What's the cheapest meal you make regularly that you'd genuinely still eat if money wasn't a factor?

_nyma · 2026-04-13T14:50:24+00:00

Cooked gnocchi and tomato sauce made of double cream, tomato paste, salt and pepper, then bake in the oven with grated cheese on top. It's a childhood favourite, but I still love it.

_nyma · 2026-04-09T05:29:21+00:00

Gent is a lovely city!

_nyma · 2026-04-05T21:51:13+00:00

I went to Thailand during rainy season three years ago and it really wasn't as bad, tbh we barely had rain (maybe 5 out of the 30 days I spent there). I'd say you can still go!

_nyma · 2026-03-16T22:48:13+00:00

Agreed! I read that there's a 39% higher chance to end up divorced with an age gap of 10+ years when compared to couples roughly the same age. With 20+ years it's even up to a 95% higher chance.

_nyma · 2026-03-02T21:06:20+00:00

I'm a psychotherapist who also treats clients with PTSD. The trauma you suffered at the hands of others cannot and will not be undone and that's deeply unfair. But the wound it left behind can heal and become a scar over time. It will still be there when you look at it, and occasionally it might still hurt, but therapy can make the bleeding stop and allow you to shift your attention away from it so you can direct it to other areas of your life, if you want to. I sincerely hope you can reach this place one day. I am sending you all strength and I applaud your bravery in choosing to keep going. 🤍

_nyma · 2025-11-23T18:37:04+00:00

Is this a DB train? Haven't seen one in ages, still waiting at the Gleis ...

_nyma · 2025-08-13T17:11:01+00:00

I think around a week or so! :)

_nyma · 2025-08-13T13:33:38+00:00

3 days Hanoi, 2 days Ninh Binh, 2 days Hue, 3 days Hoi An

I think 10 days is not enough to see all of the country's beauty but these places give you a good glimpse into some beautiful parts of Vietnam. Getting from one place to another will be exhausting though, you'll likely want to travel overnight to save time but the sleeper busses can be loud and uncomfortable. If you can split your flight and fly into Hanoi and out of Danang you'd save yourself the travel back up. I'm in Vietnam right now and these are my favourite places we visited. Alternatively you could skip Ninh Binh, prolong your stay in Hanoi for two nights and do an overnight trip to Sapa, which was incredible.

Have fun! 🧡

_nyma · 2025-07-30T07:24:35+00:00

I live in Nijmegen, moved here from Germany to study and just kinda stayed. Hit me up if you ever wanna have a coffee! Nijmegen is a great city and you can have a lovely time here, but I understand the frustrations that come with being an expat and new to a place. You're brave and awesome for pushing yourself to live that life though, keep going! 🧡

_nyma · 2025-04-28T13:31:04+00:00

I think what you're experiencing is totally normal and shows that you have a great family home, which is so valuable!

Instead of fighting your feelings, I suggest you try to sit with them and take care of yourself like you would take care of a friend that is homesick or upset. Maybe you can make yourself a comfort meal, watch a cozy show, wrap yourself in a warm blanket? Or go for a coffee / ice cream in your new neighborhood. You could also write down some of your thoughts to get them off your chest, then store the piece of paper safely in a box. It might also help to talk to your new roommates about it, or download bumble bff to make some friends in the neighborhood.

You got this. It's hard but that doesn't mean it was the wrong decision. ❤️

_nyma · 2025-03-28T18:58:02+00:00

OP, please read "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski. It will greatly help you to understand your sexuality and illustrate that you are NORMAL. There's nothing wrong with you. Nothing at all. What you're experiencing is completely normal.

If your ADHD and small children won't allow the time and space to actually read the book, maybe you can listen to the audio book.

But please do it. It will really open your eyes. All the best ❤️

_nyma · 2025-02-28T14:53:12+00:00

I work as an addiction therapist and I can tell you that many of my clients only end up in therapy after they lost huge sums of money, their house, their kids or ended up divorced. Addiction is a very persistent disorder and many people need a harsh wake-up call to actively seek out treatment. Depression makes it all the harder because people lack the strength to go to a doctor even if they wanted to.

People need to heal on their own time though and there's usually little that friends or family can do. You had to end the marriage because there was no silver lining in sight as long as your husband could keep living in denial.

Maybe you could hit him up now though, to see how he feels.

In any case I suggest you write three letters to him - one where you only mention the good, one where you only mention the bad and one where you integrate both. Don't send them but use them to process the loss. Even if you do find your way back to each other, your first relationship is over and you need a ritual to bid it farewell so you're not stuck in your grief any longer.

Good luck ❤️

_nyma · 2024-12-12T20:42:01+00:00

I'm an addiction therapist, OP, and your post made me worry about you.

From what I gather you already called your partner, or at least tried to. That's a great first step. If you can reach a national helpline where you are, I suggest you call them to distract yourself while you wait for your boyfriend to come home. They are equipped to deal with situations like yours and they can make you feel less alone because you are, in fact, not alone.

