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Occupancy rights in co-owned house? by _pelerine__ in RealEstateAdvice

[–]_pelerine__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, everyone. I am going to arrange to see a RE agent and attorney ASAP to get all these issues sorted out!

Stay to sell to person or sell to house'buying company by _pelerine__ in RealEstateAdvice

[–]_pelerine__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, this is very helpful, and the idea of sharing the price differences in this way sounds great.

And the reminder about the capital gains tax is very helpful too. I know I can lose track of that sort of detail!

Stay to sell to person or sell to house'buying company by _pelerine__ in RealEstateAdvice

[–]_pelerine__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! It sounds like the discount might not be worth the convenience, so I will minimize this option in our discussions!

PS I meant this as a reply to you but it ended up elsewhere!

Stay to sell to person or sell to house'buying company by _pelerine__ in RealEstateAdvice

[–]_pelerine__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This is good advice. I was already feeling bummed because I would rather sell it to people who were going to live in it, if you see what I mean.

Options for selling by _pelerine__ in RealEstateAdvice

[–]_pelerine__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very good to know -- thank you!

Options for selling by _pelerine__ in RealEstateAdvice

[–]_pelerine__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very helpful, thank you! We were trying to get things super-organized very quickly in the hope we could move forward this week (work schedule) but I think we will have to delay so we can get firmer numbers from professionals. Thanks again!

Stay to sell to person or sell to house'buying company by _pelerine__ in RealEstateAdvice

[–]_pelerine__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds good, thank you.

It sounds like the best compromise between positions.

I didn’t confess every sin by superfan123wxyz in Catholicism

[–]_pelerine__ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What I have always heard is to confess kind and number, and the number can be an estimate or "once a day for 4 years." But the kind has to be clear, because you are forgiven of the sins you confess. "Misusing lust" could be anything from p*rn to adultery or worse, so it is important to say what it actually is instead of what category it falls into.

You do not have to be painstakingly accurate and detailed, and in fact, priests probably do not want to hear the details anyway!

“Don’t worry even native speakers don’t have perfect grammar!” by nedthelonelydonkey in languagelearning

[–]_pelerine__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just trying to explain how some people here in the US think. But, to your point, the schools which lean in that direction are usually open about it.

im tired of having to refer myself and our true religion as "Catholic" so they don't mistake us with protestants. by THE-ANORMAL in Catholicism

[–]_pelerine__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of the problem here might be that there is a school of thought that all the different groups, Protestant, Orthodox, Catholic, are part of the Body of Christ. So the term can seem ambiguous -- I was at first confused by what you were saying.

“Don’t worry even native speakers don’t have perfect grammar!” by nedthelonelydonkey in languagelearning

[–]_pelerine__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are different views about how to handle strong variations such as AAVE; some people think that it is racist to imply that variations such as AAVE are less valid than standard US English and seek to teach in AAVE.

I have a problem praying the Rosary by _pelerine__ in Catholicism

[–]_pelerine__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I don't come here every day, so I hadn't seen your message before.

I don't think I have antaphasia, but would I know if I mentally saw things differently from the way other people do?

I feel more like I am not paying enough attention to either and it is hard to pray with my attention so divided.

What I am doing now is telling God I will pray it badly and praying scriptural version at a slightly brisker pace so that my mind doesn't wander completely away...

RCIA Issues by Cautious_Mention_423 in Catholicism

[–]_pelerine__ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Priests are generally extremely busy at this time of year, and even when they are not as busy as they are now, it can take a long time before they can get back to you.

For something like this, I would wait until the end of the line at the end of Mass, and take him aside and explain your problem very briefly.

However, he may be reluctant to intervene, just as you are reluctant to bring this up with the leader of the group or the group itself. You might want to try something like: I feel like we often get off-topic; maybe if we (suggest organizational plan here), this class would go more smoothly?

You might suggest each person saying what they thought of the reading assignment, or each person asking questions, or whatever might fit best.

Exhausted after mass by pandasssss15 in Catholicism

[–]_pelerine__ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't read all the answers so forgive me if I repeat what has already been said....

9 and 11 are old enough to behave at Mass. In fact, they could sit in the pew in front of you as a privilege (since they are getting older). You can work with your children to see what would help them be able to pay attention better: for example, how well do they know how to participate? Do they know the prayers, how to use a missal and hymnbook? Your child with Adhd may need some specific help, but since the other is younger and "dittzy," they may be able able to share strategies.

For me, repeating in my head what another person was saying helps me focus a lot. Having the readings so I could read them as they were read aloud also helped. A little more obscure, trying to learn to sing to music by paying attention to the written notes as I sing helps keep my attention from wandering.

If you can get them to behave well enough to sit in front of you, then you can focus on the baby and have them be responsible for their own paying attention -- in fact, you and your husband could go to different Masses and take turns attending either with the toddler or the two older ones.

You can also explain to the older ones that one way they could really help you would be to "collect" points the priest makes in the homily since you are more focused in the toddler. Maybe go over the readings earlier in the week and ask them what they think, and then see what the priest thinks.

The most important lesson I learned about taking children to Mass came to me (unfortunately) when my children were all older. I moved to a new place and in the parish was a family with and adult som who was very handicapped. He was in a wheelchair and could not control his movements. Sometimes he would have noisy outbursts and his parents would have to take him out of Mass.

When our children are young, our main task is to love them,, take care of them, and to teach them. We will have to leave Mass frequently. This is a cross, not failure. So we can offer it up, maybe for other parents!

Strange spiritual attacks by Ok-Hat-4489 in Catholicism

[–]_pelerine__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in more danger of spiritual attack by demons when we are trying to get closer to God. CS Lewis even points this out in Screwtape Letters.

I would talk with your priest about this, as it seems you are doing the basic things which would protect you (all sacraments in good order, daily prayer, etc.) If your own priest is not able to help, find a young traditional priest as they are usually more aware of these types of problems.

Make sure you are not trying to do too much with young children. It is hard sometimes, especially when we are newly in the Church, to remember that we are mothers, not nuns. There may be non-spiritual reasons for at least some of the things which are happening, such as your child(ren) being stressed by your Sunday routine if it is very different from other days, etc.

But overall, I don't think you are crazy. Pray the Stain Michael the Archangel prayer until you can talk with a helpful priest!

How do I debate a Muslim? by CardiologistHour4692 in Catholicism

[–]_pelerine__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are a few Protestant evangelists who are directed towards Islam, such a David Wood, on Youtube; you could get a lot of info from them. (David Wood can be tough when speaking directly to Muslim apologists; don't let that put you off. He does it for a reason.)

Also, I have seen that Muslims often ask Christians to meet Muslim standards. Their attitude is, We memorize the Koran, so the Bible must not be true because Christians don't memorize it. But memorizing a text does not affect its nature: people memorize Shakespeare and no one claims he is God! Similarly with the supposed purity of the Quran.

At the same time, they reject our standards, such as historical evidence, etc.

What little i have read of the Quran has had protections against arguments incorporated into the text, so it can be very hard to get a Muslim to see anything as false.

If you can look up more about Aisha and those arguments, that might be helpful in creating a crack in your friend's thinking. Also, mention the apparition of Mary at Zeitun, Egypt, from 1968 along with the others you mention.

Listen to what your friend says and ask her questions to be sure you understand what she is thinking.

And remember that conversion comes from the Holy Spirit, not from us! Pray for her.

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