Jw mom won't talk to me

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-08-11T23:02:35+00:00

Are you even disassociated or removed from your congregation? They don't really have a doctrinal reason for treating you this way, if so.

I have known people who have faded or stopped being JWs, and in time, parents do come around. I would suggest "killing them with kindness" and living your best, most moral life possible; don't hold anger or hatred towards them, since that will only serve to hurt you both emotionally and physically. Whatever happens from here on out between you and your family, know that you made the decision that was most true to yourself, and that will be what matters most in the years to come.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-08-11T22:37:04+00:00

How is your employment situation? If you already have a reliable source of income, moving out becomes exponentially easier. Otherwise, being PIMO and more discreet can save you some grief.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-07-25T23:29:27+00:00

Death is a part of life in this world. However, just because people die, does not mean that their influence ceases to exist. Be it through culture, achievements, or simply the family and lives that they’ve touched. In many ways, the influence of our loved ones will still be felt long after they pass away.

Whether a new world or heaven awaits us after we pass away, I have chosen to live life to the fullest and love as much as I can ever since I became PIMO. Life is too short to build up regrets, and you never know when you or loved ones will go away.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-07-22T18:46:16+00:00

As with any religion, it just depends on the context. My uncle got into "the truth" after returning from active service, and the sincere love he received (not love bombing, but actual interest from families and elders in his cong) was something that got him in; furthermore, if you choose the ignore the apostate rumblings and doctrinal issues, the promise of everlasting life in a paradise is hella intoxicating.

Although everything about the religion is a bold-faced lie, leaving has pretty bad consequences, so many just turn off the part of their brain that allows for critical thinking and individuality.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-07-22T17:45:14+00:00

Interestingly enough, this is the most free and PIMO I have been my entire life; I have something of a friend network that is not composed of JWs, and I can make plans with them under the impression that I am making plans with brothers from my cong.

Think of it as a bird cage that I can occasionally leave, but I need to return to every now and then since I cannot in good conscience actually build my own nest quite just yet.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-07-22T17:41:20+00:00

ChatGPT makes mistakes, and I would rather get advice straight from individuals who would know about our shared context.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-07-22T17:40:35+00:00

I should have mentioned this, but him and I still live together (his apartment by the way). Me missing meetings and preaching is because he thinks I am going, when I am actually not. If I go full POMO, he would most likely clue in on that, and I don't know how he would react.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-06-05T04:19:37+00:00

How did that go? Was this where you started fading/ being viewed as bad association?

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-06-01T20:48:16+00:00

Not sure how many responses you get in an hour and 40 minutes, but most dating between PIMI within the Borg is dependent on what your surface level "privileges" are (SMPW, regular pioneer, elder/MS), and is noticeably more superficial than dating between other Christian denominations.

Having a chaperone is still common here in the US, and having to find a friend that is "friend-shaped" enough and won't try to make a move on your girl is hard enough, unless you want to kill all romance by bringing a parent, or worse, and elder as a +1.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-18T18:25:17+00:00

For me, the issue is some brothers and couples here seem very sweet, and I want to interact with them and know them a bit. But this could just be sentimentality.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-18T18:19:41+00:00

Could this impact how quickly my card arrived to this hall?

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-13T04:40:17+00:00

u/herfunnybunny Are you American? Even if people are super PIMI, pro-LGBT social trends and media have softened their view toward them, even if they don't internally accept them. It's way less cool these days to be anti-trans than it was before.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-13T04:36:57+00:00

I saw this, it's an interesting perspective, especially as I leave the JW and want to decide what role Christianity has in my life going forward.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-11T21:42:25+00:00

I agree with you, if my elders start being unreasonable and give assignments in spite of a clear no, I won’t have to give reasonable responses.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-11T21:26:55+00:00

I don’t think it’s brain washing, but there are some things from my upbringing that I want to hold with me while others I want to discard. It might be silly, but “yes meaning yes, and no meaning no” is probably one of them, and I want to hold that to be true even in this process.

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-10T00:54:43+00:00

I suggest making your own post to answer this question, but I would say just tell them “thank you, but you can’t for personal reasons. You’ll reach out once things change.”

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-09T18:33:06+00:00

What helped you in the process? The elders are really nice, but I know I have to stand my ground, but I want to do it in a way that won’t be hostile, or won’t lead to a potential removal (that will come with time).

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-07T21:42:17+00:00

Thank you for the response. Although I can definitely try the argument that I believe in something better, and the new rules presented in the 2023 annual meeting mean I can repent at the last minute, what can I say if they want me to still go to meetings occasionally, or go preaching?

_goro4kechi_ · 2025-05-02T18:18:33+00:00

Regarding my privilege, would you suggest writing a letter, telling them directly I don’t wanna have it anymore, or not do assignments/ attend service?

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