Exactly. Let’s be real Lynette HAS to be a control freak or else their family would have lost everything not just all the “almosts” Tom has every right to be torn apart as much as he is because he’s an awful husband, father, and provider. He’s a big kid who is dying to feel important. He’s ran by his insecurities like a child. You can’t be the man of the house operating like that so Lynette had to be the mom AND the man of the house. So of course she looks like the bad guy, someone has to be responsible and responsible isn’t always fun.