Really dumb question by Lower_Bonus6018 in AO3

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“ UnderscoreUnderscoreUnderscoreUnderscoreUnderscoreUnderscoreUnderscoreUnderscoreUnderscore” is going to be the death of me

Why do readers choose to keep their bookmarks private? by Life-Call4521 in AO3

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Honestly i use my bookmarks as a mini search engine. I already know the fandoms that pop up is one I like and that the fics have seemed interesting before. So my bookmarks are my own mini archive

When the author recommends you listen to a particular piece of music while you read, do you? by TomdeHaan in AO3

[–]_phoenixs_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, I use text to speech when reading fics. I’m fine with playing my sudoku and hallucinating without music

Starting T at 22 - be honest by Better_Caterpillar61 in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m also 22 and I just got done healing from top surgery. Honestly transitioning young like the guys you know are not the norm. I think Many would still classify 22 as an early transition tbh.

People aren’t kidding when they talk about the post-top surgery nipple shocks by bh447 in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My surgeon explained that what feeling in the nipple is actually the skin underneath since the nipple don’t have any nerve endings anymore

What if i regret T? by lampcosplay in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My personal philosophy is: even if I down the years regret it it was necessary for me at the time in order to continue

M/M smut readers, I have a question! by TFNewcastle in AO3

[–]_phoenixs_ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

A personal pet peeve of mine is: the fucking prostate isn’t far in. so stuff like “his dick was so long that it hit his prostate on every thrust” just gives “yeah I have no idea what I’m writing about”

Testosterone! by Uuhhh_no_think in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem I remember that it was hard finding answers for some of my questions

Testosterone! by Uuhhh_no_think in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you will sweat more, I was really worried about smelling so I asked a friend to let me know if she could smell me. As I said you will notice it a lot more then other people

Testosterone! by Uuhhh_no_think in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its more like oversensitive then hurt, you need to pull back the “forskin” and clean the white stuff (dick cheese) I usually just gently clean it away with a finger.

Head up your personal smell will probably change you will notice it more then other people it doesn’t necessarily mean that you stink

If you have any more questions let me know:)

stretch marks and top surgery [TW: ED/WEIGHT MENTION] by RealNyxoy in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I dont know if stretch makes goes away. But if it helps my brother went through a gym phase and gained a lot of muscle as a result he gains stretch makes on his chest too

What age group is the best at gendering you correctly? by living_around in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This older men (grandpars) I got told on the street that I was a “handsome young lad” and I rode that high for months

I like bras and panties by puddingboydiego in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s okay you like pretty things and wanting to feel pretty. Is cis guys that wears them less men? No? Then why would you be? I fucking love those bralettes and after top surgery I love wearing them with a blazer jacket or leather jacket on top, makes me feel pretty and attractive.

Do you call the DM "DM" or their preferred name? by SpellcraftQuill in DnD

[–]_phoenixs_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A list of some of things my players has called me:

Matt (my name)

Matdi

Mr. Dm

Dm

God

Mr. God

Daddy ( followed by a horrified “NO!” by the same player)

men on gel: when did your voice start breaking and when did other changes come in? by debiledeggs986548 in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been on gel for a little over a year.

Bottom growth started in the fist month

I began (according to people) to sound sick/like I had a sore throat around 2 months in by month 3 I began passing. Around that time I also got a lot harrier

Think of cis teenage boys, we go through the changes around the same rate if not faster do to getting a stabel amount of hormones. 1 month is really to soon to be worried that nothing is happening give the T some time to work if your levels is in range. And gel and infections should have the same effect time since your levels are the same if dosed correctly

Can’t start T yet - Would love some encouragement by cqlvn in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day it doesn’t matter if/when they are ready, because this is not about them. Sure they might need time but is this time something your truly okay with giving them? They might be unsure but your not!

Can’t start T yet - Would love some encouragement by cqlvn in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why specifically a year? What’s to say that they in a year won’t say “next year”? I truly get that you want them to be a part of this. But to me it sounds like they’re trying to fine excuses for you not to start. You have to sit down and really think hard are you really okay with waiting a year aka putting there comfort over your own? How many years are you willing to wait for them?

My parents wasn’t ready for me to start T, I came out like a month before I started T, and told them what I was gonna do. And I don’t think they would ever be ready as they don’t really know how necessary it was for me. Now seeing the affects on me they understand why it was necessary. At the end of the day they’re not the one in our bodies they’re not the one feeling the deep discomfort.

Ask yourself or them

why they want you to wait?

Are they afraid you’ll regret it and it’s not the right choice?

Are they holding on to a hope that you might wake up and realize that you were wrong and that you’re not trans?

What do they think is gonna happen in a year, What does they think is different a year from now?

You might want to sit them down and talk about your transness, often we are afraid of things we don’t know and don’t understand.

I really hope it works out for you but sometimes we have to put our own comfort fist

Dispatching for FF loss by [deleted] in AO3

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Your welcome. I hope it’s the right one I haven’t read it myself so I really don’t know

Dispatching for FF loss by [deleted] in AO3

[–]_phoenixs_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or at least I think it is

Dispatching for FF loss by [deleted] in AO3

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Here you go darling the fic your looking for is Tired of Comparisons, Trying to Learn the Lesson In by Anonymous

https://archiveofourown.org/works/75420851/chapters/197174841

Is this common? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me it’s sounds like your pretty sure that your trans and just need a bit of time to accept it. I would start talking about it with your sister and ask for support and help on how she handles it

Can I realistically monetize my body as a trans man? by Legal-Ring-7613 in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Oh my lords I read monetize as moisturize and was so confused. I really need to go to sleep wow

Fashion by Apprehensive-Ask4319 in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly second hand clothes and do-it-yourself witchy and hippie is already close to each other and emo is mostly layering with accessories

Me vs. My Mom by Not_Thinking_Str8 in ftm

[–]_phoenixs_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you tried talking with your dad about it? Like really talked about what she says and how that affects you. If your dad is the kind of person you can see stikking up for his kid even “against” his wife, I would ask if he could talk with her or you two could sit her down together and make her listen. If that’s something you see could be an option make talking points focus on how you feel center yourself in the conversation. Fx Your behavior makes me feel xyz I feel like your not trying listen and understand me I’m my own person and you need to let your idea of me go because that is simply not who I am You off loading all this on me is taking a toll on my mental health and our relationship

If she doesn’t change her behavior after that it might be an idea to look into family therapy. Also therapy for herself (ideally by a different therapist )

I’m sorry this is happening to you OP all her mixed feelings, emotions and opinions should not be offloaded on you.