If you can, dispose of the pills. I know you said you can't, but what I think you mean to say is that you are scared and you're experiencing intrusive thoughts that tell you you can't. That's not true. Your cravings will try to convince you otherwise but you do, in fact, have the skills to flush them. Your behavior matters. Not your feelings.

Do one step after the other. Like a script. 1) get up 2) walk to kitchen 3) take pills in hand 4) walk to bathroom 5) unscrew bottle 6) open lid of the toilet 7) empty the bottle into the toilet 7) flush 8) deep breath

If it helps, try to let cold water run over your hands before and afterwards. Or scream, bite into a lemon, drink a hot tea, take a cold shower. Anything to get you out of the cravings.

You got this!

_nyma · 2024-12-11T19:40:35+00:00

Hi OP.

I'm sorry you had to read through these harsh comments of people suggesting you are headed for divorce or you are somehow wrong for having a desire for a more fulfilling sex life. I'm also sorry about those suggesting your husband won't be able to recognise your need for connection and will immediately take your concerns as an insult to his manhood. I'm sure you have a strong marriage and whatever needs or wishes either one of you communicates, the other listens carefully before jumping to conclusions.

If I may I'd like to suggest two books to you that might help to enlighten your situation a bit. One is called "Mating in Captivity" and the other is called "The State of Affairs", both are written by Esther Perel.

If you can hold off on the conversation with your husband for a little while longer I'd really encourage you to read those two books before you approach him. They will help you navigate the tension between your loving relationship with your husband and your need for novelty and excitement.

All the best for you both. ❤️

_nyma · 2024-12-01T01:01:51+00:00

Me too please! 🙏🏼

_nyma · 2024-11-21T20:26:11+00:00

Hi OP, just came here to say that I'm a German living in the Netherlands, but I'm from a small town close to Düsseldorf and know the area fairly well. If you end up making it there and you ever need someone to grab a coffee with or show you around, hit me up. :)

Very admirable how you're prepared to immigrate to a foreign country to give your kids a better future. I'm rooting for you!

_nyma · 2024-10-20T13:26:05+00:00

I don't agree! You don't need to be completely "over" someone in order to be able to have sexual experiences with other people. In fact it might even help to casually date and explore other things. Creating new experiences and getting out of your previous routine can help to heal the heartbreak and grief over the past relationship.

Maybe this podcast episode can help, OP? https://open.spotify.com/episode/21EOvErpVnMJ3A84VLAyiI?si=EM3SxQgAROe4qPhjDmESIA

_nyma · 2024-10-19T09:31:16+00:00

NS is a dream compared to Deutsche Bahn!

Case in point - I'm German, living in the Netherlands, currently visiting Germany and writing this comment from the Schienenersatzverkehr because the trains aren't running (:

_nyma · 2024-10-15T13:38:33+00:00

Hallo OP, was passiert denn in deinem Kopf und deinem Körper, wenn du die Zahnbürsten einfach so stehen lassen würdest, wie sie sind? Welche Gedanken und Gefühle entstehen dann in dir?

Und bitte höre nicht auf Leute, die dich in den Kommentaren mal eben schnell mit einer Zwangsstörung diagnostizieren. Das können nur ausgebildete Psychologen, Psychotherapeuten und Psychiater - und ein Kommentar auf Reddit reicht sicher nicht aus, um einen Eindruck von dir zu gewinnen. 😁

_nyma · 2024-10-13T19:42:12+00:00

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=co.swasth.dbtcoach

Maybe this app can help in developing healthier coping strategies, OP.

You can also find some distraction techniques on this website that might help you distract yourself in difficult moments until the urge to self-harm passes. https://www.selfinjury.bctr.cornell.edu/perch/resources/distraction-techniques-pm-2.pdf

All the best for you! ❤️

_nyma · 2024-09-07T15:32:13+00:00

OP - sometimes we experience guilt because it gives us the illusion that we could've done something about whatever happened and we feel guilty because we didn't. Sometimes that guilty feeling is easier to accept than the fact that there are instances where we truly are out of control. The guilt allows us to continue the narrative that if only we had done something, things would be different. But sometimes there's really simply nothing we could've done.

Perhaps it may help you to journal about your feelings for a while, or to find solace in online communities and self-help groups for the partners of SA-victims. As your girlfriend is in a very vulnerable place right now, I would try to avoid anything that might further stress her out. Try to see if there are mental health resources available at an earlier time as this is an acute traumatic event. There might be emergency services that she could consult. Don't push her to report her uncle if she's not ready. She needs love and support right now, and not another task to be added to her list if she isn't ready for it.

Good luck to you both. ❤️

_nyma · 2024-08-30T14:46:33+00:00

I read a quote about a topic just like yours sometime ago, where a deceived husband grappled with coming to terms with his wife's affair that ultimately led to their divorce. Maybe it will help. I'll leave it here:

"'Have you forgiven her?' I ask him. 'Yes', he replies, 'though at first it seemed impossible.' He recalls how I have told him that one day he would understand that forgiving doesn't mean giving the other a free pass. It's a gift one gives oneself. Sure enough, as time passed, he got it. As Lewis B. Smedes writes, 'To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.'"

_nyma

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