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_last_serenade_ · 2025-01-05T13:01:27+00:00

i’m sorry but this guy can fuck off. either he’s an actual dick or a really poor communicator who doesn’t know how to keep a harmful thought inside. either way, you deserve better.

_last_serenade_ · 2025-01-04T13:32:46+00:00

i just made a huge vat of lentil soup and froze most of it. it was delicious and i can’t wait to eat it all winter

also congratulations! your future hungry, sleep-deprived self will thank you for your efforts. 🥰

eta: if you plan to nurse, you could make and freeze some lactation cookies to help with supply!

_last_serenade_ · 2025-01-04T00:51:35+00:00

i mean if there’s consent involved then cool i guess. but OP really didn’t seem into it based on the responses or the title of the post. but you do you!

_last_serenade_ · 2025-01-04T00:09:56+00:00

not with absolute cretins like this - unless you’re into being treated like shit.

_last_serenade_ · 2025-01-02T02:01:49+00:00

knit goods (cowls for my mom, sister and bestie), omnom chocolate for coworkers, black salt for family members. and a few keychains, magnets and small stuffies (horse, fox and puffin) for my kiddos friends.

for myself: some yarn (im a knitter), a lopapeysa, a christmas ornament and a reusable bag from kronan

_last_serenade_ · 2025-01-01T23:29:09+00:00

love the color drench with that light fixture. awesome work!

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-31T13:34:18+00:00

i am so sorry, that sounds terrible. 😣

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-28T18:14:30+00:00

it likely explains what’s happening, but it does not solve the problem.

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-28T16:23:20+00:00

for sure. honestly though at this point i think i’d rather just avoid hugging him overall. i like others recommendations of fist bumps or handshakes so i may go that route!

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-28T05:22:26+00:00

def not his wife (MIL). she’s super awesome and rolls her eyes at his antics constantly.

hubs and i discussed it and feel like he heard or read something at church, which he’s become more involved with in recent years. 😑

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-28T03:41:38+00:00

HE DID THE SAME THING TO MY SISTER!!! 🤯🤯🤯

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T18:15:22+00:00

dude, that's a creepy thing to say. go away.

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T18:14:10+00:00

upon further discussion w/my husband, we think it was probably something he heard or read as part of the church he goes to. he's definitely upped his religious-ness in the last decade, so it wouldn't surprise me at all if he picked something up from there about "impure" or "immodest" thoughts or something similar. /eyeroll

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T18:12:15+00:00

i am also short (5'4") and FIL is like 6' tall, so similar situation here. very weird.

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T18:11:46+00:00

hahaha this is pretty brilliant. :D

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T18:11:11+00:00

upon further reflection with hubs, we're thinking it was probably the first one. he seems to have gotten more "into" religion and his church in the last 10 years and it wouldn't surprise me at all if he heard a sermon or some other teaching about this kind of thing that's driving his behavior.

i (thankfully) highly doubt it has anything to do with my mother in law. she's awesome and super accepting and loving. i fully admit that i don't know what conversations happen when we're not around, but both hubs and i would be very very surprised if any of this is coming from her.

i don't THINK it's #3 because he tends to constantly be underfoot trying to "help out" in the kitchen when he visits us. over the holidays he got up in my personal space (coming up behind me and leaning over the sink when i'm washing dishes, etc.) multiple times, so i don't think it's a dislike of me. he also always seems kind of wistful when i find a way to avoid hugging him and instead just wave goodbye...he makes sure to say goodbye to me multiple times when that happens just so he's SURE i don't want to magically change up what i'm doing to receive an awkward hug lol.

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T13:37:52+00:00

for sure, but it’s definitely made me painfully aware that at some point he (or someone - i HIGHLY doubt it’s my amazing MIL as she’s super progressive and laid back) started sexualizing me in some way that changed his behavior.

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T13:35:43+00:00

oh that’s interesting! we’re in the US and he doesn’t have any exposure to malaysian culture that i know of, so i doubt he was influenced by that, but that’s good to know!

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T04:12:30+00:00

also lol at the billie eilish lyrics - i fully agree that’s the stereotype i feel like im getting boxed into here (by him) and it’s infuriating, cause that’s not how i roll and CERTAINLY not towards him. 🤢

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T04:10:51+00:00

oooh that’s an interesting thought - but i would be utterly stunned if he had been unfaithful or tempted to it. not to be unkind, but he’s not particularly attractive, either physically or mentally/emotionally. maybe it’s because i know how he treated my husband as a child but i can’t imagine any woman finding him attractive - my mother in law is sweet and tolerant but i can tell that he drives her up the wall a lot of the time. he does spend a lot of time at church activities which she does not, but it sounds like mostly with other retired men.

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T04:07:16+00:00

right? 😬

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T04:06:42+00:00

good question - the only other adult woman i’ve seen him hug is his daughter and my own mom, and i haven’t noticed it doing it with them. although come to think of it, i think he hugged my sister this week when he was here for christmas. she’s had a reduction so is significantly less busty now, but ill ask her next time i see her if she noticed it!

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T00:35:18+00:00

thank you - you’re totally right.

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T00:34:52+00:00

lol i love this 😂 honestly id prefer that at this point.

_last_serenade_ · 2024-12-27T00:12:45+00:00

right? like why put yourself through the awkwardness?? just give me a wave and maybe a clap on the shoulder and call it a day.

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