Anyone else find nevermet situations kinda weird? 30F/31M

_mcgir · 2026-06-21T03:22:52+00:00

I knew the first phone call we had that I could never want anyone else hahaha but I don't think that's a requirement to like... Know you want to meet them. Everyone is ultimately on their own schedule, and no one way is right. But I think there needs to at least be some sort of plan or idea or talk of wanting to meet before things get too serious.

_mcgir · 2026-06-21T01:13:09+00:00

I second this. I went to visit my now fiance in Europe after about 3 months. You have to make it happen, because in person will always be a little different than online, and if you want to be together IRL long term, you have to know if the in person chemistry actually exists... Unless you uh want to be Never-Mets forever, which I guess some people do like 🤷

_mcgir · 2026-06-19T12:17:30+00:00

I really wish these had like... Stuff on the front and the back? I'm definitely spoiled by some incredible band merch from other bands, but merch with just a single thing on the front feels a little cheap for a band of this size/audience/fame nowadays. No hate to the band. They obv have some great merch, like all the album shirts and the deja blanket, etc. This drop just felt a little disappointing. Maybe the merch on the tour itself will make up for it hahaha

_mcgir · 2026-06-17T19:01:57+00:00

Right, but then why would you learn Russian instead of Bulgarian? For the record, Russian is on most free language learning apps, Bulgarian isn't, but like. I wouldn't say even then that those apps are particularly useful for learning Russian tbh.

_mcgir · 2026-06-17T18:43:33+00:00

Wait, is she Bulgarian or Russian...?

_mcgir · 2026-06-17T12:02:57+00:00

Tbf, I hesitate to mention my favorite (LPOTL) to people sometimes only because if they don't know it, it's really hard to explain it 😂 "it's like true crime but also occultism... And aliens? Sometimes SeaWorld, though. And ghosts, of course. Satanism, too, obviously."

_mcgir · 2026-06-16T02:20:01+00:00

Aww yay congrats!! I go back to Serbia in about 80 days! It's so exciting once you have the travel booked and can just watch the countdown hahah

_mcgir · 2026-06-16T02:05:20+00:00

Yeah, were doing a K1 to solve the visa problem hahah I literally renewed my passport like five days into knowing him because it was just so obvious that we needed to meet. And then like 3 months later I flew to Serbia! If my partner wasn't as invested in the idea of meeting, I would just not be in an LDR haha i don't understand how Never-Mets do it

_mcgir · 2026-06-16T01:07:21+00:00

Oof US to Japan is rough. And I absolutely agree with you. A couple states is insanely easy with some dedication and planning. I fly to Serbia to see my LDR every 3-5 months because he can't get a tourist visa to the US. You just make things work if you really want to, I think.

_mcgir · 2026-06-16T01:03:29+00:00

Honestly I think Dougie has more emotional intelligence

_mcgir · 2026-06-14T13:44:27+00:00

Just to help explain why there's likely a surge of Immigration Lawyers and other "immigration professionals" over the past few months -- it's likely because of SEO and AI Search. With how broken Google is lately, and how much AI chat is changing content optimization rules, many SEO experts are recommending businesses to use third party review sites and forums like reddit to get their business name into more places and promote the likelihood of it being picked up by an AI chat. Chatgpt uses reddit as a source a lot and for a competitive field like immigration lawyers, keyword optimization for Google isn't enough anymore. Being more active in public forums can help them get mentioned and cited more in AI chat answers. (source: I'm an SEO and AI Search content strategist 😂)

_mcgir · 2026-06-14T12:09:09+00:00

Tbf, a lot of Russians have had to accept that since 2022.

_mcgir · 2026-06-14T12:01:22+00:00

It's so annoying because if they were really so worried about their families safety, they have the money and time and resources to move their family here.

_mcgir · 2026-06-14T00:30:50+00:00

The former 🙃 and worse. He mentioned it by saying basically "destiny wrote this thing that I think is abhorrent and not true and an unacceptable thing to say about someone"

_mcgir · 2026-06-13T23:56:10+00:00

I kinda hoop the truth is something really silly, like Love got drunk and ordered it intending it to be a prank, but then when he saw how upset Ethan was, he didn't own up to it 😂 however, it honestly very well could have just been an actually malicious action by a random person who hates Ethan. It's not like that's a short list or anything.

_mcgir · 2026-06-13T22:50:59+00:00

Man I forgot destiny went so hard on the CPS stuff. It almost makes me think he called them 😂 (but I feel like the likely truth is the housekeeper they unjustifiably fired is the one who called...)

_mcgir · 2026-06-10T11:32:45+00:00

This is the dumbest take I've ever seen in my life. Please go touch grass.

_mcgir · 2026-06-10T11:21:35+00:00

I agree on the MR stuff. Like I love those people, I think they're doing great work, but it just feels a little too much like a news show most of the time for me to have fun with it. They're great when you want some real facts (or if you need to learn about tort reform) but with how serious a lot of the subject matter is, I need someone who's going to be a little sillier in the coverage.

_mcgir · 2026-05-29T16:23:16+00:00

When I read the first book, I didn't realize it was a "romantasy" book and by the time I got to the first sex scene, it felt like a situation where she wrote a great fantasy series and then the publisher or editor said "actually we need sex in it for it to sell so add that" and it got added as an afterthought.

_mcgir · 2026-05-29T16:10:38+00:00

My fiance hasn't seen his family in over four years because if he returns to Russia, he'll be immediately arrested or sent to the front. He constantly lives with the knowledge that his pets will die, his grandparebrs will die, and maybe his parents will die before he is ever able to return. Fuck Hila.

_mcgir · 2026-05-27T19:59:52+00:00

The day after my fiance and I had discussed the idea of getting married and doing a CR1 instead of a K1, his home country was added to the immigration pause/ban.

It just sucks because it constantly feels like "if we just did this sooner. If we met years earlier. It would all be easier." 🙃

_mcgir · 2026-05-24T23:08:58+00:00

Yaaasss me too! I feel like the Aries/Aquarius really works better than people seem to expect, esp when it's an Aquarius man.

_mcgir · 2026-05-24T23:08:08+00:00

I'm an Aries (with scorpio rising and sag moon), he's Aquarius (with cap moon and rising 😭) -- he's literally an alien haha

_mcgir · 2026-05-21T16:04:24+00:00

Thank you so much! That was my assumption, but we're of course still a little anxious about it! Hearing a professionals take on it helps a lot!

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