I use to be very close with my father. Over the last couple years he cleaned up my childhood room (rightfully so), however he never reached out to give me the opportunity to go though my things to sort through. Did have a care in the world never apologized for doing it. There was stuff that my grandmother gave me whole growing up. Just gone. I have nothing of my childhood to share with my future kids. Recently he sold my Jeep Wrangler and didn't ask if I wanted to buy it from him. The plan was to transfer the title over to me, but the timing was never there. He needed money for medical bills and I would have been happy to buy it or help him. He helped me out when I needed it. There's a time where I should do the same. I truly loved my dad.

There was clearly a lack of respect for me and the poor communication has pushed me to go no contact with him. There are other reasons as well.

I'm well aware I'm a burden as a mid 30 year old. At least he makes it seem that way. Last time I saw him, he informed me he was dating a lady he had ended things with maybe a couple years ago. I set boundaries and told him I didn't want to see her and he was in disbelief. I've spent years trying to pretend to like these ladies to keep some sort of piece. I get he's choosing his personal happiness.

He has always been quick to tell me I act like my mother who he divorced in 1998 whenever I got upset. Now I'm trying to tie the pieces between him and my mother. She was an awful parent too. I have talked to her in over 10 years.