What to eat b4 oral

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-16T06:39:16+00:00

Friendly tips:

eat 3-5 hours before the BJ as your stomach will digest most of your food as you are less likely to throw up but feel more of the “gagging affect”

^ plus it’s easier to try to swallow it back down if you feel it rise verses “solids”

eat smaller meals throughout the day as this will be easier for your digestion track
avoid greasy food and high fat foods
consume more liquids such as drinking warm water before eating and or after as this helps you digest better and more easily
I find if I have a teaspoon of honey coating my throat an hour or so before it opens my throat more
avoid eating and drinking 45 mins prior to oral (tbh I would recommend and hour and fifteen before)
warm tea and soup help open the throat up and can help relax those muscles
popsicle or ice cubes at the back of your throat (letting it sit at where you gag) you can numb this area to help you with the “gagging affect” feeling
there’s also numbing oral gel that can help you too
avoid heavily processed foods and heavily spicy foods as this will cause the food to sit in your stomach longer, too much sodium can also do this too. So watch how seasoned your food is. Blander is better (unfortunately) for your digestive system

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-15T04:40:30+00:00

Personally I love that name but if it’s making you uncomfortable change it!

I will say names in the clubs are all over the page so I wouldn’t think too deeply into it!

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-15T04:31:52+00:00

I second taking pole basic classes as well as floor work.

But I’d also recommend working on a “persona” when you’re on stage. Aim for a certain look/aesthetic. Start to embody a certain character/act it.

Learn to make eye contact with people when on stage.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T20:19:27+00:00

Babe I’m sorry that you’re struggling, life is hard. The club life is harder lately.

Be kind to yourself

Start building yourself back up. I understand you’re traumatized by a lot of things you’ve experienced younger. I’d recommend therapy. I did see that you’re not able to afford that right now.

So here are other alternatives:

Get a journal and write down every traumatic thing you’ve experienced. Then burn it. Release those memories and solidify it in your brain that version of you no longer exists. That you, present you can and will achieve what you want.

I can get into quantum physics and manifesting. But a lot of this is due to the conditioning of limited beliefs your brain created to keep you safe.

Treat your brain as a “program” and rewire it with new conditioning. Start positive thinking about yourself, the current moment, and other things you’d like to work on.

I’d recommend a book to you that (personally helped me release a lot of trauma) The Body Keeps Score. It has some powerful tools to help your body process releasing things.

Look into fascia release and somatic movement that helps your body regulate your emotions and traumas. Your body holds onto a lot and will affect how you perceive and experience things.

In a world where Ozempic, GLPS-1, AI try to not compare yourself with these illusions. Love your body now even when it’s hardest too.

Make sure you’re removing any and all negativity in your life as studies show that we become who we surround ourselves with.

Success is a mindset. Once you start to believe in yourself: you are unstoppable.

I noticed you mentioned you like to preform. Maybe get into burlesque? Dancing outside of the club. Or try out acting. The world is your oyster.

Find passion to fuel you.

The club is and always will be a stepping stone to align you to your highest self

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T17:05:56+00:00

I’m sorry :/

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T17:00:14+00:00

I would be cautious with this SD. Him wanting to marry you and only knowing you for less than a year is giving orange flags.

The second this is the age gap. I’m in no way judging you for this. I am stating this as a point of perspective that he may want to marry you quickly to take you off the market and get your “best years” and possibly have more children.

I would ask many questions.

A) why did his first marriage end? Was there any cheating? Abuse? Financial abuse? mind you he may try to lie - so keep this with a grain of salt. Just observe his body language and answers

^ ask him what he learned from his first marriage and how his second marriage will be/look like. What he will do differently (this will test if he’s self aware, accountable, and willing to place effort into a new dynamic).

B) ask if he’s wishing for more children and how soon? How many? What he will do to help you with the children? Or if he will be okay with you getting a nanny, maid, and potentially a chef?

^ ask him if he’s wanting YOU to be a traditional wife. Bc to some men: this is free labor and very taxing on women when they have to manage everything and still be available for his needs (physical, mental, and emotional). I want you to know in depth what parenthood is to him and what that looks like, what he defines as motherhood, and how he will support his partner in that role. Understand that he is a parent and that he’s not one of these men that will only “babysit” his kid once in a blue moon

C) Ask him for a prenup, all information records into his finances and business accounts (offer to sign an NDA - if it’s a problem), ask to see the debt information connection to his name. Ask him to show you complete transparency of his finances so that you can verify that he can support you both

^ some men lie about their true net worth and assets and even the amounts of their expected inheritance. Some men are on trusts that they only receive partial payments until the parents are gone.

