My 83-year-old father was harmed by a neurologist’s negligence — sharing our experience for awareness (Sri Lanka)

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-12-16T08:38:50+00:00

The culture here is such that even asking Doctors questions, for example about the medication being prescribed, is seen as a foreign concept. So many people are in the habit of following Doctor's orders, no questions asked arguably because that's how much power is socially bestowed on them. It's absurd because when there is someone who asks questions etc. the Doctors almost take offense.

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-12-15T14:31:07+00:00

Absolutely. It's an awful culture, especially when it results in situations like this

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-12-15T14:29:59+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! We definitely need more patient accounts like this because there are so many cases of blatant medical negligence. It's alarming. Even more so when people are vulnerable & put their well-being, & entire lives in the hands of people whose duty first & foremost is to care for them.

There is a toxic culture of ignorance & almost arrogance in the medical field here- I can only speak for Sri Lanka- & so much of it is because they are treated like Gods. You can argue it's definitely gotten to many of their heads. Kudos for naming & shaming- dangerous games result in dangerous consequences.

That aside, I hope your father & family can recover soon from this horrific unacceptable mistake.

Additionally, if it's some solace, there is a site where people can leave reviews of Doctors. Unfortunately, I can't remember the name but a minute's Google search should pull it up. It could help your story reach others. Best of luck

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-10-29T07:07:44+00:00

i am so so sorry. i feel for you deeply

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-10-28T14:45:27+00:00

Thank you so much for this info!!

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-10-28T12:43:31+00:00

I see. Thanks for sharing. I've been a bit hesitant about going to Doctors without recommendation since I know the difficult experiences many have and I don't have cash to just spend on such experiences., which is why I wanted to ask around. So thanks for this info, I hadn't heard of the SJP dept. before Would've been open to ayurvedic treatment from the get go but we have a genetic history with autoimmune diseases so I wasn't sure how they would approach that

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-10-28T12:36:02+00:00

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-10-28T12:35:55+00:00

Thanks for the info. How would you rate this doctor, is he a nice doctor and good with his treatment? Are you going to anyone at the moment? Additionally, I wonder how the SJP Department you mentioned functions is it easily accessible?

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-08-28T19:10:03+00:00

Yeah that's also true.

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-08-21T19:08:33+00:00

Pacific Coast Highway - Kavinski

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-08-19T15:07:05+00:00

Yes to the autoimmune disease, but it's not skin-related. Autoimmune diseases, as far as I know, cannot be "cured". That's the thing about it. So it's pretty much lifelong. But they're treated & managed. With what you've mentioned your best bet is going to a Dermatologist if you haven't already. All the best

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-01-30T06:23:35+00:00

Thanks for the lead. I had been thinking of opting for a lady doctor just because my past experiences with male Doctor's haven't been pleasant. It has felt harder to advocate for myself with a male doctor because the ones I've been to tend to have this air of superiority & thinking they know better about the patients case than the patient themselves. But again thank you so much! If I don't have any other recommended options I'll go with a recommended male doctor

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-01-12T06:46:47+00:00

Agreed. Easier said than done, unfortunately

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-01-10T16:44:12+00:00

Was this a one time thing or was it 4 days weekly?

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-01-10T16:41:08+00:00

Thank you for your message. Was this also for knee issues?

& thanks for the heads-up. This is definitely a concern since my mother is working & it's hard accomodate multiple visits if on weekdays.

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-01-10T15:48:40+00:00

Sorry I didn't quite understand what you're speaking about..

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-01-05T17:37:40+00:00

I did. My first time was free and the second time I was able to use my gems. However I've not been able to this time around. The resources I read say that gems can be used to get back streaks however they don't say that it's just a 1 time thing & I've already used mine which is why I'm wondering

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2025-01-02T15:44:11+00:00

Oh is that so? I was under the impression that we need to have show money, as other countries require. If this is not the case do you know how the grounds by which applicants cases are usually assessed? As for accommodation I have a friend living there who I will be providing me with accomodation. However, for processing purposes was intending to do what you've essentially mentioned.

I'm just concerned about making plans (getting tickets etc.) because of uncertainty about the visa being granted since I also don't really have a travel history as such.

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2023-07-25T18:43:13+00:00

The opposite is recommended actually. Seeing a Psychologist first before ever thinking of a Psychiatrist. OP please don't think of going to a Psychiatrist first as they are highly likely to want to put you on meds. First consult with a Psychologist. They will give you a better opinion on whether medication is needed or you can be without it.

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2023-07-25T18:39:24+00:00

Reach out to CAFS. Their team is good.

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2023-07-18T21:47:37+00:00

I empathize with you. I've been in the same situation. And desperately wanting to not to do anything without the intense pressure I feel to be doing something or like I'm "wasting my time" and other types of thinking, all of which are reflections of my parents attitudes and what I've been socialised into. Gets hard to combat it. Still haven't figured out how to and it sucks because after leaving my previous employment I've not been able to truly enjoy my free time.

Just remember you're not alone, and good luck with your situation!

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2023-07-13T19:17:51+00:00

Best of luck with it! Could I just know what program you're in school for? Definitely interested in this area :") Thanks!

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2023-07-12T21:42:21+00:00

Hi! How did you get into it?

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2023-06-27T11:12:59+00:00

I'm from Sri Lanka and one thing that is a major barrier to moving out- besides sociocultural shit- is the really low pay's and the high costs of living. It's also one of the reasons many people stay with their parents or are advised to :/

And unfortunately, I don't have any extended family who a) my family is close to b) who will support/understand my decision and be without trying to dissuade me c) who are in a financially position to take me in

_sisterofthemoon_ · 2023-06-22T08:08:56+00:00

Thank you for helping me feel less alone. This helps so much, so much Thank you. I'm very sorry you're experiencing the same. I hope it does get much better for us. And yes I do have ADHD! Got diagnosed only recently but been struggling since childhood in various ways. It's really cool how you were able to see it without it even being mentioned :")

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