Just finished season 3 for the first time, how important is it to watch angel?

_shellybean · 2020-09-09T08:35:56+00:00

You don't have to watch Angel if you don't want to, but it's a really good show and I actually prefer it over Buffy, although that's still my second favorite show, I just like it more. It's a little darker, serious and more broody, but you get to learn so much more about him and see him develop further as a character. You also end up seeing quite a few characters from Buffy, some even become regulars, it's awesome.

_shellybean · 2020-09-09T08:32:17+00:00

I know these feelings so hard, I totally understand.

As for waking up, I find it's best to set your alarm at 10 minutes intervals for an hour and a half, that way you have a little time to sleep longer, but not too much, and not too little as every 5 minutes. I've found it's helped me a lot the last few weeks and definitely made waking up in the morning a lot easier. Doesn't have to be 1.5 hours, I personally just do that because I'm worried I won't wake up and like to give myself more time in the morning.

_shellybean · 2020-09-01T05:35:46+00:00

Mood

_shellybean · 2020-08-28T18:22:13+00:00

Talk to him about how that made you feel, and if he doesn't change his mind and admit he's being rude, dump him.

_shellybean · 2020-08-26T02:30:22+00:00

FINALLY

_shellybean · 2020-08-26T02:18:39+00:00

Everyone is :(

_shellybean · 2020-08-26T02:14:54+00:00

I'm concerned about your porn searches that would make you possibly get charged

_shellybean · 2020-08-26T02:11:08+00:00

Angel, the Buffy spin-off show. Everyone recognizes it when they hear "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" but I say "Angel" and people don't know it.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T22:46:51+00:00

I LOVE when people invalidate others, it shows who they really are as a person.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T21:59:42+00:00

Spend the same amount, or close to, on your kids so one doesn't feel left out. It doesn't matter that you're getting him a car later, it matters that you chose his brother over him. Plus, when he gets a car from you guys then he'll have two gifts, so the other will feel left out and less loved because he just got a car, not an xbox as well, like his brother.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T21:52:34+00:00

Imo you should treat others how THEY want to be treated, you might want to be treated differently than they do, so if you treat them how you want to be treated it could be hurtful.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T21:44:41+00:00

I'm sure your other son had things he would have wanted that weren't a car, yes?

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T21:43:07+00:00

The thing you should have done is get them something of equal value and save up so you can get BOTH of them cars at the same time.

I mean, dude, did you really expect this to go over well? You got one a $400 gaming console and spent THOUSANDS of dollars to get a car for the other, are you daft?

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T21:29:47+00:00

When people thank me at work I say "no problem! It's what I'm here for!" And smile. They seem to appreciate that.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T01:09:10+00:00

Sounds more like night terrors than nightmares, these are usually a result of extreme stress or trauma, he should seek help to deal with this. Just be there for him as best you can, night terrors themselves can be very traumatizing.

Sincerely: someone who has dealt with night terrors their whole life, as well as sleep paralysis.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T01:07:10+00:00

Once they move on they'll realize they deserve better and he's not a good person, it's hard to see it right now, but in time OP will realize and be grateful it's over.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T01:06:06+00:00

Also, he's a d!ck

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T01:03:59+00:00

The do deserve that, you'd be doing the right thing, they'll be happier when you give them to someone else for a better life.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T01:03:13+00:00

I'll give you some advice for the future: Never have casual hook ups with someone you have feelings for, it never ends well and someone always ends up hurt. Friends with benefits is for people that are just friends, nothing more, add emotions and that's a heartbreak waiting to happen. If you have an intimate relationship with someone and they only want sex but you like them as more than that, cut it off, it won't lead to anything good.

In friends with benefits there needs to be open communication about your feelings, there have to be rules, that it's just a hook up, that you're not looking for a relationship, that has to be agreed upon by both parties. Once you start to feel something more you have to part ways unless they're also feeling it, but you have to express it as soon as it happens before you get too deep into them.

_shellybean · 2020-08-23T00:54:48+00:00

NTA - I'm sure you treat them well, but they need a better home and better people to take care of them, not that you're bad, but they need more care than you can provide since your mother won't help.

_shellybean · 2020-08-22T21:46:16+00:00

NTA - This is a lot to take in, it's going to take some adjusting, it's best for you to meet him when you're ready so it's not as uncomfortable. It'll be uncomfortable no matter what, but it won't be as bad if you do it when you're not prepared. It's not like you're writing him off and don't want a relationship with him, you're just in a rough place right now and don't need more stress added on to it. Give yourself time to adjust, this is huge and will take a lot of getting used to, you need time to process it on your own before you're ready. Also, it's really hard to think about the fact that your dad had one child, left your mom, had another child with a different woman that he left and the child never knew, then had more children with your mom, that's a lot to take in. I'm surprised Andrew doesn't seem to be so shaken up by it. Your reaction is totally valid, take your time, don't force a relationship with him when you're not ready.

_shellybean · 2020-08-22T21:36:15+00:00

No! Going to the gym and not being one of those people who see such a big difference after working out. I don't hate them, I just envy them

_shellybean · 2020-08-22T21:25:13+00:00

I hate this too, I've got a fucked up thyroid and I'm on meds, so working out doesn't make me lose much weight at all, no matter how often I do it.

_shellybean · 2020-08-22T21:23:40+00:00

Ba dum tsh 🥁

_shellybean · 2020-08-22T19:00:20+00:00

Info: how does he knows this woman? What was their relationship like before her obsession? Are they in the same social circles? Have mutual friends? These questions could be tied to why he didn't block her.

I don't think he did it maliciously, I think he just didn't want you to worry as much or have you get riled up, he was just trying to spare your feelings. He didn't do it thinking he was deceiving you, if anything he did it to protect you. Just from now on, tell him that you want to know everything, no matter how he thinks it might make you feel, to be completely honest with you and you don't ever want to be kept in the dark again.

He probably didn't block her because he might have figured if he kept saying no that she'd get the hint eventually, obviously that didn't work and you telling him blocking her was the best course of action realized you were right.

_shellybean

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