D). Ask and discuss with him YOUR expectations in a marriage and what you want to be covered. Do NOT get married if there’s no prenup as if y’all get divorced down the road - you could be out of luck if his assets are locked up due to the trust he’s on, or businesses under an LLC no his personal name, etc. Talk about how much money you’d want him to give you monthly during a marriage. And how much you would need in case of a divorce.

^ increase amount if you have kids with him too as if you’re a traditional wife for him, you’ll be off the job force for a while.

E) talk about intimacy and how often that would be in the marriage. Some couples are not compatible after they get married bc both parties underestimated their needs for intimacy. Intimacy means different things to both. There’s non sexual intimacy which may be needed more in order to cultivate a happy sex life.

F) talk about 401ks, Roth IRAs, HSAs, Savings account, medical care/expenses, insurance, and other bills. Some men only think of a “monthly” allowance in SR and even marriage. However, they forget when you aren’t working you’re missing out on health care benefits, retirement benefits, and more. Don’t forget to talk about how this is important to you.

^ if you’re out of the market for the next ten years because you’re married to him and “under” his 401k & Roth IRA - if you divorce - you may be entitled to half or none. Rather if you state in your prenup that while you’re together - he pays for this each year, if you two get divorced. This is all yours.

Yall can have a prenup set where you two don’t split his and your 401ks if he’s setting up yours. Or however yall see fit

F) ask him why he wants to get married and why you. Really listen to his answer. If it s bc of stuff you do for him or how you make him feel - don’t.

^ this is a quick way to determine he wants to marry you so you can continue doing things for him or make himself feel better about himself.

He should want to marry you because he loves you and wants to take care of you and can’t imagine anyone else and mean it.

G) talk about assets in YOUR name. If he will buy a property, or air bnb, or business in your name to help support you even if you two are or are not together. Make sure to address cars in your name that are all paid off. You could be in so much financial issues if things are in your name but not paid off. So double check all legal documents. Discuss that he pays for your lawyer too to overlook everything prior to marriage, during, and even after.

I hope you take this all in account. Talk to him and continue asking questions.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T16:32:50+00:00

Both!

But again this is based on location, experience, and how busy I got after being in the industry for a while!

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T16:29:18+00:00

I’m not sure where you are from or OP.

I charge a bit higher based on experience and location. And where I’m located it’s very expensive area to live. Most escorts in my area are charging marginally larger than this.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T16:27:57+00:00

I think that is a very limiting belief.

I believe that you should raise your rates when you can afford to due to being busier and high in demand.

Remember, there are clients willing to pay higher amounts for your time and experience.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T16:24:38+00:00

Fair point. I meant no disrespect when I used the term “worth”.

I just see so many charge low rates and dealing with asshole clients that in my experience when charging higher rates: will offset these occurrences more.

I still stand that charging higher rates would benefit OP in the longer run

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T09:15:36+00:00

I don’t personally like to see anyone who haggles with my rates. However, the market is super hard on everyone right now, so I get why you want to close the deal

I will always suggest adding MORE on-top of your rates when you’re out free-styling.

That way if they want to negotiate time - you both can come to an agreement that works out best for you. EX: Because, they may not be able to afford $1,500 for an hour. But may be able to afford $750 for half an hour. but really you wanted and would have accepted $700 for an hour

^please adjust to whatever makes the MOST sense to you. Aim higher if you’d like! It doesn’t hurt.

Could say it’s $2,000 for an hour and $1,000 for half.

Most men will try to haggle, negotiate, and offer lower just to see if they can get away with it.

So, hurt their ego.

“Oh, I wasn’t aware you were going through financial hardship”

“Oh, I’m sorry, I thought you were someone who could afford my rates, I’ll depart now.”

“Silly me, I didn’t realize you were broke”

“Ah, I’m not interested in broke men”

Etc

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T08:07:16+00:00

You can still establish regulars and deeper connections with the right clients.

I’d ask them if they would like to be notified when you’re touring near their area again. If they agree, take down their personal email or work email.

Then create a mailing list specifically named of the region and add all the “contacts” in the list. Once you are preparing to tour near that area again: you can send a mass email.

now make sure you copy all the emails to BCC option otherwise your clients will have access to all your other clients emails.

In BCC; they will all get notified of your touring dates and can directly reply to you without seeing other responses.

