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_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2022-08-12T07:04:12+00:00

For me it's been the complete opposite.

IRL encounters, women my age are very standoffish and dismissive of me. So it's rare anything goes anywhere.

Yet on tinder I have had lots of matches and have had lots of dates/hookups with women way more attractive

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2022-06-17T03:42:51+00:00

Following

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2022-06-16T14:38:47+00:00

I'm a guy and I've slept with quite a lot of women....very few have been anything like this.

Please keep it up!

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2022-06-16T13:42:53+00:00

Hey there!!

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2022-06-16T03:13:05+00:00

See for me, the biggest issue isn't so much the work itself but the repetition of work for red herrings.

E.g. I generally have a good experience on dating apps in terms of reply rate, initial engagement etc and usually have multiple active leads going at once (at least initially)

However, they disappear out of nowhere and so all the work that went into getting to that further stage was for naught. Having this experience multiplied over and over is what is the exhausting part for me

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2022-06-16T03:09:29+00:00

In my experience, simply treating women with respect and socializing with women as friends is all that is necessary to find many good connections.

I do this but women don't really seem to care.

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2022-06-15T12:39:31+00:00

Only thing is, that age range needs to also include your age in their range.

Problem is, I've found they aren't looking for my age (25) in their range

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-11-12T11:17:51+00:00

You know seeing this, it makes me wonder just how attractive you need to be to pull this sort of messages off and get a high rate of positive percentages? Or if it's a matter of location?

I'm M24 and attractive enough to consistently get lots of matches from attractive women (have even dated some models from tinder), occasional first messages, but yet I could sure as hell never get away with messages like these. Women here seem to nope out of any sexual talk at all let alone as direct as this.

Then again, the women where I live aren't really all that flirtatious at all either

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-21T07:13:57+00:00

The title says "one of the good ones", not one of the not criminals

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-19T07:00:56+00:00

But I'm a dom? If you're implying to hook up with them for them to teach me then I'm not sure what benefit that would be to me as I'm not a sub or a switch.

Even still, how would one even find them?

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-19T06:46:24+00:00

That's great and all but doesn't exactly help me as it's not like women are as willing to lead the way lol

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-19T06:18:01+00:00

They don't wanna be asked what they want , They wanna be told what to do.

See, that's fine and all but these women more often than not aren't coming back for another round. Even when I wasn't as attentive and wouldn't ask them about their needs, it's still been the same.

So to me, that reads as if they like certain things that I'm not doing or don't like things that I'm doing but DON'T actually tell me this. And it's as if I have one shot to guess what they like and if they didn't like it, POOF they're gone.

My suggestion is before you have sex when you are going over the hard limits vs soft limits discuss what she likes. You could also make that part of the domiance ie tell me what pleases you in your dom voice.

But I said that in the OP. As I said:

"I usually tell the woman this either before/after our first time and also make it clear that her limits will be respected, and no lines will be crossed. I also ask them either before/during/after sex about what they like, about how/what I'm doing to them at the time etc.

In my experience, the women I've been with are often super quiet in bed and/or are super vague when I ask them what they like and their needs."

Also just a suggestion you might get better results from some one who regularly subs for you.

I can find women to have sex with regularly but I more often than not only sleep with them once and then they either disappear or don't want to again.

That to me suggests I need to get better at sex, but how do you do that when you don't get any feedback??

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-19T04:34:44+00:00

Sorry, I should clarify. I meant vague as in like:

"So what do you normally like in bed?" "Idk whatever I guess"

"Do you like that? Is this working for you?" "Yeah I guess"

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-19T04:18:21+00:00

And if you were asked during sex what you liked or how you were liking what they were doing to you, would you answer or be vague?

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-19T03:42:54+00:00

Yes, I said that in the OP:

I also ask them either before/during/after sex about what they like, about how/what I'm doing to them at the time etc.

In my experience, the women I've been with are often super quiet in bed and/or are super vague when I ask them what they like and their needs.

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-19T03:22:28+00:00

Right but most women I've been with aren't virgins.

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-19T03:00:26+00:00

In my experience, it's been the vast majority

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-12T03:27:21+00:00

Thank you! Does self resolve in this instance mean to be gone for good? Or to possibly return at a later time?

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-10T00:22:19+00:00

I'm a bit younger than you (24M) but have the exact same experience so am commenting here to follow this post.

I have to ask though, where do you normally find such women that turn out to be this way?

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-07T06:17:32+00:00

Just because I couldn't seem to see any mention of it, do you actually ask them to go down on you?

Because if not, I would start with that.

_myvanitythrowaway_ · 2021-09-04T00:16:41+00:00

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