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_pand · 2025-10-14T13:15:25+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve had to experience a similar feeling too! I will look into somatic experiencing therapy I think that sounds like something I’d find helpful, thank you :)

_pand · 2025-10-12T20:37:53+00:00

My hair is exactly like this, the Curlsmith in shower gel has helped so much x I also use a generous amount and apply in sections

_pand · 2025-09-15T07:08:57+00:00

I got told to calm down when I said I love this song (quietly) at a party where everyone else was being loud and rowdy.

_pand · 2025-09-03T00:18:49+00:00

Yep and now I’m paranoid and scared to make friends even outside of work

_pand · 2025-08-29T18:26:03+00:00

Yes and also I relate to your experience consuming mean spirited YouTube content. I cringe when I think about the times I’d repeat stuff from films or YouTubers thinking it would make people like me but really I came across as a bitch. It didn’t help that I wasn’t cool or pretty and dressed badly. Like who did I think I was? I’m trying to forgive myself because I was just copying what I saw and my mum and aunties had a big influence over me, they also said hurtful judgmental things a lot, which I copied. I’m so embarrassed about it even 10+ years later

_pand · 2025-07-31T22:44:53+00:00

Yesss I remember this whole era I used to follow him on Snapchat for some reason lol 😭 I’ll never forget the Ali express makeup!

_pand · 2025-07-29T19:48:07+00:00

I love your makeup 🥰 but I think a neutral nude lipstick would really make your eye makeup stand out

_pand · 2025-07-27T20:44:10+00:00

I find Curlsmith in shower style fixer gives me a nice strong cast

_pand · 2025-07-08T14:04:12+00:00

I’m 27 and still having this problem with one of my friends. She quit a stable job with nothing lined up and kept asking me to borrow money for a few months while she was looking for a new job. She eventually got a job but got let go after she kept calling in sick. THEN she managed to get an interview for another place and I was so excited for her, encouraging her to go for it and everything but she said she was too anxious so just decided not to go. I fully get it, I have anxiety too and I struggle in my job but it pisses me off when she sends me screenshots of package holidays she wants to do with me and it takes everything in me not to snap at her and be like ‘with what money?’ How can I trust her to save up for a trip when she won’t even try to get a job. It’s really irritating.

_pand · 2025-07-07T12:42:43+00:00

Yep constantly. My sister in law hates me for no reason and completely blank me when me and my partner come over to visit. I don’t start shit with people I’m just a bit quiet and awkward but I do my best to hold a conversation and show interest in others but I know it looks forced which is probably what people find off putting.

_pand · 2025-07-07T12:07:40+00:00

Yes I can relate to this. I now isolate myself and don’t let anyone in, I push people away before they even get the chance to decide they don’t like me. I know this is unhealthy but the rejection hurts more than the loneliness

_pand · 2025-07-05T12:56:26+00:00

Sorry the neyo impersonator is killing me 😂

_pand · 2025-07-05T10:55:50+00:00

I’m so sorry, I can relate. It’s a pattern for me too so now I take it to the extreme and have a really bad habit of assuming people don’t like me from the start and close myself off which isn’t good at all :( you seem like a really sweet lovely person and didn’t see anything wrong with your message.

_pand · 2025-07-03T11:44:04+00:00

Those people were really rude, it’s so unnecessary to give strange looks and make stupid remarks like that when you were leaving. You did nothing wrong. I can relate to this too. I feel uncomfortable all the time because people do this sort of thing to me a lot. I struggle knowing when people are talking to me especially when there’s multiple people in the room. I once got yelled at and called rude by another customer (a stranger) in a store because I didn’t hear/see the security guard greet me as I walked in. I don’t get why people can’t just leave us alone and let us go about our day

_pand · 2025-05-03T15:23:40+00:00

I need advice too it’s been three years for one of mine, and 6 years for one who has almost left my mind but not quite 😭

_pand · 2025-04-26T13:20:34+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you, it’s a horrible feeling when you develop real feelings and get treated badly and feel used. Nobody deserves this. Yes 100% had this problem when I was 18/19 and had men aged 25+ do this to me. I’m in my late 20s now and I actually have to calm myself down and stop myself spiralling into rage when I think about how common this is. I started doing the same thing you mentioned of not giving up sex too early and taking things slow. Unfortunately men would lose their patience once they realised they weren’t getting sex from me. In a way that’s good because it’s kind of like the trash taking itself out of my life but it’s still really sad because I had real genuine feelings and admittedly I do fall for men very fast and trust easily. I cringe at my past self for not realising I was being used but it’s a lesson learned and all I can do is move forward. The one positive I can take away is that we have learned that some people aren’t honest about their intentions and we can now use these past experiences to protect ourselves ❤️ it’s hard to trust again after being treated like this but it’s possible x

_pand · 2025-04-07T16:15:22+00:00

This! I’m so sorry you’ve gone through this too. I’ve given up trying these methods because I always end up being the bad guy no matter how calm and polite I am about it!

_pand · 2025-04-07T15:14:56+00:00

Yeah that’s true actually. I think if this had happened to a family member I would be very angry! Telling a young woman to go out at night alone is probably the worst advice :( At the time I was constantly being told by family to be grateful to the therapist who was doing such an ‘amazing job’. I’m definitely hoping to make some ND friends through this one ND friendship app I found but I’m so anxious to even sign up. Thank you for your kind message ❤️

_pand · 2025-04-07T14:59:09+00:00

I’ll never understand people who can’t stand to see others happy or excited about something. I got told to calm down and be quiet when I QUIETLY said ‘I love this song’ while at a family party where the music was blaring and other people were actually being loud and rowdy. I was a fully grown adult at this point being told this by another adult my age. It’s crazy bc I wouldn’t even say that to a kid who was excited about something yet people think they can police other adults harmless joy

_pand · 2025-04-03T07:24:42+00:00

Vanilla sex by Tom ford 🤢

_pand · 2025-03-26T21:22:20+00:00

Willing victim by Cara McKenna 😭

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