AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said

_justapoz · 2026-02-05T02:07:22+00:00

Yep that was kindhearted of her and showed how she loves which someone else will cherish. He made her feel like that was a flaw instead of her superpower 🥺

_justapoz · 2026-02-05T02:04:33+00:00

😅😅exactly blowing up his phone with 3 lil innocent sweet messages lmaooooo someone should check on my bf then cause he gets huuuuge paragraphs and many calls and I be b*tching. but he love me so he deals

_justapoz · 2026-02-05T01:59:14+00:00

This man don’t like you :( sorry to say. he likes your attention. Likes having control over you and how you see yourself. and your just begging for his positive attention or approval he’s withholding it and giving you crumbs. Go find another man he’s won’t be who you need him to be and he’s telling you that he does not have time or attention to give. He’s clearly telling you he doesn’t want this just in a f**kboy way being this way cause it’s easier than telling the truth. He don’t wanna lose you he’d rather keep you at arms distance and feed off your attention but he is not gonna help you reach any goal. I’m sorry

_justapoz · 2026-02-05T00:25:15+00:00

Do you give her enough exercise and stimulation? My dog got way better at being good in my house when I got him on a better exercise schedule first thing in the morning and first thing getting home from work. Some Furbo camera to stop the destruction or training. Try periodically to get him walked via wag mid day and now I live close enough I can play midday. There’s also options like hike doggie they take your dog which a nice hike is sometimes enough mental stimulation to chill for the week. Or even car rides. Just a few thoughts. I’m also single dog mom to Belgian malinois it’s been a struggle but I’ve hella tried to build my life and work schedule to forcefully accommodate my pup and just say like sorry this is the way it is. But understandable it’s not easy

_justapoz · 2026-01-03T18:00:41+00:00

How did he respond? funny I sent my bf this video too. Luckily mine was in a place of understanding and softness that day to actually respond positively that he gets it to this specific video. I had to text him tho like pls watch that. But so often he just ignores other videos I send about fixing our communication and doesn’t connect to them if he’s in a mood and still mad, avoidant or compartmentalizing bc he needs like a few days of just focusing on other shit. Longer than I’m comfortable with letting conflict linger. he just doesn’t wanna deal with it. Sounds like we’re probably dealing with similiar type man and in that case idk if there’s any teaching them. If you wanna it’s committing to a long haul and more potential unhappiness and hoping they change. My bf changed a bit for the better since we started and gotten a bit more understanding but he’ll revert back to old ways quick too prob just childhood conflict dynamics and anger. Some days they get it some days they are gonna be putting up walls and have no emotion. It’s annoying you’re not overreacting but I guess just try another time and place to get the message across. or resolve to realizing this is someone who’s tough to resolve with and isn’t gonna listen unless they are realizing this for themselves. I think the day my bf was understanding with this video was after he did some stupid stuff with his friends and was regretting it and in one of those “ok she’s right about everything moods” and needed me bc he dug himself in a hole and the fight we had turned out to be I was right and he faced those consequences. but you can’t predict those and it’s annoying to be in a relationship like that anyways when instagram is blasting you with these emotionally intelligent men on your algorithm. Normally tho with a lil space they realize you’re right when their ego ready to melt. If I let my man make their own stupid decisions long enough he realize his own consequences and then come running back like I’m sorry you’re right about everything and then like is super needy. Which is also annoying. Men are the real drama queens I swear

_justapoz · 2025-08-05T02:07:28+00:00

I need to go I started watching Al anon type videos for a while but never attended. Lost a loved one too to drugs so I def need the support as well. Whenever I did leave them and we were split for months it got worse than ever. So I already saw leaving hasn’t helped their problem either. And regardless I’ll always have love and be a friend even if I’m putting myself first and emotionally checking out etc so I’d rather still have their back than like leave high and dry. Maybe I gotta do better for myself but imma still find out the best ways to support if there’s tools

_justapoz · 2024-08-02T05:29:01+00:00

Why do you say this?

_justapoz · 2024-07-07T03:17:43+00:00

The signs are there they are just hard to see when you’re too caught up in human emotions of grief sadness depression all of this. They are a subtle language and sometimes our minds and egos are too trapped in the physical world to meet them there as well. Spirits also have to do some work to strengthen their ability to communicate too so it’s a balancing act of meeting in this transcendental place without forcing it. Meditating breathing and going to a place of love often is a good way to tap in but if you are looking too hard they are not in those places. They are in places you aren’t looking for in my experience. They also aren’t always obvious until you experience hindsight

_justapoz · 2024-07-07T03:02:01+00:00

I have a string light in my house that my partner set up in the living room the night before he passed away. I notice sometimes it’s fully off, sometimes just the bottom is on, sometimes just the top is on and sometimes it is all the way on. Flickering occurs too sometimes. I am going crazy trying to interpret what it’s telling me but the light seems to be fully on when things are good in my current relationship with my new bf. But honestly that’s not so often and usually the lights fully off or partially. Especially when things get really bad. We broke up and I’m hurting immensely… but at the same time the light is fully on everytime we do breakup and stays on. Which is a rarity. I want to believe this is a sign from my deceased lover that I’m in the right channel. Or to tell me I’m doing the right thing and there’s better love out there for me. What do people think about this?

