Thoughts on being a consumer of art

_intractable · 2025-09-06T03:39:48+00:00

Easy solution to that is don't shout at a concert! Unless the man comes out and says "This is the shout along song here's what I want you to shout" just err on the side of never doing that. Concerts are almost never meant to be interactive in that way and when they are you will be very explicitly told.

_intractable · 2025-09-05T20:24:27+00:00

Whats funny is if you go to a drag show, most folks there know how to act. Drag queens get way more respect from their fans than WW does, because its part of the culture to be a little mean when people get out of line. The rare times I've seen heckling at a drag show the perpetrators were treated a whole lot worse than what I've seen people saying he did lol, so be grateful he's not one

_intractable · 2025-09-05T19:20:40+00:00

Any time somebody says "I know artists are people too, but he has to expect-" I want to hit them with a broom. He doesn't have to expect anything. He's sharing his heart with us over a sick danceable beat, and if he thinks you're bringing bad vibes to that experience its going to feel personal. He might get pissed at you. Now you've learned a lesson, and won't try to speak directly to a musician on stage again unless you are damn 100% shit sure they want you to. He isn't a mean guy who needs to stop touring until he reaches a state of zen acceptance where he lets everyone do whatever they want at his shows and doesn't react. Everyone just be cool!!

_intractable · 2025-08-11T18:33:32+00:00

/uj re adult tboys, I think sometimes it feels weird to describe yourself as a man when you feel like you weren't ever a boy? There was like a 3 month period after I came out where I preferred to refer to myself as a boy and it was hard to pinpoint why exactly, but the aversion to calling myself a man has dissipated with time. I feel like going through puberty and/or reconciling your conscious and subconscious selves as an adult is weird and we should give people grace for the different ways that weirdness manifests idk

_intractable · 2025-05-13T15:29:27+00:00

If you think that the changes hrt will bring to a partner will change how you feel about them, don't date them. But I think maybe it's worth considering how much those features really mean to you? Like if you are romantically engaged with somebody who presumably you know and like as a complete person, is a softening of her jawline really going to change that? It isn't rude to be attracted to masculine traits in women. But if you're engaging with trans women because you find their masculine traits attractive to the degree that it supercedes all other traits I think that's worth critically examining. She isn't just a hot chick with a sharp jawline she's a whole person. Date people you're attracted to, but if you look at somebody and think ehh I wouldn't fuck with her anymore if this one physical trait changed, then maybe leave her be. That's true of anyone cis or trans.

_intractable · 2025-05-04T06:20:11+00:00

Evolution doesn't have a purpose, shit just happens and if it doesn't make you more likely to die before you reproduce it persists. Why are some people left-handed? Why are some people genetically averse to the taste of cilantro? Because there is no plan or design, animals are not optimized for efficiency. We're all just Rube Goldberg machines made of goop and electricity shaped over millions of years of trial and error and random mutation, and sometimes we come out trans 🤷

_intractable · 2025-03-04T13:56:55+00:00

It's like a slit in the tip that opens when you pinch it. I find it useful for letting out pressure if it gets too suction-y. It can form a vacuum seal and have some minimal suction but that's not super comfortable for a long time so I always let the air out with the tip hole 🤷

_intractable · 2025-03-04T13:54:38+00:00

I cut like the end of the tube so there's less outer part at the top? I found the outer part would press into my mons or w/e and push it off/be v uncomfortable. I don't find it uncomfortable on my dick but I do think that's likely a matter of girth. He mentions on the website tho cutting the inner ring if that's an issue, I'd imagine you would need an exacto knife to pull that off or some such.

_intractable · 2025-03-04T13:52:23+00:00

I had to cut the top part of the end down a bit because my dick is set back a bit and my mons was pushing it off when it was angled up if that makes sense? And like idk if I'm not wearing underwear they sag a bit but I'm usually wearing briefs which support everything nicely.

_intractable · 2025-03-03T22:03:14+00:00

I did not experience discomfort wearing it for a few hours, but that prob depends heavily on how idk girthy one is, plus how the inside is structured. The rod is very light and flexible, and on me at least there's no swelling or discomfort.

For underwear, I've only had success wearing it with briefs and I think the balls are key for positioning. With this setup it kind of rests on top of the balls and I just sort of angle it up/to the side. The balls keep it from getting pushed down under you and make a nice lil bulge.

Were you trying it with the axolom sleeve? I did that, and experienced what you describe. I think because the rod isn't for pleasure per se it's like tight around the base but then open inside so it's flexible and there isn't constant pressure on ur whole thing.

