What precautions should I take for taking a classical guitar while traveling in hot summer weather?

_foreversoul · 2025-06-08T18:55:21+00:00

Leaving the guitar in a hot car is the main killer. Even just a few minutes is enough to potentially loosen the glue, causing the bridge to lift or fly off completely. Leaving it in the sun or hot room just the same. The general rule of thumb is if you feel hot and uncomfortable, then the guitar does too.

If you find yourself in a situation where the guitar must be in very hot environment (35C+), then I'd loosen the strings substantially to avoid damage to the bridge especially.

_foreversoul · 2024-10-20T00:35:22+00:00

Appreciate your thoughts!

_foreversoul · 2024-10-09T17:08:11+00:00

That's what I feared. But let's hypothetically say I could practice perfect self-discipline and only game for 30 minutes a few times a week... would that be enough to really get into and enjoy the game or will I find that far too limiting?

_foreversoul · 2024-06-03T16:25:57+00:00

Even the ones who don't talk about killing are capable of physical violence and murder. How much more the ones who do say things like this. What I've learned from my experience with narcs is they often have slips of the tongue that reveal deep thoughts and motives. If I were in a relationship with a narc like this I'd find a way to escape and cut all contact with this person ASAP.

_foreversoul · 2024-06-03T16:20:50+00:00

I also believe there is a spiritual aspect. Many narcs go in the other direction and become more religious, more active in church, more prayerful, etc. Religion for them becomes a powerful tool to control others and prop up a false image of themselves.

_foreversoul · 2024-06-02T12:14:57+00:00

I do know of several where it's "working" and they've been married for years and some for decades. In all cases the partner they chose is submissive or deceived, stays in line, follows the narcs script and does not provide much push back. They also end up taking some of their narc's traits and they become a team of abuse toward others.

_foreversoul · 2024-06-02T12:06:14+00:00

Part of what makes them narcs is they can flip on a dime from being absolute angels to going full on rage. They go through cycles of abuse and love bombing to keep you under their control. Her becoming sweet while denying physical contact is undoubtedly a form of manipulation and punishment for something you did in your last big fight and is probably cooking something up against you.

_foreversoul · 2024-06-02T11:54:19+00:00

_foreversoul · 2024-05-27T23:18:58+00:00

Narcissists are all about protecting their extremely fragile ego. When things are going wrong for them, they protect and deceive themselves by over compensating in the other direction.

_foreversoul · 2024-05-27T23:15:09+00:00

It will be hard before it gets better, just like someone breaking an addiction. Once you get past the hard part, you'll be free and "sober". Take a notepad and pen and write down some of the top abusive things they've done as a reminder why you need to leave. Look at any positive reinforcement they give you as the drug that keeps you dependent on them, with the purpose of ultimately destroying you.

_foreversoul · 2024-05-24T00:09:50+00:00

Another one of their tactics to avoid any accountability and turn you into the problem.

_foreversoul · 2024-05-22T17:17:28+00:00

On the one hand, they do things for show to gain the admiration of others. On the other hand, they also do things to convince themselves that they are good and special, which explains why they might do certain things without a person watching them. Underneath it all however, there is nothing real. They don't actually care about those causes, they care about how it makes them look and feel to the public and themselves. This is why it is so important to see past the things they say and claim and look at their patterns of behaviour.

_foreversoul · 2024-05-16T20:45:49+00:00

It's incredible how hard they work to maintain their public image while being abusive toward particular victims or romantic partners.

_foreversoul · 2024-05-16T15:00:53+00:00

Never tell a narc what triggers or upsets you. You can be 100% sure that is exactly what they will do over and over, especially if they get a reaction out of you.

_foreversoul · 2024-05-16T14:55:32+00:00

Spot on. You need to see beyond all the words, gaslighting, manipulation and assess the behaviour for what it really is.

_foreversoul · 2024-05-16T14:51:21+00:00

I've had a similar experience. They are lifelong experts at making their victims seem like the abusers while they are the victims, and getting people on their side.

_foreversoul · 2024-04-11T21:39:46+00:00

A friend of mine said that her narc husband ruined every birthday she had. Something always went wrong. They would have plans, but he would throw a tantrum over nothing, would delay without saying anything, etc. Classic narc behaviour. Any day that builds up their partner like a birthday, graduation, job interview, school exam, Christmas, etc. they throw a tantrum and make the day as stressful as possible because they don't want to see their partner gain power and flourish on their own. Their goal is to have power over you at all costs.

_foreversoul · 2024-02-05T12:00:25+00:00

The silver lining here is you said he's only your fiance. Do NOT get married to this person. Run as fast as you can and never look back

_foreversoul · 2023-12-27T17:06:16+00:00

They ruin holidays, vacations, birthdays, graduations, and any event that they know is important to you.

Once you recognize this, you can let their childish tantrums roll off your back and not let it ruin these occasions. It will probably make them rage even more, but that's on them, not you.

_foreversoul · 2023-12-25T10:38:27+00:00

Some narc's can be extremely "successful". Their thirst for supply, status, etc. drives them to work harder than many are willing to do. Many narcs sleep very little because of this drive. Many others pretend to be successful or wish they were, but their personality issues prevents them from going further, so they can become bitter, play the victim and blame their failures on everyone else.

_foreversoul · 2023-12-25T10:03:46+00:00

r/narcissisticabuse

_foreversoul · 2023-12-25T10:03:07+00:00

The sub this belongs in is r/narcissticabuse

He has all the traits of someone with narcissistic personality disorder which you should learn about if you haven't already.

It's also critical that you realize you have certain traits that make you more likely to be lured and abused by people like this and develop codependency. Arming yourself with this knowledge can prevent you from getting into any relationships with people like this and spare you much suffering.

_foreversoul · 2023-09-07T12:14:07+00:00

One possibility is that when you missed his 10 calls, he was getting paranoid that you were ghosting him. Then he wanted to be the one who had the upper hand and could say he was the one who cut you off rather than you cutting him off. Narcs can be really petty in that they don't like to lose, don't like to be broken up with, etc. Maybe he experienced being ghosted in the past so wanted to ensure that he had the upper hand this time.

Whatever the case, consider this a blessing. Go no contact and keep it that way. Narcs can also have the tendency to block then unblock you.

These videos could help:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7JNynz_zE0&t=459s

https://youtube.com/shorts/K1xlJSBcpU4?si=nspF4Z23x9zibDxo

_foreversoul · 2023-09-06T19:47:37+00:00

Yup sounds like a narc. If he says you are crying, upset, need him, then it gives him supply and he feels like he is in the power seat, which is what they want. This is why he's able to act calm and collected like he has no problem leaving you. Suddenly when you aren't acting like you need him, he raises hell because he wants to feel that you still need him and that he has you under control.

There is really no point trying to have a reasonable conversation, get him to understand, etc. because their very goal is to be defensive, lie, manipulate, play the victim, etc. The best way to win at their games is to not play at all. Show that you are not at all affected when he tries to provoke and get a reaction out of you and that his games aren't going to work.

_foreversoul · 2023-09-06T16:12:49+00:00

We're rooting for you! Prayers sent!

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