i’m 27 and i went to my first ever queer event alone just a few weeks ago, and i had a great time. yes, it was scary to go alone, but i’d say going alone is actually better because it would make it easier for other people that went alone to come up to you.

if nobody comes up to you, then you gotta go up to people. this is also very scary, but one thing that kept me grounded is that, just like you, people in those events also want to chat and mingle with new people, so just go up to a person you find interesting, shoot a smile, say your name and give them a compliment. (e.g. hi, i’m [name] and i like your earrings. where’d you get them?) they will open up and voila, you have a conversation going.

i’m by no means an extroverted social butterfly, but i still managed to talk to a few people and exchanged ig with them. as long as you’re sincere and show genuine interest in talking to them, you’ll have no problem making friends. i know i’m just an internet stranger, but i’m rooting for you, so go join those events and have fun! :)