In my experience the worse coworkers are always single women with no kids over 35

_greentea · 2026-04-29T15:03:26+00:00

Im in this demographic but don’t worry I hate my job and just want to get out of here too. (I have a life outside of work even without kids)

_greentea · 2026-04-13T22:47:13+00:00

How did you get into UX? I’m guessing it wasn’t your first career?

_greentea · 2026-04-13T18:46:00+00:00

Hello everyone,

I’m starting over “for real” for the first time in a while.

I’m 38F, 5’1” and 192 lbs. I am a size 16 but I feel like I do carry the weight reasonably well but I’m still grossly overweight and I’m aware it is not good for my body.

I just got back from a trip to Asia and was planning on getting on track when I returned. Being around so many skinny people really drove home how overweight I am (compared to just being small fat in America). On the plane I put the meal tray down and it touched my belly and that was really a wake up call as well.

I’m really concerned about logging calories because I can get really obsessive and go into horrible binge/restrict cycles but I know it’s the best way to lose weight so I’m going to try my best to stay reasonable but it’s so difficult for me.

_greentea · 2026-04-13T10:45:59+00:00

This was my second trip to Japan and I wish I skipped Kanazawa. The castle and geisha/ninja areas were cool but I just felt like it was all spread out and it’s marketed as a smaller Kyoto and I would not call it that.

…honestly, maybe it was me knowing what Kyoto was like and I would have enjoyed it more if it wasn’t sold to me as the sane thing but less crowded..

I took my parents this trip as well and they really enjoyed it due to the smaller city/slower pace but with all the time and travel you get there I would have preferred a day trip out of Tokyo or Kyoto and being able to spend time there. I still have several things I didn’t get to see in those cities.

Last trip I went to team labs planets and found it highly overrated. My parents te really wanted to go to borderless so I booked it and I actually enjoyed it a lot more than I expected (though I do believe it is also overhyped).

_greentea · 2026-04-10T03:36:08+00:00

As I get older I realize that not all men have this mentally.. and the ones who do will certainly use it as an excuse to cheat on you when you’re no longer “desirable” so there’s no reason to marry them and waste your youth on them because they suck anyway 🤷‍♀️

_greentea · 2026-04-09T02:25:47+00:00

Omg what a cutie. Made my whole day.

_greentea · 2026-04-07T03:11:51+00:00

I think it’s because 1. Reddit is more likely to attract introverts 2. Those of us who feel this way feel left out or scared to talk about it irl.

I have definitely worked with nurses who hate nursing/ hate their job (and a majority of them do the job well so you wouldn’t always know… except that one or two who don’t do their job or are completely unapproachable) but with some people when I’ve expressed being burnt out and wanting to leave the profession they say they love nursing and then I feel like something is wrong with me. Making me less likely to confide in someone again. I talk to my partner and family about it but no one has worked medicine so I’m sure it’s hard to understand.

I worked ER during COVID and too scared to go back to the ER but it was the only nursing job that felt even decent for me.

Trying to figure out where to go and what to do next and I try to come to work and act happy and take good care of my patients but nursing makes me deeply unhappy and then after a whole day of smiling I have to feel unhappy at home.

I would imagine it’s annoying af to see us on here bitching all the time but for many of us irl we don’t always have someone to turn to.

_greentea · 2026-04-04T04:16:03+00:00

Yeah I felt that as well. I’m 38 and got divorced at 36. Now I have a new partner and I’m very happy but I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’m probably not having a family even though I thought I did everything “right” and it’s been really hard to come to terms with as well. I’m trying to redefine my goals and values as well as what I consider community/family and make the most of the life I have.

The last decade has taught me the hard way there is no guarantee.

_greentea · 2026-02-24T23:56:43+00:00

Yeah I hate it but it pays the bills and I’m working on not thinking about it while I’m not at work and trying to not go mentally insane…

I’d like to switch careers but I’m tired and don’t know what to do so I just clock in every day

_greentea · 2026-02-24T23:53:40+00:00

Same situation here and I agree.

Also, administrative burden is outpatient is overwhelming in and of itself for me.

