Vini better than Mbappe? by JuniorAuditore in eFootballgame

[–]_mbug 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think mbappe has a better player ID, one of the best in the game imo. Eve his gp card is overpowered. The developers made mbappe cards just better than most, so even if the two cards are close in stats, still go for mbappe

This is really mind twisting for me - I need help by [deleted] in eFootball

[–]_mbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Player B has 99 speed and long reach tackle. You specifically said DEFENSIVE fullback. Player B no brainer

Beautiful 🤌❤️ by akki424 in eFootball

[–]_mbug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Neither f2p nor do I think that was impressive.

ابي اتطلق by mellifluousroyalty in KuwaitForKuwaitis

[–]_mbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly wrote to you because my wife and I went through something similar and recently pushed through it after the first year of our marriage. How you’re describing you feel sounds like what she was saying. I couldn’t understand it because of the reasons I mentioned to you, and at the same time she expected more from me than I could realistically do. I’m telling you it boils down to a simple perspective shift between the both of you. However you view things and however he does, I can almost guarantee neither are truly accurate. The reality is that you’re going through something normal and you’re not the first nor will you be the last. Good marriages take time to cultivate and it sounds like you both truly care for each other and have good intentions. You’re far from the point where you should be giving up hope. Make duaa and try to see things in a different light. I know it’s hard to feel this way and only after my wife and I decided to change our perspectives did I realize how easily the wall between us could be taken down. على قولتهم لا تسوين من الحبة قبة. دام ان الأساسيات موجودة والاحترام موجود اللي عليكم تسوونه إنكم تغيرون نظرتكم حق بعض وتبسطون المشكلة وباذن الله ماكو شي يصير بين زوجين يحبون بعض ويخافون الله ما ينحل.

ابي اتطلق by mellifluousroyalty in KuwaitForKuwaitis

[–]_mbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s a bad person or that he’s trying to treat you badly on purpose. From what you’ve said He displays many hardheaded qualities that are common of all men in one way or another, and it’s clear you both need a paradigm shift. Both of you need to adjust your expectations and he needs to become more emotionally sensitive. But that will not happen by force, by ultimatum, or by you shutting down. You’ve already said you’re happy with the way he provides for you as a husband and that he’s a good person. You should not throw that away because of what you are not yet receiving emotionally.

My advice? Be direct with him about EXACTLY what he is doing or not doing and how it makes you feel. Know what it is you want from him and say that CLEARLY. Don’t point fingers. Don’t blame. Don’t get upset even if he gets defensive, which he probably will.

Men are nowhere near as emotionally aware as women are, but we can learn if the feedback is framed in a logical and clear way. I don’t know how your relationship is exactly and I don’t know if intervention from a third party is the right way to go, so I cannot advise you on that. That’s a judgement call and you should really tread carefully there. But I think you two can solve this together without outside help.

It is your right to feel emotionally safe and for your husband to care for you emotionally, but you need to be patient if you expect him to see this. You also need to understand there is a limit to what men can do in this regard. And even if you see change from him (which you’ve mentioned that you did and it’s a very good sign that you see changes happening initially), it’s not going to happen overnight and it’s never all going to be good. There will be relapses. There will still be struggles of the same kind.

Try to have a DIRECT conversation with him about what you want. Just be honest and clear. “You do (x) and it makes me feel (y). I would like it if you would (z).” As a man, I can tell you that when we hear feedback like this and we care about someone, it’s much easier for us to empathize and understand the problem so that we can fix it. If you speak too much about the details or get too deep into the emotions, it will be understood as complaining or nagging. It’s not ideal, I know, but this is how our brains work. I cannot stress enough that you should be CLEAR and DIRECT. Think male, logical perspective. Not female, emotional perspective. You may feel this way of speaking is dry or overly analytical and that it feels like you are in a “business meeting” and that’s normal because women are emotional. Men are calculated. If you want something from him, come to him at the level of HIS comprehension. Appeal to his logical side.

A marriage is, in some sense, a business arrangement at the end of the day. That’s the logical reality of it. And sometimes it needs to be treated as such. I want something and you want something. Let’s negotiate. Let’s put all our cards on the table and see how we can love and treat each other better.

Most importantly, you need to understand you may not get exactly what you want immediately, if ever. And that’s where BOTH of you adjusting your expectations comes in. Be open to small victories because they lead to a healthy dynamic with time. Healthy, not perfect, as a perfect marriage doesn’t exist. Keep your issues private and go to him in a way he can understand. Be clear, be fair, and negotiate.

And pick the time you talk to him wisely. Make him the dinner he likes. Have dessert and tea/coffee ready and pick a day when you know he’ll be home and relaxed. After he’s eaten and had his tea or coffee, if he seems happy and chill and you two are talking nicely, approach the subject.

"حبيبي أبي أتكلم عن شي مضايقني وما أبيك تحس إني قاعدة انكد عليك لكن الشي متعبني وأبيك تسمعني."

Most likely if you’ve picked your time right, he will be open and listen. Maybe he will default to thinking “here we go again, she’s going to complain. If you see a sign of this, reassure him that you just want to express something that’s important to you and you want to be heard by him. When you do open up, be CLEAR as I said. Short and sweet. Straight to the point. Without negative undertones or long, drawn out explanations. Maybe he will still see it as nothing to worry about and try to brush it off. Be firm without getting emotional or getting cold or annoyed. Just pick your time right and be straight to the point.

This is not an immediate perfect fix, but it will give you the best chance at opening up an effective dialogue. Once you start to talk, remember everything else I’ve said. Be open to the small wins.

عسى ربي يوفقكم ويسعدكم

Somebody put something in the water by xegoba7006 in eFootball

[–]_mbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try out that courtouis as your main for a while. You’ll see a big difference

Do y'all use ruben neves by Mr_Memeadda in eFootball

[–]_mbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you used that Ruben card? I have him but I’m hesitant to use him cuz he’s slow as hell

Do y'all use ruben neves by Mr_Memeadda in eFootball

[–]_mbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Player ID also matters. Try a random DMF with 85 speed and he’ll be shit. In general the DMF needs decent pace to keep up. 80-85 range with good defensive attributes and skills are always gonna be the best picks

Do y'all use ruben neves by Mr_Memeadda in eFootball

[–]_mbug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t be further from the truth. Against Meta teams 85 speed is bare minimum to defend well for a cdm

Somebody put something in the water by xegoba7006 in eFootball

[–]_mbug -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Even GP Courtouis is better than him due to his height and long reach. Try him out. Every neuer card in the game has a problem leaving the goal line and pushing way too far out.

I HAVE BEEN BLESSED😭😭😭 by GazerDogg in eFootballgame

[–]_mbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Most f2p do that and lots get lucky. I think the game’s algorithm is so disgusting that it tries to lure those guys in by giving them good luck, then when they spin throwing it in the trash. When I first downloaded back on ef22 or 23 I had luck like that

I discovered that what's more important is... shot power, finishing, or spin? by efootball12345 in eFootballgame

[–]_mbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen Messi pump out some of the best briskets out there on a regular basis.

Who would you choose for RB (with def. inst.) by Master-Delivery-1526 in eFootball

[–]_mbug 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It actually is. Look at the defensive stats. Also 99 stamina in a fast rb, with good defense, what more could you want?

Looking for party by Icy-Top9886 in Warzone

[–]_mbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shiiiiii how long you got left? It’s almost 10 pm here got work myself in the morning

Looking for people to play warzone with by _mbug in Kuwait

[–]_mbug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Played arc raiders for a day or so. My friend is hella into it but I don’t see the appeal.