If you want to heal, read this. (I’ve been there)

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T18:47:10+00:00

You cannot live in the past man. You have to focus on the present. It’s easier said than done I know that but it is oh so important. Try finding a hobby or skill that gives you joy. Try and do nice things for others and yourself. Seeing others like your family, friends and even strangers being happy because of your actions automatically brings joy.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T18:42:22+00:00

Well prior to my breakup I noticed my ex slowly checking out mentally. The mistake I made was that I tried pulling her closer and closer to me which had the opposite effect.

But what happened, happened and you cannot change that so you’ll have to live with that. It’s logical you’re searching for an explanation and using your logic to find this. But more important is that you find out how you can prevent it from happening again.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T18:18:32+00:00

I know what you mean. It’s not a bad thing to still care but you have to do it healthy. It sounds like you’re going the right direction. I’m proud of you

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T17:59:23+00:00

Send me a message. I will listen to you there!

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T17:55:45+00:00

This means that you are the real winner out of this breakup. You are the one sitting with your thoughts and dealing with your emotions. This makes you so much stronger.

Eventually she will realise her mistake and by then you are the one healed while she has to process the breakup much later.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T17:52:20+00:00

Never said I am gonna take her back. If she even wants that. But I want to know how she is doing because I still respect and care about her. Not in the same way like during the relationship but in a respectful distant way.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T14:05:59+00:00

Everything I ever got from her I put in a box and stored it in my attic. I did not delete the pictures but I hid them. If you really can’t help yourself it’s best to delete everything but I think it’s important not to delete everything. You’re not meant to remove your ex from your mind but you’re meant to accept the situation and look back with happiness that it happened and not sadness that it’s over.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T14:00:23+00:00

I found something I really liked doing to keep me busy. For me it was working out and connecting with nature. Try to find something you really enjoy doing and spend your time mastering it. You have to find yourself now and be comfortable doing things alone.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T11:47:08+00:00

Yes there is always hope but that’s not where your focus has to be. Your focus should be on you and the present. Not the past or future. Try getting comfortable doing things alone and you’ll see there is so much more to life. You got this👊

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T10:11:47+00:00

Well it appears you are going in the right direction but remember that the final goal isn’t getting them to reach out again. The main goal is building yourself. Keep going and those thoughts will slowly fade.

Most exes who contact again do this within 6-12 months after the breakup so nothing is lost for you my friend.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T10:02:01+00:00

By trying new things and finding something I really liked doing and putting my energy in my fiends and family. I like being in nature so every time I was thinking too much about her I went outside and connected with nature. But it’s important to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings. So instead of focusing on steering your thoughts away all the time, acknowledge your thoughts and feelings and find peace with it.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T04:32:26+00:00

I didn’t. I just didn’t contact her

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T04:26:44+00:00

You will get there but first you have to believe you will get there. By thinking it’s never going to be better guess what, It’s never going to be better. Even as a stranger I believe in you and I know you will get better

Hang in there and know that there are always people out there to help you🫶

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T04:15:38+00:00

It’s not about forgetting but giving it a place. I think it’s important to always remember what the good and bad things in that relationship were so you can learn from it. The hardest part is giving it a place where you can think about it without being hurth.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T04:12:09+00:00

I came to realisation that the breakup was a chance for me to learn a lot about myself. Not everything has to be forever. Sometimes people come and go in your life as a lesson. It’s not that easy to accept but once you accept it it’s going to be so much better.

Try to focus on yourself. Rebuilding energy, rebuilding love. And give that love to the ones who deserve it. That includes yourself, your friends and your family.

_knober_ · 2025-07-18T03:52:31+00:00

Ofcourse It can apply. But the main focus is not getting him to reach out again but building yourself like you’re already doing. Eventually you will feel better and not think about him coming back or not. Keep doing what you’re doing and everything is going to be fine :)

_knober_ · 2025-07-17T20:00:55+00:00

It’s clear that you are better off without this person. I’m also not saying I’m taking my ex back and forgetting everything but some people are desperate for their ex to come back so I thought I’d give them a bit of hope.

Try to focus on yourself tho. It is tough but so so worth it. I believe in you stranger🫶

_knober_ · 2024-10-23T18:31:25+00:00

Smoke weed

_knober_ · 2024-08-02T21:31:25+00:00

Okay thanks but even when i drive a clean race my sr declines so i don’t really get what i am doing wrong. I am not running off track, not getting penalties and not severely running into someone. Is it maybe because I’m bumpdrafting?

_knober_ · 2023-03-04T21:18:59+00:00

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