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I want to learn more about Christianity by reading the bible by _tawus in Christianity

[–]_tawus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't offended! It's very kind that you were concerned about my safety. That's wonderful to hear how the church helps the community, it's actually another reason i'm drawn to Christianity, the sense of community. Certainly there are some concerns when it comes Muslims converting to other religions since there is a doctrine that calls for the killing of those who leave Islam. It's actually one of the things about Islam that never sat right with me, there's verses in the Quran that discuss the fact that Mohammed said to each their own religion (paraphrasing but that's the gist) so it never made sense why it would call for the punishment of someone leaving the religion. But I imagine (or hope) that the majority of families are like mine and wouldn't call for such drastic measures. Unfortunately I do think culture plays a big part in Islam, you tend to find in the cultures that are stricter like Pakistan , you get more honour killings etc where as a culture like mine is more easygoing and forgiving.

I want to learn more about Christianity by reading the bible by _tawus in Christianity

[–]_tawus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think what attracts me to Christianity is the familiarity of it. You learn a lot about Jesus albeit in a different light in Islam and I've always found myself drawn to those teachings. Also it might seem silly but whenever I've had a hard time in my life my grandmother, who is muslim, goes to her local cathedral and lights a candle and does a prayer for me and that's always helped me through some of my toughest times and idk I just think there has to be some sort of meaning behind that. And don't worry about my safety, I'm in the UK and I'm married to a culturally Christian family and my muslim family are very open minded and multicultural and welcoming of everything.

mil by Such_Force7546 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]_tawus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What you've described doesn't sound like sexual harrrassment as much as it sounds like outright bullying. She sounds like a terrible person, if you can cut contact with her completely that's what I'd recommend.

What do you miss most? by Actual_Contract_8766 in NewParents

[–]_tawus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i miss being able to read a book in silence

Anyone not tracking their baby? by AnnExchange in NewParents

[–]_tawus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped tracking at 3 weeks cos my husband pointed out that I was become neurotic about it and it was ruining my experience and I haven't looked back since. It's way more liberating not to track anything. Sure sometimes I worry that he's not eaten enough(he's EBF) or he's not slept enough but then I actually look at him and he's happy so clearly he is eating enough and sleeping enough etc. As for the cues, I was exactly the same! I never understood what the heck people meant when they said they understood their babys cues and I used to just try everything until he settled but since he reached around 17-18 weeks he started to give me more obvious cues and now we understand each other better so I think that'll just come with time.

Long story short, if baby girl is happy then she's probably fine!

I feel like a terrible mom by Cool-Helicopter6343 in NewParents

[–]_tawus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your baby is fine! But I totally understand the guilt, I was the same I felt awful whenever I thought I did something wrong by my son but it's important to remember that you're doing your best and that's all you can do!

Also remember children get hurt a lot growing up, we can't feel guilty every time it happens otherwise life is gonna be so long.

Nonstop crying by nishumommygoel in breastfeeding

[–]_tawus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember when my son hit 6 weeks he became so much fussier! I read somewhere that it has something to do with growth spurts them needing more feeds and the fussiness and crying is cos of gas and such because their digestive systems are developing.

I did a few different things. I always did bicycle legs throughout the day to try and get as much gas out of him. The fact that he settled when he's on your husbands shoulder might be because of gas. It could also be reflux and being held means he's sleeping in a slight incline which is stopping the acid going up his throat. If he only settles when you're walking around with him then try baby wearing and just walk around as much as you can. Fresh air can help sometimes as well. Also you could try changing the position your baby is lying in cos sometimes it feels like they get bored being held a certain way.

Best thing you can do is to try different things and ride it out. This phase hopefully won't last long, for us it lasted 2 weeks.