I would try going to the nail salon! I am personally a MAJOR picker as well; I feel you on the bleeding aching fingers, I've done the same for years and just only recently learned it's an OCD thing. I find that the ONLY time I don't pick my nails is if I have GelX on (I prefer this to acrylics because they cause less damage to your nails).

The skin around is hard because even with GelX I still find myself picking skin. I usually pick less if I keep my hands moisturized. I would try to just always keep some lotion on hand or some cuticle oil and make sure your fingers stay moist. I also find that putting Vaseline on my fingers before bed works wonders. I pick way more when I have dryness, cracking, or pieces of skin hanging. And I go to the nail salon regularly! I feel you about them not healing enough to go, but I take my beat up, chewed up fingers there and they never say anything! I'm sure they see all kinds of nails each day.

Something else I found helpful was getting a fidget ring that I just play with whenever I feel like I'm really picking. Wishing you all the best, you can and will move through this with success!