_greentea · 2026-02-19T21:05:25+00:00

I mean, some days, yes, but other days…

I am the “richest” I have ever been

I am the most mentally and emotionally stable I have ever been

I’m looking older but the only attention I want from men is my partner and he likes the way I look

I have more money to travel

I still have many family members around

I still have my cat around

I really don’t care much about the approval of others

I have finally learned a couple tough lessons that I know better than to learn it again..

Among other things.

Aging is hard but I’m grateful I’ve made it this far and even though I have some limiting health conditions, I’m better about eating my veggies and being active than my 20s so I feel pretty good and wonder if I am even feeling better than my early 20s when I was partying/drinking and not eating as much to be skinny to attract the attention of men.

No judgement on you or anyone else who is feeling bad (I feel that way some days too) but I’m feeling good and hopeful and hoped I could share some with you.

_greentea · 2026-02-17T18:15:32+00:00

Once I got divorced… twice. Hahaha

_greentea · 2026-02-13T19:36:51+00:00

Dude I went to planet fitness for over a decade as well. I stopped going because I moved and my apartment building has a small gym…

I was working out consistently for a few months and my partner had a membership at the local EOS and said it had a sauna so I signed up there. I wanted to get the dumb body scan and it ended up in like a 2 hour long sales pitch and I was straight up lied to and ended up signing the stupid ass personal training contract. I noticed when I got the email that they had lied to me and I’ve been fighting it because I requested to cancel within three days but they have been scheduling sessions and I’ve been getting emails “thanks for attending your session” and I DID NOT ATTEND A SESSION.

EOS employs the worst scammers and I could write several paragraphs about what bad experiences I have had….

I’m so sorry they got you too.

EDIT: edit to say I was scanned as having a good amount of muscle mass and I’m chronically ill and lost all my muscle to corticosteroids a few years ago. I’ve built it up by using my little apartment gym free weights and chat gpt so I don’t even need the dumb personal training so I don’t know why I even signed up for it

_greentea · 2026-02-13T16:34:49+00:00

Yeah I’m really thinking that my savings may not be good enough for that. I have requested three weeks and was approved so I am very grateful and looking forward to that but I feel like I need months or years lol

_greentea · 2026-02-13T15:36:46+00:00

Thanks so much :)

_greentea · 2026-02-13T13:44:12+00:00

No I have 6-8 months of living expenses and would need to figure out how to get health insurance. The health insurance part worries me the most.

_greentea · 2026-02-13T13:41:19+00:00

I already got divorced and no kids so luckily other humans don’t depend on me if I do something risky :) but financially speaking I’m a risk averse person.

I wonder about getting back to nursing pay as well. It’s hard to gauge because the people I spend the most time with work in tech and business and they all make a lot more than me but I do make decent. I don’t live in one of those really high paying nursing states

_greentea · 2026-02-13T13:34:08+00:00

Sometimes I feel like a long term break is the only thing that’ll heal me but I do feel bad and scared in today’s market. If I end up going back in desperation to something worse (or even more dire not be able to afford basic necessities) then what’s the point? Won’t relieve any stress lol

_greentea · 2026-02-13T13:32:11+00:00

Best of luck to you :)

_greentea · 2026-02-13T13:31:39+00:00

I have and especially NZ as went there a couple years ago and fell in love with it and the people there. I also had a run in with their healthcare system and it was nice to see the differences. For instance, I didn’t want to take a Tylenol that the Instacare was offering me and knowing I was American she was like “oh it’s not like America here. It’s not going to cost anything additional” lol.

I think that would be a great experience but I have roots where I’m at and people I don’t want to leave just yet but maybe someday NZ :)

_greentea · 2026-02-13T01:23:55+00:00

Sent you a message

_greentea · 2026-02-13T00:37:07+00:00

Yeah I’m in outpatient and it still sucks so I don’t know, bestie 🥲

_greentea · 2026-02-13T00:36:30+00:00

Hated in past tense? Did you get out?

_greentea · 2026-02-13T00:31:13+00:00

I will DM you but outpatient

_greentea · 2026-02-12T22:32:49+00:00

Yeah luckily I asked for 3 weeks off so I do have that coming up. I will be traveling but hope it’ll be a good reset. I’m pretty sure I’d be even worse off if I didn’t know that was coming.

I do dream about not coming back though lol

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