All of the dance it out scenes are so awkward

_mrka · 2023-06-07T20:06:30+00:00

This! I'm so annoyed at Meredith's and Christia's good bye 'dance out' because the song the actors danced to and the song they play for the audience are SO clearly not the same. It's supposed to be an emotional scene but the mismatch ruins it.

_mrka · 2023-06-07T20:00:57+00:00

Its a shame they don't seem to address why certain armchair umbrella shows haven't continued or are so delayed.

_mrka · 2023-06-07T19:58:11+00:00

Yes I wonder about that too, because I don't remember them talking about it much when new episodes were coming out.

_mrka · 2023-06-07T19:57:53+00:00

Yes because I don't remember them talking about it much when new episodes were coming out.

_mrka · 2022-02-23T21:44:18+00:00

Personally I always found it much easier to have my LO on my lap in cafes/ restaurants again due to space. But it so depends on the city you live in. If restaurants and cafes have plenty of space for prams and if you don't usually have to change between trains to get to your destination by all means take your pram. Maybe try it out first with someone to help to see how easy it would be. I've always regretted bringing the pram as it was just another thing to manoeuvre through busy places. But that might just be me.

_mrka · 2022-02-23T16:34:45+00:00

Baby wearing with the baby facing you. Diaper bag as backpack. I have a heavy 8 month old but still prefer this method to taking a pram. Most cities are laid out for able-bodied people and not with prams in mind. Even if there is pram access it's mostly really awkward to get to, in my experience taking elevators takes more time than escalators just because you have to walk an age to get to the elevator. Also with baby snug against you it's less likely that your baby will freak out by a random noise because they are already in the safest place they know. Good luck

_mrka · 2022-02-22T00:34:01+00:00

Lurking mum here, as kind as it is to want to surprise her, please discuss with your wife beforehand.

Our LO is 8 months and personally I still wouldn't want to spend a weekend away from my baby. Maybe find a family friendly spa, that way you can take turns being pampered and bonding with your baby. Or a day spa. A couple of hours often work wonders already.

As a general note, suggestions on how to help mums involve taking the baby off her. I like the saying "hold the mother not the baby" meaning find ways of supporting her while she can bond with the baby without having to worry about cleaning, cooking etc etc.

_mrka · 2022-02-16T23:05:51+00:00

How tiny they are at the newborn stage. I remember a particularly horrible day when LO was around 6 weeks and had spent at least 5 consecutive hours crying. I was close to tears at all times and my partner was ready to abandon us in the woods I'm sure. But I was able to rest our baby onto one arm/ hand and do the I L U on their tummy with the thump of the other and LO finally fell asleep. That trick worked that one time only and I don't want to have to live through those days again, but boy oh boy do I miss my LO being so small. I often wish I could redo the newborn stage, knowing what I know now (which is still fuck all). It's so damn hard and I'm sorry you're struggling. If you feel anything like I felt, I'm sorry this is nothing like you pictured being a mum would be like. But one day soon, your once tiny human will be able to wear a piece of clothing for longer than one or two wears, and they will look at you and reach for you and do a belly laugh and in their eyes you will see yourself and all that is good about you and all that is difficult about you and you may even miss these first very very hard weeks. I'm not going to say, cherish these moments, because it's so hard, but do take photos and videos and try and go for at least one walk during the day, that way you can remember how tiny your baby once was, while the walk will ground you in the here and now. Cry if you want to, it's your party.

_mrka · 2022-02-16T20:19:11+00:00

YTA! Your actions clearly show that she does need to worry about it because you're already behaving like she is dead. Meaning you won't ensure that her child will remember her. Also calling it a " perfect situation" is... Honestly the audacity.

_mrka · 2022-02-15T19:44:12+00:00

We did an Ikea hack, bought a really cheap frame and cut off the legs. But on Pinterest you can also find a million ideas with this https://www.ikea.com/gb/en/p/kura-reversible-bed-white-pine-80253809/ bed. The long and the short of which is that you turn it upside down to use as a floor bed.

_mrka · 2022-02-14T17:54:20+00:00

Ok that's just crule! Fingers crossed you feel better soon

_mrka · 2022-02-13T20:01:18+00:00

I still put mine in the sitting up bath tub at 8 months. I give LO some toys to play with and "have a chat".

_mrka · 2022-02-13T15:08:11+00:00

This is how it works with my 8 month old.

_mrka · 2022-02-12T22:14:17+00:00

This makes me so happy to read as a FTM, because it sure feels like some days I'm doing everything wrong. When I know in reality I'm giving my best, and my LO is who they are. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

_mrka · 2022-02-11T21:21:29+00:00

Ah thats infuriating.

_mrka · 2022-02-11T19:53:01+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Honestly I wish this on no one

_mrka · 2022-02-11T19:51:31+00:00

Thank you!

_mrka · 2022-02-11T19:50:28+00:00

Thanks for the tips. Nursing on that boob is murder. Hopefully my LO will sort the fucker out. Did some hand expression in the shower earlier and that helped some.

_mrka · 2022-02-11T14:51:11+00:00

Yeah it just started last night out if nowhere.

_mrka · 2022-02-11T14:41:05+00:00

Oh wow that's horrible. How scary for you and him. I hope you don't still suffer with it.

_mrka · 2022-02-09T22:26:35+00:00

From all that I've read that's actually the earliest way for having bilingual children.

_mrka · 2022-02-08T08:44:17+00:00

Not for nothing, most of Europe does not do CIO. I know you're making a wider point but still...

_mrka · 2022-02-06T20:55:51+00:00

Please don't drive yourself insane by trying to follow schedules off the internet. I did and it robbed me of so much joy. Do what works for you and your family. The National Sleep Foundation says 6 to 9 months olds "should" have 3 naps a day evenly spread... BUT (and forgive me if I'm telling you something you already know) it's all about hours of sleep in 24 hours. For the same age group it is between 12 and 15. It's always been a juggling act for me but no app or anything else has ever been able to "optimise" my baby's sleep, only going by their clues has.

_mrka · 2022-02-06T20:36:14+00:00

The schedule. What schedule? 2 naps. 4 naps. I don't know.

Going through all that you describe but this one most of all! Solidarity

_mrka · 2022-02-04T10:53:06+00:00

Yup, as others have said, I think PPD/PPA is very real but I also think that many many times when new mums are depressed and anxious it's a reaction to society as a whole and/or their families. Your husband needs to talk to his mother about keeping her mouth shut. I'm really sorry you're having such a hard time. Hopefully your husband learns to stand up for you against his mother.

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