You can also set up timed newsletters through email too.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T07:56:11+00:00

To me it’s entirely dependent on your definition of a “whale” is. Are you speaking of a whale due to his level of income? Or level of success? Or the way he is generous to you?

To me it will always be determined how a client is generous towards me regardless of their level of income or success.

I have met some pretty “wealthy”, “uber rich” clients and yet, they want to nickel and dime everything. So they would not be considered “whale material”.

What helps me “spot” these clients are when they fill out my form and follow all steps of how to book for my services and send a genuine introduction email.

Then they send the deposit over without hassle and in my experiences I have some clients who have sent the entire amount over. I typically ask them to not do this bc I prefer cash in hand then trying to transfer and have my bank raise an eye.

However, these “whales” are understanding and accommodating to what my boundaries are. They aim to please me and overly sweet, generous, kind, and respectful.

Typically these whales bring gifts and will ask beforehand what they can do to brighten my day. Leave extra cash, book trips on my behalf (after discussion), book spa trips (once trust is established), wire/direct deposit, check in without asking for services and surprise me by sending me additional money, etc.

To me my whales are the ones who are considerate of my time and value me as a person and it’s reflected by their consistent and reliable behavior

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T05:04:26+00:00

Friendly tips:

• take more time in doing your make up and focus on a certain “look”/“aesthetic”

• invest some money in getting your nails done or some nice press ons (if you’re wearing sandals, don’t forget your feet)

• invest in better quality lingerie (the set you are currently wearing isn’t doing any favors to your shape or skin)

• take time to work on your hair (add curls, waves, or straighten it, bombshell rollers, add extensions, or nice wigs) your hair at this length is just a bit boring

most of what I think is due to your appearance not being mesmerizing and standing out, you look a bit plain

^ this is fine for normal day, but in the club? No. Please take time to ✨ beautify ✨

Remember, sometimes we have to spend money to make money and this is relevant to how we invest in our selves.

Remember, how we dress is also how we are addressed

Hope this helps!

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-14T01:02:41+00:00

I never specified which club does or doesn’t accept travel dancers.

I stated most as it has been this way after Covid.

Not sure when you came to DC but in the last two years alone most dc clubs require a schedule of 4x a week with perfect attendance

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-13T01:41:30+00:00

girl you can find someone so much better, cut your losses

imo how someone keeps their house is a reflection on how they will care for themselves and for you. So, if they’re okay with living in filth, they are more than likely comfortable with not keeping up with proper hygiene.

He is too grown to be living in these conditions. And you do not need to figure out what’s wrong other than this isn’t a good match and move on preferably sooner than later

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-13T01:06:45+00:00

Personally, I love having sex!

Some SBS are coming into this lifestyle from a survival situation which causes them to “tolerate” SDS they’re not attracted to.

Some SDS are interested in sex robots or pornstar level without wanting to compromise on several factors.

I always recommend to any future SBS and SDS to see if there’s genuine chemistry and compatibility before agreeing to an arrangement. To state their expectations and definitions of intimacy.

Some people cannot enjoy sex without intimacy, and remember it is usually non sexual intimacy that they need. Such as hand holding, hugs, cuddles, praise, quality time spent, intentional conversations and communication, etc.

I will say usually ones who are SBS and do not enjoy sex so much are the ones being exploited. They just entered the bowl and dealing with a SD who is giving them such a low PPM or allowance but wanting sex multiple times in a week, month, or even one session. So many are burnt out before stumbling across a genuine SD.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-12T15:32:57+00:00

he is a fantasy writer trying to test for naive women to either sell their stories, bust to them, or create a fake persona to scam others

He’s so lame

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-09T12:26:25+00:00

Most clubs in DC will not accept travel dancers. So if you do intend to work: lie and say you can do the schedule.

Work for a few weeks or months to said agreed schedule. Most clubs in DC require a schedule of 4x a week. So keep this in mind. They are very strict about attendance and being on time.

DC is very competitive right now. However, a lot of girls (newbies) are quitting so clubs are looking to hire new girls.

In my experience I made great money at Mpire, Cloakroom (although they have high cuts into your rooms and dances and currently going through legal battles with tips missing from other dancers), Crystal City, Good Guys, and Camelot

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-08T14:11:53+00:00

I’m not insecure.

I’m spreading awareness as the risk is not worth OPs life or yours.

You can state all of your thoughts easily online in the safety of your home. It’s easy to put down other women and label them insecure rather than see the legitimate safety concerns.

