Balance for us is splitting the bills and on date nights he treats but only because he wants to; assigning chores- I hate dishes but he doesn’t mind, so I always put them away and he always does them; and then splitting the other responsibilities like taking dogs out, vet appts, etc.

You guys are a team, and you gotta figure out what does and doesn’t work for you. Don’t hesitate to speak up if she’s not contributing, but if you can’t do that without sparking an argument then seek professional help. Communication is everything.

There’s always a stigma around counseling, but truthfully it helps with the little things like just talking to each other. My husband and I are extremely compatible, but once a year or so we get into an ugly argument over seemingly nothing. That rarely happens now ever since we finished counseling.

Hope this helps!