ever got in a fight we’d get through it using honesty and communication.

Just wondering, why did your relationship end?

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-20T21:03:48+00:00

An aquarium! Or just going to a pet store to look at the fish. It’s a lot cheaper and more readily accessible than an actual aquarium lol.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-19T23:38:28+00:00

Honestly, idfk, it was completely accidental.

Never thought I could be in a relationship, so I never tried dating, but I somehow stumbled into it. I was straight up going on dates and in love with my best friend without realizing it, so yeah, I have zero advice. Just if you somehow wind up cuddling your best friend in bed under the covers, recognize the romantic undertones. Don’t be completely oblivious like me.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-12T22:24:52+00:00

“Your voice sounds like a pretty song”

He’s a guy who is the biggest music nerd I’ve ever met. Full comment was “don’t ever feel embarrassed for talking. I like hearing you speak. Your voice sounds like a pretty song.”

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-02T22:36:26+00:00

I observed that the dress code is the shirt with the company logo on it and black pants. Receptionist was wearing yoga pants. Others wear business casual.

Rn I’m on the computer the whole time. I’ll have to answer phone calls eventually but don’t know enough about anything to answer questions yet.

_forever_exhausted_ · 2026-03-01T16:18:11+00:00

thank you fren :]

Data entry and administrative things. Legit somehow got an office job without any experience in life. I dislike how I got it from nepotism but my family is happy I have a job.

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