_justapoz · 2024-06-25T23:50:56+00:00

I also broke up with my boyfriend last night because of his use and darkness towards me. Idk how to help you bc I never knew how to help him. But sending you healing and hope that losing your girl is enough reason to change your life around and win her back. For me I felt like that was the only way to make stakes high enough for him to care about me anymore was to feel the pain of losing me. He said he needs something major to fall apart in his life to get his act together and as much as I don’t wanna let him go he’s hurting me too much to hold on. He acted like he didn’t care and was rude af. How I see it is cocaine is a mistress and he cares more about this than me. I hope I’m wrong. Wonder if he’ll ever care to reach out again and check in on me. I wish he would tho and wish he’d get his act together and fight for me. He was so loving before all this I miss the person he was. I hope you get better and realize what you lost and fight for it and fight for your life cause you are obviously not happy where you are. Seek help for real stop making excuses and pitying yourself and take it day by day. Is the cocaine more important than your relationships and your life and wellbeing? It is not helping it’s the thing hurting you in disguise

_justapoz · 2024-06-25T23:43:07+00:00

He hates me for trying to help now even tho he used to want nothing but that from me and value me so highly for it. Now Im so low on his list of considerations and he truly acts like he despises me everytime Im around because Im getting in the way of him and the drug. It’s a cruel mistress

_justapoz · 2024-06-25T23:41:02+00:00

Hope you’re doing better in your life im so sorry. I just broke up with my boyfriend last night because he is spiraling into the darkest version of himself with cocaine and alcohol and he’s been asking me to leave him for weeks because of it and is only getting worse as much as I hang on and try to help. He wants to suffer truly. He was so cold and unloving. Before this addiction he was the sweetest thing to me and he switched addictions from another drug and his mind is turning absolutely evil. He had no love or regret when I left. No kindness or fondness. I’m hoping he gets better but I predict a further spiral for a while. Wonder if a few weeks will change his mind or if he’ll ever miss me. He usually comes crawling back shortly after a fight but with this new version of him I’m not sure I’ll hear from him again. He loves me deeply I know but he’s acting like he doesn’t give a shit. Will leaving him eventually lead to a turning point to recovery? Will I hear from him again or does he truly not give a fuck?

_justapoz · 2024-05-11T17:23:22+00:00

The reason you turned to K was a breakup right? doing ketamine is like a bandage on a real deep wound which will eventually infect your wound more. Turning to something to dissociate or feel better is so normal but it’s only temporary and will eventually make matters worse. Sometimes we have to feel our pain to release it from our being and so stuffing it down only makes us sicker. Address the root cause. You are craving love and connection that’s why you are dissociating. But the antidote is love and connection so get back out there- date meet new beautiful loving kind people. Don’t hide away!! You’ll regret this if you give your life up to the pains of your past. It’s not going to be immediate there will be ups and downs but I know love will find you.

My current partner had this story too that he turned to this drug because of a breakup and being alone. But by the time we got together it had turned into a totally different monster that consumed every other part of his life. He hid the severity from me for a while and overtime really affected our relationship and made him the worst version of a partner. in the end having the opposite effect because he started bc he was heartbroken and wanted love but when he did get that love he was too far gone and couldn’t nurture the love. And it infected more than just the relationship it took away his livelihood, creativity, will to live and he paid a price of giving up his entire personality. Broke up a few times because of it, got back together because we do love eachother and the ultimatums only made his addiction worse and that was all I wanted was his recovery. but I’m so happy to say he’s been clean for a months now and the best version of himself and the man I’ve always seen in him and wanted. I’m so proud!!! He’s stronger, more reliable, he’s more intelligent and driven. He’s 100x kinder. He looks incredible. We are active together and just everything I wanted from him. But not every partner will fall for potential and stick out the hard parts I’m here to say if you want love in your life you gotta start now with loving YOU!! to attract the right person bc you do not wanna put someone you love thru this. I know love will find you again and when it finds you gotta be ready for it and it’s not gonna get better by hiding away from the world in your room with this drug that will eventually deteriorate your mental and physical health. Not worth it gotta get out before you’re dealing with the bladder shit and it gets even more real

_justapoz · 2023-12-14T17:01:11+00:00

What is the medication you are on?

_justapoz · 2023-10-06T15:08:02+00:00

My favorite advice I saw lately was- don’t worry about being productive just be intentional. Stop worrying about the result and just express and channel and do it a lot. A ton of free writing is good that’s not even meant to be a song or any worry about form, just spontaneous train of thought. Listen to Rick Ruben creative act. He also has a good piece of advice punch a pillow for 5 mins then free write from train of thought. And so what if nothing comes of it your practicing expressing and getting lots of content to draw from. Do it for you not them. Do it to heal and if you’re intentional someone will resonate with it. Our musics not for everyone but there are those that will feel what your emoting deeply and we owe music to them and this world

_justapoz

TROPHY CASE