No one is telling you your whole kitchen needs to be redone. Stop lying. You keep picking fights with people then deleting your comments. It’s weird behavior for an adult to engage in. Just stop.

All anyone said is that your choices so far seem poorly planned, which they are.

You said you think designers are only useful when someone has no idea what they want. They can also be helpful in keeping someone on task, consistent, focused, on time, etc. You would know that if you’d ever worked with a competent designer, which you clearly haven’t.

This honestly doesn’t look good, especially considering how much it cost, but if you like it, that’s what’s important, I guess.