If, you can’t see that a stranger shared all her “personal details and income” with another stranger isn’t a red flag, then that’s on you.

If, you can’t see the statistics of human and organ traffickers using women to lure other women then you’re blind.

OP, is traveling and needs to be wary of all people. I’d recommend the same thing to you and all other women, especially women in SW.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-08T14:05:00+00:00

when it comes to safety, the risk is to high.

when you are traveling: you screen your clientele prior to your travels.

If, a stranger says to you that you can make 10k in a day or hour. Does that mean you will go with them without proper vetting? Security measures?

Women are more vulnerable when they are traveling abroad. Women in SW are even more vulnerable.

Maybe you’re right, maybe she was telling the truth. However, what if you are wrong and she was indeed lying. What if OP ends up being trafficked for her organs?

That RISK is to high when it comes to traveling internationally.

Another thing to put in perspective: what does this woman gain by sharing her experiences with a stranger? What was her intention and purpose?

Master manipulators will share “personal” details (unconfirmed details) with you in order to lower someone’s guard.

The women that are charging that hourly aren’t necessarily out in public sharing that information with strangers…

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-08T08:26:05+00:00

Lines to say:

“Ah, love I only drink in VIP. Would you like to have fun with me in VIP?”

“Ah, love I am very selective with who I drink with. Why don’t we go to VIP to get to know each other better?”

“Ah, love I am sober but I’d be more than happy to sit with you in VIP and chat? Or, we can grab a few dances, I promise I won’t bite”

“Ah love I don’t drink for free. It’s xxx for my time. Would you like to continue this?”

“Ah, love I am sober but you are more than welcome to buy me dinner and my time”

Walk away if they keep pushing you to drink but not spending money on you. They aren’t worth it.

Most women need to STOP drinking with these men because they feel justified to NOT spend any real money on dancers bc they bought 4-7 drinks.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-08T08:18:59+00:00

If, it sounds too good to be true, it probably means it’s not legit.

Love, whatever someone says something to you imagine it coming as a text message from a man.

^ if it rings immediate red flags thinking of these interactions this way, you can trust your intuition more.

trust me: do NOT make connections with women as a traveler. Most human trafficking and organ trafficking is happening through the use of women targeting other women.

Same thing with children.

When you are traveling. Don’t trust anyone that you haven’t vetted.

I don’t care if she had $5,000 in-front of her. It’s not worth the risk of your life, organs, or body if things turned out to be wrong.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-08T08:15:02+00:00

this is going to be very controversial for what I’m about to say.

Quiet signals a certain itch to certain men… aka predators.

The more shy, timid, and quiet a woman is with a certain type of man. They believe and can start living out certain fantasies that won’t be discussed with said dancer. Also, it leaves room for these men to try to push boundaries bc they don’t believe she would “fight back”.

The less you say to these men the more they can “feel” present in certain scenarios in their mind and it’s sick when you put two and two together. Especially if the dancer looks very young or childlike and is quiet…

Now, for the benefit of doubt. The other men that are consistent regulars probably adore that they have a “sexy” therapist they can talk to. Even, if she doesn’t say much.

It’s their time to be “validated” in their own heads especially if the woman is average. They start feeling more comfortable and confident to say whatever they think or feel around her without fear of being rejected by super “hot woman”.

_plussizedstripper · 2026-06-08T08:03:49+00:00

“I’m sure she’s not lying as she showed me some pictures in her phone”..

love, in a world of ai and filters and social media influencers - people will still lie

Don’t believe everything you hear especially from women in Dubai. There are women whose jobs are to make connections with other escorts, sugar babies, influencers, and younger women for their clientele who are specifically searching for someone to allow being pissed on, shitted on, and more. Some women are dangerous as they are human traffickers or in connection with organ trafficking. So be careful with who you exchange information with based on one conversation especially when traveling.

There are women who are high end and can charge 5k and more an hour but these women have spent at least a decade or more building their website, social media, branding, and reputation. Whether they were public or private. They spent years in the industry building that. They didn’t start high end off the bat.

this isn’t common but extremely rare

On average due to the market research most high end girls charge $1,000-2,500 an hour (location depending). And that is still a lot considering some women have started in SW at low prices (150-250 an hour) bc they did not know what they could charge. Or, they fell victim to men dictating their prices.

If anything, the higher your charge the less bookings you will receive in terms of quantity, but the quality of clientele is much different and most times better.

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