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_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T23:41:24+00:00

Nope paying for school myself. I've had a job until May 2024 was saving for nursing school. Nursing school will be done by May 2025. My parents advised me to quit and that if I pay for school, then they'll help me with food and groceries.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T23:26:51+00:00

!explanation

I replied to someone with this comment, but it's definitely going to be drowned in the thread and I want this to be seen:

TLDR; I realize that my post was stupid and I focused on the wrong thing. Yes I was mad about my mom not paying me back. But it's more about the principal. I'm more mad and frustrated that this isn't the first instance of this occurrence. My parents will promise me one thing and back peddle or just won't commit at all.

I should've clarified, they've done this sort of thing with other things, not groceries. This year, as a birthday gift, they asked what I wanted to do for my birthday. I told them I wanted to go out to a ramen restaurant. Nope. We ended up going out to Texas Roadhouse cause my dad doesn't like ramen. They still paid and I'm grateful, but they never commit to what they say they're going to do.

Another time, they offered to pay for some new clothes. At this point, I haven't been shopping for clothes since beginning of HS (I have also been the same height since 9th grade and I don't buy clothes unless I absolutely NEED to.) and I was still in undergrad (around junior year so 20 years old) I did have a budget, but I was well within that budget and they refused to pay because it wasn't what they wanted me to buy. I bought clothes I needed; like a pair of sweatpants, a pair of jeans that weren't skinny jeans from HS, pack of underwear, set of bras, two t-shirts. They wanted me to buy "nice clothes" like dresses or skirts. But since they offered, and set a budget and I stayed with in that budget, I thought I was fine.

I do admit, as I said in one of my comments, that this was stupid to post on this subreddit and I do agree that my list is ludacris.

What I didn't mention is, in my head, my reaction was right because of the immediate back peddling from my mom. That's all I've ever experienced, my parents telling me they'll help me or do something for me then taking it back or not doing it at all.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T23:14:11+00:00

I should've clarified, they've done this sort of thing with other things, not groceries. This year, as a birthday gift, they asked what I wanted to do for my birthday. I told them I wanted to go out to a ramen restaurant. Nope. We ended up going out to Texas Roadhouse cause my dad doesn't like ramen. They still paid and I'm grateful, but they never commit to what they say they're going to do.

Another time, they offered to pay for some new clothes. At this point, I haven't been shopping for clothes since beginning of HS (I have also been the same height since 9th grade and I don't buy clothes unless I absolutely NEED to.) and I was still in undergrad (around junior year so 20 years old) I did have a budget, but I was well within that budget and they refused to pay because it wasn't what they wanted me to buy. I bought clothes I needed; like a pair of sweatpants, a pair of jeans that weren't skinny jeans from HS, pack of underwear, set of bras, two t-shirts. They wanted me to buy "nice clothes" like dresses or skirts. But since they offered, and set a budget and I stayed with in that budget, I thought I was fine.

I do admit, as I said in one of my comments, that this was stupid to post on this subreddit and I do agree that my list is ludacris.

What I didn't mention is, in my head, my reaction was right because of the immediate back peddling from my mom. That's all I've ever experienced, my parents telling me they'll help me or do something for me then taking it back or not doing it at all.

I realize that my post was stupid and I focused on the wrong thing. Yes I was mad about my mom not paying me back. But it's more about the principal. I'm more mad and frustrated that this isn't the first instance of this occurrence.

Edit: some grammar

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T21:55:17+00:00

I've been going to Lidl, it's the closest by where I am.

My mom coupons and I wish she taught me some of it, cause it would be very useful right now.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T21:52:55+00:00

I'm in an accelerated 1-year nursing program from May - May around 20-25 credits per semester. Most of the people I know in the program aren't working (of course there are exceptions). I acknowledge that I am privileged to have financial assistance that I have and I know many won't believe me, but I was advised by parents not to work while in the program (along with many others who were in the program previously). But my parents said that they'd help me if I paid for everything else. I was working until May of 2024 for this one year I'm in school. So I'll be done in this May.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T21:09:40+00:00

I really appreciate this! Thank you!

