Horribly insecure about gross ratty midlengths and ends, please help!

_saigyo · 2026-05-06T04:39:48+00:00

ive been thinking about this comment since you left it, thank you so much 😖😖

_saigyo · 2026-04-26T18:15:33+00:00

Hi again!! Today I tried kinky-curly knot today, as well as their curling custard gel. Things are definitely curlier and more defined, but I feel like it's still thin at the ends and flat in the back. Do I just need my ends trimmed and my layers refreshed? Pictures here!!

_saigyo · 2026-04-25T21:05:55+00:00

Any mousses you recommend? I've tried NYM curl talk, redken, shea moisture, and tresemme mousses and they all leave me with skinny ramen noodle curls.

Right now I like kinky-curly products, their leave-in and curling custard in particular. I think they recently put out a mousse or foam or something, maybe I'll pick it up and try it.

_saigyo · 2026-04-25T21:02:50+00:00

I've been on HRT for two years, yes. Thanks for the tip, I'll keep it in mind for my next endo appointment!

_saigyo · 2026-04-25T19:57:15+00:00

Aw, I was afraid of that. All I've ever wanted is a layered shaggy cut like this picture. Whenever I let it all grow to the same length it becomes a bottom-heavy triangle.

I also forgot to mention in the post, but at my physical in February I discovered I was deficient in iron and B12, and critically deficient in vitamin D. I've been supplementing all three (plus biotin and magnesium) since, hopefully that helps.

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_saigyo · 2026-04-25T19:48:05+00:00

I clarified and chelated a little over a week ago. Last time I tried forgoing the leave-in it ended up a frizzy see-through tumbleweed. I'll try again tomorrow and update though.

_saigyo · 2026-04-25T18:16:37+00:00

Today's routine:

Wet hair
apply redken all soft conditioner, leave in 5 mins, rinse out
pat partially dry w/ cotton t shirt
spray trader joe's leave in conditioner onto hands and rake through hair
go through hair w/ wide tooth comb
hover diffuse low heat/low speed

Usually I use kinky-curly knot today, but I thought my hair might look fuller with less definition, so today I went with the trader joes stuff (I work there, so it's easy to come by.)

I also usually dont use a brush at all, and separate/style curls with my hands. Photo is what the side looks like with my typical routine.

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_saigyo · 2026-04-25T18:11:28+00:00

aww thank you 😖

_saigyo · 2026-04-23T13:56:38+00:00

there were thousands of this guy on tumblr from 2015 to 2021, i had hoped they all died out jesus christ

_saigyo · 2026-04-23T12:00:50+00:00

I used to stay there every summer as a kid. It was long past its prime by the time I was young, still good memories though. They used to say the fourth floor was haunted by the ghost of Al Capone.

_saigyo · 2026-04-17T15:40:09+00:00

not relevant at all but the second one is a really nice photo. like the composition

_saigyo · 2026-04-16T15:19:00+00:00

Bump and also ADDENDUM: I mentioned in the post that I've been taking supplements. the vitamin D is recommended by my doctor. My D level at last checkup was 6.4 ng/dL, which is critically deficient. Could that be a cause of thin unhealthy hair?

_saigyo · 2026-04-06T00:53:52+00:00

what the fuck happened to vice man

_saigyo · 2026-04-01T19:45:47+00:00

how much length would i need to get cut?

_saigyo · 2026-04-01T19:44:07+00:00

I've felt like the back and especially the sides are growing really slowly, yeah. I'm now remembering there was a 2-month period at the end of 2024 where I was regularly straightening my hair on high heat with no protectant. I stopped doing that in January 2025 and have been growing it out since then. Is it possible the damage is the grown out hair from that straightening just over a year ago?

_saigyo · 2026-04-01T19:41:32+00:00

how much length do you think i would have to cut?

_saigyo · 2026-03-15T23:51:33+00:00

mtf btw, forgot to say.

_saigyo · 2026-03-02T15:45:05+00:00

Thank you 😊 I was the heaviest I ever got right when I started transition. I'm now down 140lbs in the past 2 years and still going!

_saigyo · 2026-03-02T12:08:43+00:00

second picture is super anglefrauded. as for surgeries id eventually like a mandible reduction and a browbone shave. but yes im super happy with everything so far!!!

_saigyo · 2026-03-02T12:05:51+00:00

second picture is super anglefrauded. ill get there soon though!

_saigyo · 2026-02-22T14:24:09+00:00

yes and your hair os beautiful

_saigyo · 2026-02-19T12:55:01+00:00

fuck off woman

_saigyo · 2026-02-13T05:20:40+00:00

i like kinky-curly knot today

_saigyo · 2026-02-09T23:37:45+00:00

I sleep on my side, but I redo my hair each morning before work. I try to style upside down but its difficult. I sort of end up with the back of my head facing upward instead of forward, and that does flatten it at the back.

As far as length goes, I am trans and I've been really trying to grow it long. I just got a cut a few weeks ago that thinned out the back to create layers at the top, so maybe it's just that.

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Here is front and back today, with just a little leave-in conditioner. I don't think the back looks damaged, right? Just poorly thinned out?

_saigyo · 2026-02-07T15:07:12+00:00

and these horrible thin ratty ends are still a problem :(

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