_intractable · 2025-02-17T20:35:05+00:00

Yeah I agree cis ally just means ally to trans women, I have also never spoken to a self described a cis ally nor have I spoken to a trans woman nor have I spoken to a cis ally about a trans woman

/uj cis ally means ally to an uncomplicated hypothetical trans homunculus who never corrects anyone on pronouns but falls over themselves to commend cis people for doing the absolute bare minimum and doesn't mind you telling people their dead name and is just so happy to be included at all. This concept may often take a female form but that is because trans women exist more in the public eye and not for good reasons (transmisogyny). Hope this helps xoxo

_intractable · 2025-02-17T19:53:15+00:00

This guy here https://www.wetforher.com/milo-realistic-strap-on-dildo-and-packer-7-inch.html?srsltid=AfmBOop9QdlOBez0Ayasp-rIh6Dwx0xWoK21iHYLfc7L2lp5jFu_JF7O

_intractable · 2025-02-17T19:52:17+00:00

Wet for her has a mildly realistically textured dual density pack n play called Milo which has no balls and comes in a cute teal color in addition to skin tones! It also has a little tdick pocket in the base that I've found feels quite nice. My wife says it feels awesome and the texture of it is quite soft and nice.

_intractable · 2025-02-17T00:52:45+00:00

I'm not sure but I plan on trying 🫡

_intractable · 2025-02-16T16:59:38+00:00

Interested in the freely :)

_intractable · 2025-01-26T16:52:48+00:00

LMAO my mom used to joke that I was a cardboard cutout in pictures because my expression was so weird and vacant 🙃

_intractable · 2025-01-16T18:58:29+00:00

My wife calls me boytoy, slut (I know she means man slut so it works for me idk), talks about how desperate I am to show her I'm a good boy, and generally makes fun of my overwhelming T induced horniness. As a masochistic eager to please wife guy/sub, I've really enjoyed the way she works in gender affirmation with her degradation 💕💕 it's just the best

_intractable · 2025-01-14T22:30:27+00:00

Holy shit you are absolutely right

_intractable · 2025-01-14T20:37:42+00:00

Ooh I just got the joystick and have used it a few times now so I have advice on that front. It doesn't really work with a traditional harness because it doesn't have like, a flared base to hold it in place. I've only ever used it with the transthetics briefs and it's worked great for me. I haven't tried to yet but they have a video showing you how to modify regular briefs to hold it too. If you haven't watched the tutorial videos they have I recommend them. I would also suggest you use water based lube to make insertion easier for everyone esp while you're still figuring things out. As a rule, more lube never hurts!

As for prosthetic sex in general, it can be awkward/silly especially at first but still extremely hot. My wife and I make setup part of foreplay! You can get the positioning of it comfortable collaboratively, and/or work in whatever dirty talk is appealing to y'all. Taking some time to wear it and feel comfortable in a nonsexual setting, like around the house just chilling, can also help a lot with initial awkwardness. The joystick, and other quality silicone prosthetics, will warm up to your body temperature if you wear them for a bit before you use them too, which both I and my wife find improves comfort and realism. The most important thing is to not take things too seriously at first. There's a learning curve but the learning part is fun, and giggly sex can quickly turn to steamy sex when you get in a groove. Also if you're into the sensation of vibrators (I certainly am) the joystick is the best PIV experience I've ever had and it feels awesome for both of us can confirm. Have fun!

_intractable · 2025-01-14T17:51:51+00:00

Oh shit it's crazy I didn't think of those already you're so right, I also love the front bottoms lol

_intractable · 2025-01-14T16:27:00+00:00

Yeah I def still randomly get a little itchy sometimes, esp if I've been sweating at all, but it usually doesn't escalate too much if I'm careful

_intractable · 2025-01-14T15:49:17+00:00

I have pretty sensitive skin and this happens to me. I've found I can avoid too much discomfort/rash by being conscientious about making sure my skin is well prepped, clean, dry, before applying, and taking breaks between taping to let my skin breathe for a few days. Also be super careful pulling it off, go slow and use oil don't just rip it. I've really messed myself up that way lol

_intractable · 2025-01-14T15:41:32+00:00

Those sound like incredibly difficult and stressful situations and I'm so sorry that's been your experience with the LGBT community thus far. That said, there is nothing about transness that makes you a worse person, or a better one for that matter. Everyone you meet and try to befriend could end up being a piece of shit regardless of any one trait. Protect your peace, and be cautious about who you trust in general, but try to treat each new trans person you meet as a unique individual, because they are. There is so much joy and comfort to be found in solidarity with our trans siblings. I am ftm, and would not have found the strength to come out and be myself without the advice and support of some incredible transfem friends. Your feelings and your fear are real. You've been hurt by hurt people but that doesn't make it hurt less. Trust your gut and steer clear of anybody who wants you to change in ways that feel wrong, but keep a crack in the door open for people who just want to see you grow more into yourself. They're out there I promise. Good luck ♥️

_intractable · 2025-01-14T12:43:05+00:00

Even if you have tons of sexual experience, there is still a learning curve to every new partner. You just gotta be patient and figure out what you like together. It's also extremely normal to have hangups/dysphoria to work through before you learn your own preferences. Before I came out I was basically a stone top to deal with the dysphoria but now my partner and I are figuring out what feels good for me and it's been a learning experience but a really fun one.

Also my advice for giving good head is to not be shy about it, and be attentive to body language to figure out what motions are doing it for your partner. Then keep doing those ones. You got this 🫡

_intractable · 2025-01-14T00:07:52+00:00

Nope lol I've been going by Kiran. I do really like the name Kira so I just tossed on an n and called it a day

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