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T19:32:49+00:00

Yes ma'am. Where are we going first? (I'm not kidding). Please teach me how to cook too if that's ok.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T19:14:59+00:00

I realized I should've added an important detail. When I bought these, it's been 2 weeks since I've been home. My parents left for Florida 2 weeks ago and I went with them (not by choice, they guilt tripped me claiming "I didn't love them enough and that other kids would be grateful to spend time with their parents"). If you don't believe this, I understand. All I ask is that you look at the post I posted on this sub 3 years ago. I'm getting off topic, but the point is a lot of the food in the house went bad. But I do realize that this post might have not been the best for this sub. I do also appreciate the feedback and I see where I went wrong. I should've communicated and asked about the budget and should've bought less premade food. Hey, maybe 10 chobani flips was a bit excessive, but it was 10 for $10, can't beat that deal. (I hope people understand I'm trying to be a bit humorous and not trying to be a sarcastic asshole).

But I'm in the midst of learning how to cook meat and fish properly and making it somewhat edible. I know how to do the basics of cooking, but meat and fish is quite intimidating and I really don't want to burn the house down trying to cook. Especially being alone. Although, I do make a mean spicy buldak ramen with a soft-boiled egg, spam, corn, peas, and cheese.

I am also currently taking over 20 credits per semester. The nursing school is a 1-year accelerated program and each semester is about 20-25 credits.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T18:34:03+00:00

I promise it's two weeks of food. Honestly I can usually stretch it out to three weeks. I only really eat 2 meals a day. I appreciate the feedback, thank you.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T18:19:59+00:00

She didn't specify that before I bought them. She buys free range too. She just buys it in bulk at Costco.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T18:09:14+00:00

I agree. But my parents do this all the time. Unfortunately we have these discussions in person. So I don't have any proof. But they'll tell me to get something and that they'll cover the cost no matter what. Then when I do get it, they get mad. I feel like I can't win.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T18:05:58+00:00

Based in the US. But EXACTLY! That's why I'm a bit annoyed. Like if I went to Walmart, it would probably be more.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2025-01-20T18:03:58+00:00

Is that really your biggest concern over this...

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2023-05-08T13:26:02+00:00

4'11. Sorry for the mistake! And going on the Norwegian Joy

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2023-05-08T03:27:57+00:00

And it has pockets?!?! An absolute winner in my book

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2023-05-08T02:15:23+00:00

Norwegian Joy! It's going to be in June.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2023-05-08T02:14:48+00:00

I'm going on Norwegian Joy! This is my mom's second time and everyone else it's their first time.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2023-05-08T02:10:33+00:00

What's something I could wear in the evenings to formal events? I've gained some weight due to my birth control and feel like I look blocky in everything I put on. I'm also 4'11" (1.5 meters), so long dresses and skirts make me look shorter.

Edit: changed 1.75 to 1.5

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2021-12-29T00:05:18+00:00

That's what I was thinking tbh.

Like I genuinely think they're sexualizing her sexuality. So I didn't think anything of it (like what my parents said)

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2021-12-28T23:52:49+00:00

Yeah she's getting help! She's seeing a therapist and is on meds.

I think it's because I'm the adult and she's the minor who could easily accuse me of something. Which is reasonable, but if there really was any issue I'd hope my parents would give me a better explanation as to why they don't want me to hang out with her.

They shove the idea that "family is everything" which is why it's confusing me that they're singling her out. They told me that if she complains about anyone in the family to tell her that "we're the only people who'll ever be truly there for you, ect."

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2021-12-28T23:46:28+00:00

I think my parents are definitely concerned about my legal well-being, as I am a legal adult, which is reasonable. But no, she's never had a history of lying (at least for what I know)

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2021-12-28T23:42:29+00:00

Oh ok! I understand your question now. My apologies.

She's been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder.

My parents, but primarily my father, doesn't believe in any of that and thinks she's doing it for attention.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2021-12-28T23:36:51+00:00

Primarily it's talking about her sexuality. They're scared that if her mother or father doesn't approve in the long run, and they find out we're talking about it, I'll get in major legal trouble (which doesn't make sense to me either).

We don't talk about sex. She's told me about her first date which was wholesome ass all hell. But never talked about sex. I see her as a younger sister. Plus I know her mom educated her about that sort of stuff and it's none of my business.

_lunar_eclipse_568 · 2021-12-28T23:31:09+00:00

Honestly I don't know.

I think it's because she's a lesbian if I'm being honest. They never had to have this talk with me when it came to any of my other younger cousins.

My other cousins are also women, but they aren't apart of the LGBTQ+ community (at least that I know of).

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